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Dec 11, 2020 - 7:26 am
This site was a tremendous help and the beginning of our journey. Everyone is different but when I was going through it I wanted examples of timelines. Here is ours: 12/4/2012 hubby had cancerous tumor removed from his kidney. 6/25/2014 Stage 4 advanced and aggressive.
6/25/2020 oncologist said treatment is no longer working. Hospice came to our house to register him.
07/09/2020 oxygen use daily.
9/29/2020 He was still independent, walking, talking, driving, showering all on his own.
10/10 started using wheelchair 10/13 hospital bed delivered 10/15 bed-ridden 10/23 hospice nurse said she will start visiting twice a week. 10/24 mind still alert with a little confusion. 10/26 last bowel movement. started soft food diet. 10/28 catheter 10/30 a.m. 2 oz pudding/last meal; last time he spoke. 10/30 nurse assessed not active. 10/30 4:00 p.m. not communicating/just mumbles. 10/31 nurse assessed not active dying 11/1 4:00 p.m. nurse assessed he is now active dying; She recommended inpatient hospice to make him more comfortable. They could make him comfortable and release him back home. 7:00 p.m. they transported him. 10:00 p.m. the nurse said he could be here 2 more weeks but there are no guarantees. she urged me to go home and get some sleep. I had been giving him comfort meds every 3-4 hours for about 48 hours. 11:00 p.m. I got home while his daughter stayed. 11/2 2:00 a.m. passed away
Sending much love and light on everyone's journey. 💔❤ |
Joined: Nov 2016
Sorry to hear about this
May good memories and the love you shared keep you comforted💕
Joined: Jun 2014
thank you for your kind words
thank you for your kind words. <3
Joined: Feb 2009
A sad but, tender story.
And so very touching for you to record your journey for us. Thanks from the bottom of my heart.
Following my second bout of surgery in 2006, I took the 13 week Hospice volunteer training. The who, what, when, how and why of Hospice care, including a visit to a mortuary and the back rooms. I was curious as to what I, personally would go through when the time came. And it helped immensely when my husband's mother was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer a few years ago.
She was in assisted living, so most of the physical care was done for her. But as a family member, she had her own built-in hospice volunteer, until the final two weeks when Hospice care had to be called in.
It brings tears up...she died 50 years and to the hour that we were all celebrating Dave's and my wedding.
pause... Again thanks, and I'm so sorry for your loss. Not a journey we want to face.
Hugs, donna_lee
Joined: Jun 2014
It's so good to see your name
It's so good to see your name pop up. I believe you were on this site when I was actively posting. I see other people who have been here a long time too.
I love that you volunteered at Hospice. Some of us are just doers and we just take the bull by the horns of life.
My Mom is in assisted living. When I talk to her some of her symptoms are just sounding too familiar.
It's unfortunate that it sounds like you have a lot of experience in this area. Experience you never wanted to have.
Hugs right back at ya!
Joined: Oct 2020
really sorry
May the sadness you have now be replaced in the future with only happy memories.
Joined: Jan 2019
I'm so sorry-
He was lucky to have you. Wishing you peace.
Joined: Jul 2016
So sorry for your loss. I
So sorry for your loss. I lost my hubby of 30 years in March and this is not easy. Treasure your moments together. God bless.
Joined: Jun 2014
thank you all: tugguy eug91
thank you all: tugguy eug91 Canadian sandy!! hugs on your journey
Joined: Nov 2014
Very sorry to hear that...
Very sorry to hear that... You were a great help for your hubby. I hope your pain will subside and only warm memories will remain
Hugs,
Alla
Joined: Jun 2014
thank you for the kind words.
thank you for the kind words. I remember you from when I was active on this site. I hope you and your loved one are doing well. hugs right back to you!
Joined: Apr 2020
Sorry for your loss,no words
Sorry for your loss,no words young healthy
I understand he has small mass 1 stage in 2012,and after it come back in aggressive form?I scary because I had a small mass and 3 stage, and also aggressive,looks like here is no hope
Joined: Jul 2016
Virtual hug
I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sure your presence in his final days helped give him peace and comfort. I pray the wonderful memories of your life together outweigh the struggles at the end.
Take care-
Stub
Joined: Jun 2014
Binder
Binder
Honestly in 2012 they removed the tumor and gave him paperwork that basically said they got it all. He was supposed to go back for a follow up and he didn't. I think they didnt communicate with him well. He never really understood that it was cancerous until 2014. In 2013 he got on humira for rheumatoid arthritis. the questionnaire asked if he ever had cancer and he said no. The Humira is what caused the flare up. Its devastating. Patients really need an advocate or to advocate for themselves.
Stub
Thank you for your kind words. We had a good run. We lived every day like it was our last. There was no time to argue and we forgave quickly. It was a good life in spite of the cancer.
Joined: Apr 2020
I totally agree with you, I
I totally agree with you, I the same situation I was lucky to an incident finding a complex cyst, and the urologist said don't worry it just a cyst, less 1% malignant after a year it doubles in size and was 3 stage aggressive cancer. I lost my time and now no big chances survive
Joined: Jun 2014
Biner,
Biner,
I'm sorry to hear of your diagnosis. It's a tough journey. Me and my husband enjoyed most of our days. We lived our lives to the fullest. We didn't fight about dumb stuff. We forgave quickly when we did fight. We loved more deeply. I hope you find joy in your journey. I'm finding even with his death our sweet memories and the joy lives with the pain in my soul. This is a great Forum. I found a lot of help here in the beginning. Sending you live and light.