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I'm 14 and my grandmother has cancer.

jonanna
jonanna CSN Member Posts: 4
edited March 2014 in Emotional Support #1
i havent seen my grandmother in 2 weeks because she had chemo. when i saw her a few days ago she didn't look like she used to and it was scary. i want to act like nothing had happened but something did and i cant ignore that. i was wondering if anyone else went through this and if so what did you do?
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  • melzmom
    melzmom CSN Member Posts: 42
    #2
    Hi:

    I haven't gone through what you have. I had cancer and I am 37. Just love your grandmother and support her. Just see her for who she is. Hang in there---this isn't going to be easy for you or your family but believe in the higher power and just love your family throught this.

    My e-mail is Arogers899@ao.com. if you need to talk. We lost our grandfather to cancer in Feb. while I was going through my treatment so I understand.
    Lia
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  • crtsang
    crtsang CSN Member Posts: 102 Member
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    Why, exactly, do you want to act like nothing had happened?
    What did I do when this happened with my mother? I freaked out. I didn't know what to say. I didn't know what to do. I hung around and felt inadequate. She didn't even look like my mother at all. In a way, I couldn't believe she was.
    How did I handle it? I don't know that I really did, depending on what one means by "handling it". I tried to do anything that seemed as if it would help her be more comfortable. When she was too weak to talk, I sat with her and held her hand. For a while, she sometimes had the strength to smile at me, but that went away too.
    I cried a lot.
    What I wrote this time probably also isn't what you wanted to hear, but sometimes there simply isn't anything to do.
    Carol
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  • crtsang
    crtsang CSN Member Posts: 102 Member
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    Best answer just occurred to me.
    I did my best. So will you.
    Carol
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  • jonanna
    jonanna CSN Member Posts: 4
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    melzmom said:

    Hi:

    I haven't gone through what you have. I had cancer and I am 37. Just love your grandmother and support her. Just see her for who she is. Hang in there---this isn't going to be easy for you or your family but believe in the higher power and just love your family throught this.

    My e-mail is Arogers899@ao.com. if you need to talk. We lost our grandfather to cancer in Feb. while I was going through my treatment so I understand.
    Lia

    thanks. i know it will be hard. sorry u lost your grandfather.
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