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Uncle Buddy is soaring with the angels!

UncleBuddy
UncleBuddy Member Posts: 1,019
edited July 2016 in Colorectal Cancer #1

It is with great sadness that I annouce the passing of my sweet brother. He passed away at home yesterday. I will be back once I can pull myself together. Hugs to all!

Lin

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  • jen2012
    jen2012 Member Posts: 1,607
    edited July 2016 #2
    Hugs Lin.  I'm very sorry.  

    Hugs Lin.  I'm very sorry.   I hope your dad is okay.   Know that you did more for him than many siblings would have.  You were great support for him. 

  • lizard44
    lizard44 Member Posts: 409
    edited July 2016 #3
    So Sorry, Lin

    Even when you  expect it,  the death of a loved one is  hard to deal with. My thoughts are with you and your family.

  • JanJan63
    JanJan63 Member Posts: 2,478
    edited July 2016 #4
    Oh no, I'm so very sorry Lin.

    Oh no, I'm so very sorry Lin. I hope you are able to find strength and peace. Big hugs.

    Jan

  • Lovekitties
    Lovekitties Member Posts: 3,364
    edited July 2016 #5
    Sincere condolances

    I know you are heart broken about your brother's passing. 

    You did a wonderful job of seeing to his needs both physically and emotionally.

    I hope that you and your family can find healing in the memories you shared with him.

    I especially hope that your father can handle not only the loss of his son, but also the loss of his home-mate. 

    Hugs and prayers for you all,

    Marie who loves kitties

  • wolfen
    wolfen Member Posts: 1,324
    edited July 2016 #6
    Lin

    I am so very sorry. You are in my thoughts. May this Irish blessing be of some comfort.

     

    May the road rise to meet you.

    May the wind be always at your back.

    May the sun shine warm upon your face,

    the rains fall soft upon your fields and,

    until we meet again, may God hold you in

    the palm of his hand.

     

    Take care,

    Karen

     

  • beaumontdave
    beaumontdave Member Posts: 1,173 **
    edited July 2016 #7
    Lin, I'm so sorry. Buddy's at

    Lin, I'm so sorry. Buddy's at peace, now I hope you and your family can find some.......................................Dave

  • Trubrit
    Trubrit Member Posts: 5,529 **
    edited July 2016 #8
    Sweet Lin

    beloved and caring sister. My heart weeps with you at this time.  

    Your brother will forever be with you, and I do hope that soon, the memories will be of the wonderful years and not his years of struggling with the Cancers. 

    You have my heart, dear forum and FB friend. 

    SUE

  • MS2014
    MS2014 Member Posts: 58
    edited July 2016 #9
    Very Sorry

    So sorry to read about the passing of your beloved brother

    You must be proud of everything you did for him. Unfortunatelly sometimes our efforts can't stop what is inevitable.

    I truly know you will take care of your family but please Take care of yourself

    Big hughs to you and your family

  • Cathleen Mary
    Cathleen Mary Member Posts: 827
    edited July 2016 #10
    MS2014 said:

    Very Sorry

    So sorry to read about the passing of your beloved brother

    You must be proud of everything you did for him. Unfortunatelly sometimes our efforts can't stop what is inevitable.

    I truly know you will take care of your family but please Take care of yourself

    Big hughs to you and your family

    Lin, I am so sorry.  Everyone

    Lin, I am so sorry.  Everyone should be blessed with a sister like you. May you know peace and strength these difficult days.

    hugs,

    CM

  • UncleBuddy
    UncleBuddy Member Posts: 1,019
    Thank you!

    It has been rough. The wake is Monday and the funeral is Tuesday. The hardest part was looking for photos for the funeral home to put on their website. It's amazing that I'm not in any of the pics because I'm always the one behind the camera.

    Thank you all for your kind thoughts and prayers. I will post soon and tell you all that has happened.

    Lin

  • vtspa6
    vtspa6 Member Posts: 172
    Truly sorry for your loss. 

    Truly sorry for your loss.  He is at peace.

  • LindaK.
    LindaK. Member Posts: 506
    Peace

    Lin, I'm so sorry to read about your brother.  I'm glad you were able to keep him home and I'm sure he was peaceful there with his family at his side.  You did a great job taking care of him. 

    Linda

  • marbleotis
    marbleotis Member Posts: 715
    So Sorry

    I am so sorry for your loss.  You are a wonderful caregiver. May you all have peace.

  • LivinginNH
    LivinginNH Member Posts: 1,456
    Dear Lin,

    Dear Lin,

    My sincere condolences on the passing of your dear brother.  I know that he meant the world to you, but please take some comfort that he's no longer in pain.  You were an extraordinary caregiver to him and I'm certain that he appreciated everything that you did for him.

    With sympathy,

    Cynthia

  • Annabelle41415
    Annabelle41415 Member Posts: 6,712 **
    edited July 2016 #16
    Sorry

    Sorry to hear that.  You took very good care of him and pray that you have comfort during this difficult time.  Kim

  • traci43
    traci43 Member Posts: 773
    edited July 2016 #17
    with sympathy

    Lin, Your brother fought well and you were a huge help to him.  He's at rest now and I hope you take comfort in that.  I hope you find peace in the many happy memories you have of him.  Traci

  • UncleBuddy
    UncleBuddy Member Posts: 1,019
    Thank you!

    Thank you for the kind words. It has been very difficult. On top of losing my brother, we're trying to figure out what to do about dad. We found a great assisted living facility near us, but it will take some time to get him in there. My sister and I have been taking turns staying with him but today we have the same aide who cared for my brother coming in to help dad. I hope it's comfort for him. dad and my brother both loved him.

    Once I can put more than a few sentences together without crying, I will come back. For now, I need a little happiness. I'm heading to see my granddaughters later. 

  • annalexandria
    annalexandria Member Posts: 2,571
    I'm so sorry, Lin.

    May the passage of time bring with it a little peace to you and your family. I know the memories you have of a wonderful brother will help.

    Big hugs~AA

  • Phil64
    Phil64 Member Posts: 838
    edited August 2016 #20
    So sorry for your loss Lin.

    So sorry for your loss Lin. Sending love, light, and prayers your way. May love overflow on you during this difficult time. 

  • danker
    danker Member Posts: 1,276

    Thank you!

    Thank you for the kind words. It has been very difficult. On top of losing my brother, we're trying to figure out what to do about dad. We found a great assisted living facility near us, but it will take some time to get him in there. My sister and I have been taking turns staying with him but today we have the same aide who cared for my brother coming in to help dad. I hope it's comfort for him. dad and my brother both loved him.

    Once I can put more than a few sentences together without crying, I will come back. For now, I need a little happiness. I'm heading to see my granddaughters later. 

    Sorry

    I just learned of your brother's passing. As you said he is with the angels! God bless your family.

  • NewHere
    NewHere Member Posts: 1,346 **
    edited August 2016 #22
    I Am So Sorry

    Lin I did not see this until today.  I am so sorry for your loss.  Thoughts are with you and your family.

  • ellend
    ellend Member Posts: 109
    Sorry for your loss

    I am very sorry to hear about your brother.  I hope you and your family find peace.

  • UncleBuddy
    UncleBuddy Member Posts: 1,019
    edited August 2016 #24
    jen2012 said:

    Hugs Lin.  I'm very sorry.  

    Hugs Lin.  I'm very sorry.   I hope your dad is okay.   Know that you did more for him than many siblings would have.  You were great support for him. 

    Thanks Jen!

    Dad is doing better than I am. It hit me like a ton of bricks. I appreciate your kind words. I know I did what I could, but it never felt like it was enough. 

  • UncleBuddy
    UncleBuddy Member Posts: 1,019
    lizard44 said:

    So Sorry, Lin

    Even when you  expect it,  the death of a loved one is  hard to deal with. My thoughts are with you and your family.

    Yup!

    It's not easy. I've been dealing with dad and all the after stuff, so i don't feel like I've had the chance to even grieve yet.

  • UncleBuddy
    UncleBuddy Member Posts: 1,019
    JanJan63 said:

    Oh no, I'm so very sorry Lin.

    Oh no, I'm so very sorry Lin. I hope you are able to find strength and peace. Big hugs.

    Jan

    Thanks Jan.

    Hugs back at you!

  • UncleBuddy
    UncleBuddy Member Posts: 1,019

    Sincere condolances

    I know you are heart broken about your brother's passing. 

    You did a wonderful job of seeing to his needs both physically and emotionally.

    I hope that you and your family can find healing in the memories you shared with him.

    I especially hope that your father can handle not only the loss of his son, but also the loss of his home-mate. 

    Hugs and prayers for you all,

    Marie who loves kitties

    Thanks Marie

    It's so weird walking into their apartment and not seeing his smiling face. I miss him terribly.

    Dad is doing well. We hired back the aide who took care of my brother. Now I get a little peace while we wait for dad to get into the assisted living place.

  • UncleBuddy
    UncleBuddy Member Posts: 1,019
    Trubrit said:

    Sweet Lin

    beloved and caring sister. My heart weeps with you at this time.  

    Your brother will forever be with you, and I do hope that soon, the memories will be of the wonderful years and not his years of struggling with the Cancers. 

    You have my heart, dear forum and FB friend. 

    SUE

    Thank Sue!

    My heart is broken. Although I knew it would happen eventually, I didn't think it was going to happen so soon. It was awful! I'm happy that we fought to let him die at home. The hospice nurse was pressuring my sister to send him to a facility but I wouldn't back down. I knew what he wanted and I wasn't letting him die in a hospital setting.

    Thank you for your kind words. I appreciate your friendship.

    Lin

  • UncleBuddy
    UncleBuddy Member Posts: 1,019
    wolfen said:

    Lin

    I am so very sorry. You are in my thoughts. May this Irish blessing be of some comfort.

     

    May the road rise to meet you.

    May the wind be always at your back.

    May the sun shine warm upon your face,

    the rains fall soft upon your fields and,

    until we meet again, may God hold you in

    the palm of his hand.

     

    Take care,

    Karen

     

    Thanks Karen

    I love this blessing. :)

  • UncleBuddy
    UncleBuddy Member Posts: 1,019
    edited August 2016 #30

    Lin, I'm so sorry. Buddy's at

    Lin, I'm so sorry. Buddy's at peace, now I hope you and your family can find some.......................................Dave

    Thanks Dave

    He fought a hard fight. He's my hero! I'm glad he's no longer suffering but I miss the big guy!

  • fedester
    fedester Member Posts: 753
    edited August 2016 #31
    So sorry

    So sorry for your loss.