My Husband's Battle is Over

afraidinindy
afraidinindy Member Posts: 80
edited March 2014 in Colorectal Cancer #1
With a heavy heart, I must tell you that my husband lost his fight with cancer early yesterday morning. I'm grateful that he is no longer in pain. On the otherhand I'm broken-hearted and hurting terribly. I don't know how I'm going to make it if the Lord doesn't help me. I feel like a candidate for a breakdown. Please continue to keep me in your prayers as I start this journey alone.
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  • foxy
    foxy Member Posts: 188 Member
    I am so so sorry, I have been watching every day for a post from you, you are in my thoughts and prayers constantly. I have been so very moved by your posts. Foxy.
  • fedester
    fedester Member Posts: 753 Member
    i am so sorry to hear of your loss.
    you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
    be well
    bruce
  • pjenks57
    pjenks57 Member Posts: 112
    I am so very sorry for your loss. I know exactly how you feel and I also know that the Lord WILL help you in this time of grief and pain. Reach out to Him and you will find peace and comfort. That is the only thing that has helped get me thru the same thing just a few short months ago. You should also reach out to those that love you and that includes all of us here in this site.

    Take care dear afraid and if you need to talk I will always be there for you.

    God bless you and yours
    Paula
  • ron50
    ron50 Member Posts: 1,723 Member
    You will never be alone with us here . One part of your life has ended,your husband stayed with you as long as he could, heaven knows it never seems long enough and in the end the relief of release is far better than the pain of his suffering. Time will heal. You have my deepest sympathy and my wish for peace and eventual happiness Ron.
  • mindy10
    mindy10 Member Posts: 182 Member
    Im so sorry for your loss. I know how scary it is. My mom just loss my dad 3 months ago and she feels very alone and overwhelmed. Im glad you have your daughter she will help you through this. I tell my mom she is not alone, she has us. Its so hard to lose a husband and im sure you dont think this but in time it does get better. The hardest part for me losing my dad is I cant get the thoughts of his last days out of my mind because he suffered so much. I do believe in time it will get better and it will get better for you. Mindy
  • Patrusha
    Patrusha Member Posts: 487
    I am so saddened by this news, though glad you are taking some comfort knowing that your husband is no longer in pain. You're not alone, Indy. It just feels that way right now. You are in my prayers.
  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
    Oh, Lois....
    I have been praying for you, and looking for your post, although dreading this news. Dearheart, I can only say I am sending my strongest hugs and that I KNOW you will endure!
    When we lose someone dear to us, our world turns sideways, and, for a while, the future seems pretty empty and dim. Give yourself some time to cry, and yell, and shake your fist. Even Job got angry...but then said basically "Thy will be done".
    We all live with the fear of the beast catching up with us...I, personally, only hope that my passing is without pain. This you, with a kind heart, made possible for your husband. It was the highest act of love.
    Grieve for his loss, but also remember to celebrate his life. And the wonderful ways in which he touched this earth....you, his daughter...all the people in your joint world.

    I am sorry for your loss, but the Lord has already helped you in countless ways, have faith and trust in Him.
    "Here are my hands, Lord, use them by your will"

    Hugs, Kathi
  • Kanort
    Kanort Member Posts: 1,272 Member
    I am so sorry for your loss. As time eases your pain, may your memories of happier times with him help sustain you. I'm keeping you and your family in my prayers.

    Love,
    Kay
  • betina61
    betina61 Member Posts: 642 Member
    I'm am so sorry for your lost,but he was suffering and in a way you have to feel relief that all his suffering came to an end and now he is with the Lord and some day you will reunite with him, ask God for peace in your heart and I am sure that you are going to start feeling better, and as everybody is telling you you will never be alone this is your family forever. Lots of hugs. Betina
  • themis01
    themis01 Member Posts: 167
    I am sorry to hear your news. Take it day by day, it is the only way my dad has made it the 6 months since my mom has died. Lean on your daughter and remember the good times whenever you can.
    Erika
  • alihamilton
    alihamilton Member Posts: 347 Member
    I am so sorry to hear your sad news and my prayers and thoughts are with you at this time You were a wonderful support to your husband and I know he valued your love.
  • alta29
    alta29 Member Posts: 435 Member
    God bless you and your family....
  • AuthorUnknown
    AuthorUnknown Member Posts: 1,537 Member
    Dear Lois,

    I am so sorry for your loss. Ron is in the better place now with the Lord and he is not suffering any longer. He is now free. And one day you will meet again. I know you loved your husband very much and this love you need to remember and cherish.

    I feel your pain. Only time will heal. So, now take your time in grieving. Maybe your church has some kind of support group.

    The Lord is with you, He will help you through this.

    If you want to talk you can call or e-mail me any time.

    May God bless Ron's soul and you and help you.

    Eleonora
  • joyceann619
    joyceann619 Member Posts: 33 Member
    Dear afraidinindy,
    Find comfort in knowing that your husband is out of pain and is now watching over you and your daughter. He will send you signs that he is OK. Pay attention and you will notice them. My mother passed on 6/13 of this year and I can't even tell you how many times the #13 has popped up in our every day life. Its kinda neat. For instance, my son ran in his first cross country meet a few weeks ago and came in 13th place! My daughter and I recently flew in an airplace and we sat in row 13. I know that may makes others nervous but I just felt comfort knowing that she would help us have a safe plane ride.

    The Lord will help you and if you need to do it have a breakdown. Release it and let it all out.

    In support and prayers,
    Joyce
  • ruggersocks
    ruggersocks Member Posts: 78 Member
    I am so sorry for your loss. May God be a beacon of light during this overwhelming time of grief.

    Hugs and prayers,
    Cheryl
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  • Betsydoglover
    Betsydoglover Member Posts: 1,248 Member
    Dear Indy -

    I am so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine your pain, but hopefully you can take comfort in the good memories and know that your husband is no longer suffering.

    You and your family will be in my thoughts.
    Take care,
    Betsy
  • AuthorUnknown
    AuthorUnknown Member Posts: 1,537 Member
    I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. There are times we do not understand why we have to lose the ones we love. Three years ago I lost my Mom and neice the same week. I found that God cares. He cares for you too. I will continue to pray for you. Please think of us as your family. We are here for you.

    Betty
  • JADot
    JADot Member Posts: 709 Member
    I am so sorry to hear about your husband's passing. Do you have relatively nearby to comfort you? I can't even begin to imagine what you must be going through right now, but please take comfort of the thought that your husband is no longer in pain.

    Take good care of yourself.

    Ying
  • Moesimo
    Moesimo Member Posts: 1,072 Member
    My deepest sympathy to you and your family. Your husband is at peace now.

    Maureen

    this disease really sucks.