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Editgrl
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I've been in touch with Becca's sister and I have sad news.  Becca passed away yesterday morning with her dad and sister at her side.  Rachel, her sister, wanted me to share the news here and wanted to make sure that we all know how much Becca valued our kindness and support.  Memorial arrangements are pending, but I will share them here when they are finalized.  I don't know if any of us are in the Bloomington, Indiana area.

Every time a woman passes, it feels like a piece of my heart does, too.  

 

Nellasing
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Thank you Editgrl so much for sharing- I am heartbroken as Becca started right around the same time I did... her dance with NED was just not long enough!!!  It's so hard to lose one of our sisters!!!!  Just can't wrap my head around how these things go...   (((HUGS))) to all

PS  How are you doing since Germany?  Anything new?  Miss you <3

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Oh no! It is so sad:( Thank you for sharing this heartbreaking news with us.

MAbound
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I was just thinking yesterday that it's been a while since she posted anything and was wondering how she was doing. She was missed, but I figured she was just doing what she needed to be doing. I couldn't believe when she had a recurrence so soon after frontline and now I'm absolutely stunned how quickly it got the better of her! This is such sad, sad news and I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around it. She was such a strong and encouraging person, I wanted better than this outcome for her! Cry Peace, Becca...you will be so missed by many.

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I was out of town and off the grid. Flying home yesterday I had a thought: wonder how Becca's doing, hope everything is OK. It was a strange random thought which certainly didn't prepare me for what I found when I got home. Godspeed, dear friend. This was FAR too soon and we're all the lesser without you. B

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Thank you for sharing, Chris.  I am just in shock.  She lived in the same town as me and we had talked on the phone re: radiation.  I just cannot believe this.  So incredibly sad.  I would like to attach her beautiful, smiling face one more time for everyone.

I live in Indianapolis, just a few hours away.

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Thank you for posting the photo so we can remember her and pray for her family for comfort.

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Such sad news! Chris, thanks so much for letting us know. I agree, each loss takes a piece of our hearts with them.

Thanks NoTime for the picture. I always liked that one of her too.

I hope someday very soon, there truly is a cure for this and all other nasty cancers. Stay strong everyone!

Love and Hugs,

Cindi

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Oh my I am so sad to here your news.  Thank you so much for sharing it though.  I  am typing this and crying at the same time.  Its so unexpected.  She was such a fighter and I will deeply miss her.  

Janae

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I'm devastated by this news. May God rest her soul. She and I were going through therapy about the same time and had similar diagnosis although I don't have USPC, Stage3, Grade3 adenocarcinoma acts similar. Had my CT scan Thursday and seeing oncologist and surgeon tomorrow. I hate cancer. She was last online on August 17. I can't help but wonder what happened to our dear sister. My heart is broken. 

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thanks for sharing.  Sad, sad news.  I don't understand this monster.  There is no rhyme or reason to any of this.  We will all just keep fighting on and hope and pray a cure comes soon.

Ahugs and prayers, Lou Ann

takingcontrol58
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Becca,

May she rest in peace.  I really thought she would beat this. She is in God's hands, as are we all.

Takingcontrol58 

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So sad, tears falling. She was such an inspiration as all you sweet ladies are. So thankful to have found you all after my UPSC diagnosis. Praying for her family. Thank you for letting us know.

Sandrine04
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This is not possible, I am so sad.

I also look at forums here in France and this month many women have died.

I am angry with cancer

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RIP Becca. Such very sad news. Please send her family my deepest condolences. Kim

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Cry  My heart hurts to hear this.

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It's hard to hear when someone passes. I don't post often but do read the posts frequently. Becca had a lot to share and I learned a lot from her postings.

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Thank you for giving us the news, Chris.  It is hard to see this and my heart is breaking for her family.  Rest in peace, Becca <3

Love,

Eldri

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I has taken me nearly three days to respond to this. I'm still having trouble accepting it. MAbound expressed my feelings better than I can. Thank you for letting us know, Editgrl. Has her obituary been published yet?

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Thanks for letting us know Editgirl and thanks for the photo NoTime.    Words cannot express.

 

cheerful
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I am very sorry and saddened to hear of Becca's passing and I will keep Becca in my thoughts and prayers.  

 

Cheerful

a/k/a Jane

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Becca's sister just posted this on her Facebook page:

A memorial gathering for Rebecca Tolen will be held on Friday, September 15, at the Reception Center at Day and Deremiah-Frye Funeral Home, 4150 E 3rd St, Bloomington, IN 47401. Visitation with family will start at 5:00 pm, with a service at 6:00 pm and reception to follow. Memorial contributions may be made to the American Cancer Society.

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THank you so much, Chris! I've been wondering and wondering...

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Thank you SO MUCH, Chris.  I live in Indianapolis and may just make the trip to pay my respects.  It would be my honor to represent all you ladies.

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but if you can that would be so meaningful. Our words and thoughts offer much but I often wish I could do more. 

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Thank you Chris. I went to Facebook and looked at her public pages. What a lovely woman!  I don't mean to be a stalker but I then went to LinkedIn and found her. She had her PhD in anthropology. I did not find an obituary. I'm so sad. I hate cancer!  We feel like we know each other but we just know about our cancers. We don't know about the very rich lives cancer took away. 

Red Corvette
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So true Cheese. We know each other by our medical conditions but not much about the impact we have and make on our families, friends, co-workers, and the world. Very sad to hear about Becca. Mrs. Red and I always enjoyed her kind words and thoughts. RIP Dr. Becca.

Red

 

rcdeman
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So devastated to hear this. :( Becca was one of the women who had a similar diagnose as my mom, UPSC Stage IIIc2. Her diagnosis was about 4-5 months earlier and she went through much of the same journey as us. When she was NED in Dec 2016, I was so hopeful and encouraged, but within a few months after a clear CT scan, it seems like her cancer recurred with a vengeance. I just want to mourn right now because her passing is really hitting me hard. Fervent prayers to her family and friends.

Rebecca

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Dear ladies.  I just wanted to let you all know I went down and had the chance to meet Rebecca's dad, sister, and aunt.  What lovely people.  

I told them who I was and why I was there.  Her sister wanted me to make sure you all know how much Rebecca cherished us and her sister was so happy that she had found us.  

It was my honor to represent you ladies and I wanted to let you know.

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I'm so glad you were able to go! Thank you for representing us. Blessings on Rebecca and her family. B

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Thank you for going and representing use,,

Love

Eldri  

Love

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Thanks So much!

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Thank you NoTime.  I'm sure it meant a lot to Becca's family that you took time out of your day to be there.

Love and Hugs,

Cindi

janaes
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Thank you No Time for representing us

Nellasing
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Thank you - I'm sure it was a comfort knowing we were all sending our love.  (((HUGS)))

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No Time.  You are a dear. 

janaes
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thank you 

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What a kind and thoughtful gesture.

bluesmama
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I've been lurking for awhile and I didn't sleep well after reading about Becca's passing. I always checked her updates. Very sad news. RIP Becca.

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Hard to process the emotions when I learn that one of the women posting here has passed. From her posts it was clear that she was a very kind and caring woman. If only there had been  some treatment that could have allowed her more time to enjoy life, family, friends. She so deserved it. Cancer is indeed a cruel disease!

 

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