LadyMox – Possible Update

cmb
cmb Member Posts: 888 Member

Like others, I've been worried that we hadn't heard from LadyMox for some time, even though she had logged onto the board in February, So I did a search this evening and sadly learned that a young woman name Tammy Mink (Tammy was LadyMox's first name) just passed away last week. From the location (Buffalo), her age (42) and the distinctive curls in the lovely photo attached to the notice, I'm very sorry to say that I believe this is our dear LadyMox.

https://www.amigone.com/obituary/Tammy-M.-Mink/Buffalo-New-York/1837056

It's horribly unfair that she went so quickly and at such a young age. I know that we all tried to be positive and supportive for her, but it appears she was prescient in fearing the worst. I'm always unhappy when we lose any of the members of this board, but this one really troubles me.

LadyMox had gotten to a good place in her life, after some early troubled years. I know that cancer can hit anyone, at any time, but it hurts me even more when it's a young person.

I debated about posting this since I don't know for sure that it relates to our LadyMox, although the photo and details fit. But we do get concerned about those who stop posting, especially when their condition is so grave. For me, knowing, even when the news is bad, is better than not knowing.

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  • ConnieSW
    ConnieSW Member Posts: 1,604 Member
    Thank you for sharing this

    very sad news. I hate, hate, hate when this happens to someone so young. I wish we could have helped her more.  

  • derMaus
    derMaus Member Posts: 558
    Thank you cmb. I know a

    Thank you cmb. I know a number of us have been concerned about her. I sent her a PM in January and never heard back, but I hoped it was just that she was busy with treatment. The obituary might not be her but I agree with your assessment of the age, location and the lovely curls. Damn it all.

  • LisaPizza
    LisaPizza Member Posts: 348 Member
    So sad, may she rest in peace

    So sad, may she rest in peace and love.

  • barnyardgal
    barnyardgal Member Posts: 272
    I've been wondering about her

    I've been wondering about her. She was way too young. I'm so sorry for her family.

  • Tamlen
    Tamlen Member Posts: 341 Member
    Me too

    I've been worried about her too. I'd been watching her logins, which were at least weekly, and saw that she'd not been on since late Feb. It's sobering and heartbreaking how quickly things progressed for her.

  • Soup52
    Soup52 Member Posts: 908 Member
    So sad.Mayshe Rest In Peace.

    So sad.Mayshe Rest In Peace.

  • Jairoldi
    Jairoldi Member Posts: 221
    Sad news

    How distressed she was!  It's so true that we know ourselves best as was the case with Lady Mox. I did Google Tammy Mink and found a site that she also referenced a username of LdyMox. https://www.thingiverse.com/LdyMox/about. May her family find strength in their very best memories as they find their way forward without her physical presence.

    Jayne

  • CheeseQueen57
    CheeseQueen57 Member Posts: 933
    Jairoldi said:

    Sad news

    How distressed she was!  It's so true that we know ourselves best as was the case with Lady Mox. I did Google Tammy Mink and found a site that she also referenced a username of LdyMox. https://www.thingiverse.com/LdyMox/about. May her family find strength in their very best memories as they find their way forward without her physical presence.

    Jayne

    No doubt

    I guess there’s no doubt now.  I was hoping it wasn’t her. So sad. 

  • Forherself
    Forherself Member Posts: 689 Member
    RIP dear LadyMox

    I have been wondering about her too.  Prayers for her family.  

    Thank you cmb.  

     

  • Forherself
    Forherself Member Posts: 689 Member
    And I was wondering about linmk

    How is she doing?    If you still check in let us know?   You are in my prayers.

     

  • derMaus
    derMaus Member Posts: 558
    Jairoldi said:

    Sad news

    How distressed she was!  It's so true that we know ourselves best as was the case with Lady Mox. I did Google Tammy Mink and found a site that she also referenced a username of LdyMox. https://www.thingiverse.com/LdyMox/about. May her family find strength in their very best memories as they find their way forward without her physical presence.

    Jayne

    Damn. You're right, it IS her

    Damn. You're right, it IS her. Thank you for confirming. Rest in peace, Lady Mox. 

  • Lulu7582
    Lulu7582 Member Posts: 112
    My heart breaks!

    Prayers for her family. I pray they are surrounded with love and peace knowing she isn't in pain anymore. RIP LadyMox! xo

  • EZLiving66
    EZLiving66 Member Posts: 1,476 Member
    D*mn, d*mn, d*mn, I hate this

    D*mn, d*mn, d*mn, I hate this disease. She was so young and so afraid. Rest in peace, our friend.

    Love, 

    Eldri 

  • Wannabeatit
    Wannabeatit Member Posts: 98 Member
    Awe that is crushing news

    Awe that is crushing news

  • janaes
    janaes Member Posts: 799
    I was hoping it wasnt her.

    I was hoping it wasnt her. She was 42 like the obituary said. Im close to her age. Just a few years older. Its so sad. How did i get 3 cancers and live and not her.

  • ConnieSW
    ConnieSW Member Posts: 1,604 Member
    janaes said:

    I was hoping it wasnt her.

    I was hoping it wasnt her. She was 42 like the obituary said. Im close to her age. Just a few years older. Its so sad. How did i get 3 cancers and live and not her.

    I don't know, Janaes,

    but don't you dare even think about going anywhere. 

  • zsazsa1
    zsazsa1 Member Posts: 547 Member
    This is horrible news.  We

    This is horrible news.  We knew she was following along with us.  I too sent her a private message in February, since I knew she came on the website, even though she wasn't posting.  When I first saw the survival times for this cancer, I was devastated.  My family is hoping for the best, as am I, but LadyMox was right when she said, after her mesenteric metastasis doubled in size on chemo, that she would be lucky to make it to Easter.  And I think that her cancer was endometrioid, not even UPSC or clear cell!  She knew.  So young.  So unfair.

  • zsazsa1
    zsazsa1 Member Posts: 547 Member
    Yes, that has to be her,

    Yes, that has to be her, Tammy Mink.  Look at those gorgeous red curls on her picture on thingiverse.

  • pato58
    pato58 Member Posts: 120 Member
    Crushed

    Cry

  • MAbound
    MAbound Member Posts: 1,164 Member
    Lifeline

    There are risks that come with being on this board, sharing our stories and struggles, and responding to others. One of them is getting emotionally invested in what happens to each other and the hurt that comes when someone loses their fight. I don't think I've ever felt this helpless since being here. Her story was so compelling and I really wanted her to have a better chance of more life to enjoy after what she went through to get where she was. It all just seems so unfair, but I take comfort that she still lurked with us even after she stop posting. I hope that made her feel less alone when we kept posting that we were still concerned about her. I don't think I'll ever forget her or any of you here, for that matter. This forum is such a lifeline.