Under 30 with BC ....

ludasue
ludasue Member Posts: 98
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
I was wondering if there is anyone out there under the age of 30 at the time of diagnosis? I was 29, barely. I have made friends with some women who were considerably older than me, but it's not easy to find someone to talk to that is as young as me.

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  • 24242
    24242 Member Posts: 1,398
    I think you have found a good place to begin. I too thought the same as you but soon found that sharing of experiences and being understood most important. I was 36 at the time I began getting sick and I realize that is more likely for women to find lumps and not have any ill feelings or pain. We are all different. I hope you are able to connect with what you are looking for hope to see you in chat sometime
  • ludasue
    ludasue Member Posts: 98
    24242 said:

    I think you have found a good place to begin. I too thought the same as you but soon found that sharing of experiences and being understood most important. I was 36 at the time I began getting sick and I realize that is more likely for women to find lumps and not have any ill feelings or pain. We are all different. I hope you are able to connect with what you are looking for hope to see you in chat sometime

    Thanks for the welcome. I have put off looking for any type of support for some time now, but have finally realized that talking to other members of this club I never wanted to join may help the long term emotional strain. I am 33 now, a 4 year survivor. My bc was particularly aggressive, 4.0+ tumor size, 1-2 pos nodes, ER pos, HER 2+, blah blah blah ... I had 12 rounds of the delicious A/C cocktail which I chased with 5-FU each time. Then 7 weeks of radiation. My children, who were 9 and 3 at the time, were the only reasons I got up each morning and was able to survive the treatment. I was not even remotely sick until they started getting me well. I found the lump myself in the shower while bathing, I was not looking for it or doing a self check. By the grace of God, I found a surgeon willing to take it out. No one wanted to do anything because I was only 29 they said I positively could NOT have bc .... hmmmm .... guess I showed them, huh .. lol. All is well now, aside from the neverending recurrent pain at the site of the surgeries. They have since tried to tell me it's in my liver, lungs, bones, and ovaries ... further tests revealed no metastisis anywhere ... my onc is the greatest ... hates to scare me, but is always scared for me. Oh well, thanks for letting me vent! I think I needed it!
  • jeancmici
    jeancmici Member Posts: 665 Member
    ludasue said:

    Thanks for the welcome. I have put off looking for any type of support for some time now, but have finally realized that talking to other members of this club I never wanted to join may help the long term emotional strain. I am 33 now, a 4 year survivor. My bc was particularly aggressive, 4.0+ tumor size, 1-2 pos nodes, ER pos, HER 2+, blah blah blah ... I had 12 rounds of the delicious A/C cocktail which I chased with 5-FU each time. Then 7 weeks of radiation. My children, who were 9 and 3 at the time, were the only reasons I got up each morning and was able to survive the treatment. I was not even remotely sick until they started getting me well. I found the lump myself in the shower while bathing, I was not looking for it or doing a self check. By the grace of God, I found a surgeon willing to take it out. No one wanted to do anything because I was only 29 they said I positively could NOT have bc .... hmmmm .... guess I showed them, huh .. lol. All is well now, aside from the neverending recurrent pain at the site of the surgeries. They have since tried to tell me it's in my liver, lungs, bones, and ovaries ... further tests revealed no metastisis anywhere ... my onc is the greatest ... hates to scare me, but is always scared for me. Oh well, thanks for letting me vent! I think I needed it!

    Welcome Ludasue,

    >>I was not even remotely sick until they started getting me well.

    Isn't that ironic - so many women are feeling fine until they are on the road to health ! You expressed it so well.

    It gives others optimism to know you are doing so well for 4 years now. I know what you mean about the soreness at the surgery sites - 'they' tell me I should expect to live with it...and of course, it beats the alternative.

    Stay in touch, and continued good health.
    Jean
  • maggie
    maggie Member Posts: 71
    Hi! I am Maggie. I was diagnosed with very aggressive breast cancer at the age of 30. It was in Aug. 1999. At time my son was 7 years old and my daughter 2 months old. I would love to chat with you one night. Feel free to email me at this site or at [email protected]. Take care and May God Bless you, Maggie
  • pst5yrs
    pst5yrs Member Posts: 1
    Hey there! I was 25 years old when diagnosed. That was 5 years and 2 beautiful daughters ago! I understand your frustration in not being able to find someone closer to your age to talk to. There are different issues for younger women fighting breast cancer. I'm here anytime you want to chat!
  • gardengrl
    gardengrl Member Posts: 2
    Hi there!
    My name is Kim. I'm 35 now (well, I'll turn 35 in two days so close enough!) and I was diagnosed with inflammatory breast CA at age 25. It's since spread to my bones but I've outlived an intial 6-month prognosis.
    I, too, have had such a tough time finding anything in common with all the women I've spoken with, most of whom are much older than I am, even now. They are WONDERFUL women, but I'm single, no children, and have been dealing with a "terminal" disease now for almost 10 years. Please feel free to e-mail me at any time at [email protected].

    Regards,
    Kim
  • dewbear
    dewbear Member Posts: 7
    hi, i was 30 years old when diagnosed so i'm close to your age. i won't be 31 till may. sometimes it's hard to find younger people that have gone through this but i have a survivor buddy that i met through the social worker at the cancer center i went to. that made treatments a lot easier. so i can relate to you. have you had surgery/treatments yet? i'd love to chat with you be a friend.
  • dewbear
    dewbear Member Posts: 7
    hi,

    i forgot to tell you, my name is megan and if want to e-mail me, my address is [email protected]. take care and i'm here anytime.
  • vvalentine
    vvalentine Member Posts: 3
    My daughter was 28 when she was diagnosed. That was two years ago and she would love to find someone to talk to. I will forward your message to her.
    Good bless you!