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sgs0701
sgs0701 Member Posts: 1
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Hi everyone...I am desperate for answers and cannot seem to find any, so I'm hoping someone here can offer some insight. Someone very dear to me is battling ovarian cancer but from the very beginning when she was diagnosed, while she is perfectly comfortable discussing her condition, she has never shared details concerning her prognosis. I understand and respect her privacy, however, as her disease is progressing and her condition worsens, I cannot help but want to know what the outlook is for her so that I can prepare myself emotionally as well as to plan things for us to do with the time we have left. As of now, she has ovarian cancer that has spread to her esophogus, kidneys, pancreas, bladder, and colon. She has been doing aggressive chemo including intraperitoneal chemo and now with the latest news that it spread to the bladder and colon, she is also going to undergo radiation. It is hard to comprehend the seriousness of her condition due to the fact that she is the most positive person I know and has never let her cancer hold her back. She works full time, constantly is on the go doing things with friends and family, and aside from the hair loss, looks perfectly healthy. Again, I respect her privacy too much to ask her, so if anyone can provide some insight as to a prognosis or about how long she might have, I would just like to know for my own peace of mind. 

 

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  • Tethys41
    Tethys41 Member Posts: 1,382 Member
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    Prognosis

    sgs,

    I'm sorry your friend is going through this.  Ovarian cancer is challenging.

    Unfortunately, there is no easy answer to your question.  No one can predict someone's life expectancy with this disease.  I've seen women with a very serious diagnosis recover and vice versa.  Your friend may not have had this conversation with her doctor.  I chose not to.  And even if she has, her doctor may or may not have given her an accurate estimate.  I would suggest you make the best of every day you have with your friend.  That way you can't lose because if her life is short, you have spent quality time with her and enjoyed her remaining days.  If she lives a long life, you still benefit because you have had good times with her and you still get to enjoy her company.  

    I wish your friend well. 

  • NoTimeForCancer
    NoTimeForCancer Member Posts: 3,369 Member
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    Beautifully said, Tethys41. 

    Beautifully said, Tethys41.  I couldn't agree with you more.

  • Soup52
    Soup52 Member Posts: 908 Member
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    I agree with you two. I never

    I agree with you two. I never asked how long....

  • GoldenBanner
    GoldenBanner Member Posts: 2
    edited March 2018 #5
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    Lucky to have you

    Your friend is lucky to have you. Ditto to the above..... 

  • WarriorS1
    WarriorS1 Member Posts: 49 Member
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    You are a good friend

    I agree 100% with the post by Tethys41. Make every day as special as you can and keep smiling even though it is not always easy.  Your friend is very lucky to have someone as supportive as you are.

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