our nightmare continues

Well, where do I start! Two weeks ago my husband was sent home from the hospital after receiving 6 pints of blood! His tumor is 16 cm large, thats all we were told! It is pushing his mailn arteries aside, pushing is intestines out of the way and pushing on his spine! We know it ihas not spread as of now! His urologist said surgery should take place asap, as soon as the following friday! Apparently he was just getting OR TIME and his surgical team together! So we were patiently waiting to hear! Then nothing! Until the morning of the friday, a call from the doctor himself, informing us that we were reffered to another Urologist for an apointment a week away! So I did some research on the docotor and read the reviews! Oh I can tell you, those reviews were horrible! My husband, very eager for this surgery pushed the revies aside and off we went there yesterday! 

Upon arrival it looked like a very cold environment! The secretary was so rude and had o idea why we were even there! Then we waited 2 12 hours to be shoved in a room to wait another hour! But if the doc is good, we wait no problem! Then this man walks in! Looks at us! First thing out of his mouth was: "why would anyone be so dumb to wait so long? If you had come when the tumour was small you would not have to worry bleeding out on the table or getting a **** bag"

Yes those were his words! I was just sitting there in shock! Then he looked at my husbands scans...then running out of the room, leaving the door open....speaking loudly to one of his colleages :"You gotta come see this, I need your opinion but cover your ****, watch what you say!" so they both come in, look at y husband and look at me...then proceed to tell us it needs to be removed, chances of bleeding out are 2 % but its a risky surgery! 

My husband asks how long until surgery... a months or two....So I ask, will the cancer spread by then? Doc looks at me and says:"what a dumb question. It that large because you both were dumb enough to wait and it has not spread!"

I walked away crying! Feeling defeated and helpless! On our way home I told my husband that this person is not putting a hand on him! We are now looking for another surgeon! I am so lost, I can not believe that people treat people like this! If my husband knew what he had he would have went! He thought he had a hernia and went to see his doc and we found out that we have cancer! I am just so unccedibly lost and I am scared of every day that we have to wait with this monster insiide of him!

Please dont look at spelling mistakes...I really have not slept in days and my mind does not work too well

Evelyn