Slow-runner's husband has passed

Trubrit Member Posts: 5,626 Member
edited December 2019 in Colorectal Cancer #1

I am copying and pasting Slow-runner's post here, so that we can share our love with her at this time. 

My husband just passed on November 27.  He was diagnosed in August 2017. He had a tumor in the ascending colon with liver, lung, peritoneal and lymph node involvment. His only symptom was shortness of breath when running and a small pain in his side. Lung mets were small, but did grow but never enough to alarm the doctor. Buck's initial CEA was 1200, the lowest we ever got was 115. Buck had all the therapies, folfox, folfiri, oral meds, chemoembolization to the liver (pretty successful), was on a clinical trial for immunotherapy.  Buck developed an intestinal blockage, more like a shutdown, in the Spring of 2019, also a liver abscess. At this time our doc told us we were out of options, suggestioned hospice.  Buck was not ready. I prayed so hard for one more summer;  he got it.  His bowel function returned after a gtube, abscess drain and TPN. He went back on chemo. Buck enjoyed the summer, he had rehabed a shore house we had purchased the winter before being diagnosed and got to spend most of the summer there. In October he basically went into liver failure, his bilirubin was 19, he was sooo orange, some mental changes also.  Drains were placed in the liver to bring down the bilirubin but then he started taking on water like the Titanic and that was when he put up the white flag. He would get his abdomen drained weekly but... In November he was in distributive shock, we went to our community hospital (had been getting treatment in the city). Very good experience at the community hospital, Buck went onto hospice service. Our daughter was to be married this December, she got married in his hospital room, it was his last fully conscious day. Buck's passing was so peaceful. He had the chance to have a heart to heart with all our children (all grown).  Buck used these past two years to their full advantage.  He tolerated chemo so well, yes there were down days but as long as he knew they would be followed by good days, he was okay with that.  He saw this disease as a blessing, said it got rid of the noise in his life, blessed that it happened when our kids were grown (3 had gotten married in these 2 years). He truely appreciated every day. Sorry for rambling. What I really wonder is if we had not done the clinical trial would things be different.  In my mind I associate the trial with the liver abscess. The liver was doing fine before the trial.  We entered the trial to address the lung mets which were not responding to the chemo. I don't know.  Not worth questioning.  We had great care at Penn, really have no regrets. Was just hoping for more time. In the end, his passing was so peaceful, he was ready.


  • SandiaBuddy
    SandiaBuddy Member Posts: 1,262 Member

    My condolences.

  • Annabelle41415
    Annabelle41415 Member Posts: 6,715 Member

    I'm sorry to hear of his passing.  Wishing the family peace during this emotional time, especially this time of year.


  • Steelkiwi686
    Steelkiwi686 Member Posts: 73 Member


    Please accept my condolences on the loss of your beloved husband Buck.

    You are in my thoughts.

    I'm so sorry to hear this sad news.




  • Sestra17
    Sestra17 Member Posts: 65 Member
    Sending you a big hug.

    Sending you a big hug.

  • Canadian Sandy
    Canadian Sandy Member Posts: 725 Member
    My condolences.

    My condolences.

  • phuckcancer
    phuckcancer Member Posts: 63 Member
  • cinda
    cinda Member Posts: 65

    sending a hug and prayers for the family. Glad he got his summer and the family got more memories.

  • Joan M
    Joan M Member Posts: 409
    Sorry for you loss

    Sounds like Buck put up a good fight, and was a good man and good husband.  

    Thank you for sharing about your daughter's wedding.  Very sorry to hear he passed so quiclky afterwards.

    God Bless you all,


  • Capox Dude
    Capox Dude Member Posts: 84 Member
    My condolences on Buck's passing.

    And my admiration for a life well-lived.