Nanosecond has passed

NewDay
NewDay Member Posts: 272

The sad news just came across on SmartPatients that Niel F.(NanoSecond) has passed.  His wife says he had been declining severely the last few weeks.  He is another one that was such a rock and was always there to try to help anyone and  everyone.  I knew his treatment was not working and knew this day would come, but it is so hard to hear.  It is so hard even to find words.

Rest in peace Dear Neil,

Kathy

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  • angec
    angec Member Posts: 924
    Oh no!!! This is the second

    Oh no!!! This is the second death i heard of today! Two sweet people that will be severely missed.  I knew something was wrong because he wasn't posting and i was trying to ask another person on Smartpatients.  Wow! I am so, so sad!  DJ and Neil, you two will be forever missed!  Prayers for the family. 

    Angela

  • NewDay
    NewDay Member Posts: 272
    angec said:

    Oh no!!! This is the second

    Oh no!!! This is the second death i heard of today! Two sweet people that will be severely missed.  I knew something was wrong because he wasn't posting and i was trying to ask another person on Smartpatients.  Wow! I am so, so sad!  DJ and Neil, you two will be forever missed!  Prayers for the family. 

    Angela

    Such ANGER and sorrow

    My first reaction to the news about Neil was to pound the arm of my chair and shout NO-NO-NO.  So much anger and sorrow at once.

    I had not heard about DJ.  We lost her too?  Double anger and double sorrow.

    I pray for their families.

  • donna_lee
    donna_lee Member Posts: 1,024 Member
    NewDay said:

    Such ANGER and sorrow

    My first reaction to the news about Neil was to pound the arm of my chair and shout NO-NO-NO.  So much anger and sorrow at once.

    I had not heard about DJ.  We lost her too?  Double anger and double sorrow.

    I pray for their families.

    Whatever we think...

    and feel, let us be glad that the pain for each of them is over.  My thoughts and wishes for a short grief go out to their friends and families.

    And may it encourage us to be strong and love our families and friends even more deeply; and let them know we care about them while we are able to tell them.

    Hugs to all.

    Donna

  • angec
    angec Member Posts: 924
    NewDay said:

    Such ANGER and sorrow

    My first reaction to the news about Neil was to pound the arm of my chair and shout NO-NO-NO.  So much anger and sorrow at once.

    I had not heard about DJ.  We lost her too?  Double anger and double sorrow.

    I pray for their families.

    Kathy, I am so sorry. I

    Kathy, I am so sorry. I didn't mean to post about DJ. I didn't even realized that I put her name here. It was unintentional as I  was told that her family was going to try to post something.  Please forgive me.  I just found out about three deaths within a half hours time and I am not thinking as I should.  I hope you are ok and I hope that DJ's family do not get upset that I posted. They will both be greatly missed.  This is a sad day! Hugs to all!  Let's remember their bravery and the hard fight they gave! Warriors!

    Ange

     

  • NewDay
    NewDay Member Posts: 272
    angec said:

    Kathy, I am so sorry. I

    Kathy, I am so sorry. I didn't mean to post about DJ. I didn't even realized that I put her name here. It was unintentional as I  was told that her family was going to try to post something.  Please forgive me.  I just found out about three deaths within a half hours time and I am not thinking as I should.  I hope you are ok and I hope that DJ's family do not get upset that I posted. They will both be greatly missed.  This is a sad day! Hugs to all!  Let's remember their bravery and the hard fight they gave! Warriors!

    Ange

     

    Overwhelming

    It's just that, after also losing another sweet spirit from SmartPatients recently, this is all so overwhelming.  I hope their families will not be offended that my first reaction was anger.  It's just so wrong that this disease takes such good people.

    My heart goes out to their families.  I apologize.

  • Yeric
    Yeric Member Posts: 65
    Oh Man...

    I ddon't really know what to say.  I am so new here.  Reading Nanoseconds thoughts on his move to Keytruda inspired me.  Enough that after a week of lurking I joined this group. 

    I am so sorry.  For him and Dj.

     

    Bobby

  • angec
    angec Member Posts: 924
    NewDay said:

    Overwhelming

    It's just that, after also losing another sweet spirit from SmartPatients recently, this is all so overwhelming.  I hope their families will not be offended that my first reaction was anger.  It's just so wrong that this disease takes such good people.

    My heart goes out to their families.  I apologize.

    I know, Kathy. I was fond of

    I know, Kathy. I was fond of Moyra also.  It is so unfair.  I cannot understand why there is no cure and I honestly don't believe that there is not a cure!  If there is something close, it seems to disappear!  The anger is not towards the family, it is towards cancer.  And, rightly so.  Hugs to you!

  • RIP Neil and DJ.
    I loved DJ's

    RIP Neil and DJ.

    I loved DJ's avatar.  You could tell before reading anything she typed that she was a beautiful person, and this was confirmed by what she posted here.

    Neil was always such a great source of information, and always willing to help. 

     

    I hope they both found peace, and I hope their families are doing OK.

  • jason.2835
    jason.2835 Member Posts: 337 Member
    Damn it.

    Hate this disease.  Neil was one of the first people I talked to; he eased my mind with cold, hard science.  The man was a realist and a TROVE of knowledge.  I'm not sure anyone could succeed him on this board.  

    You fought this disease with grace and NEVER complained... rest now.

    - Jay

  • Jan4you
    Jan4you Member Posts: 1,330 Member

    Damn it.

    Hate this disease.  Neil was one of the first people I talked to; he eased my mind with cold, hard science.  The man was a realist and a TROVE of knowledge.  I'm not sure anyone could succeed him on this board.  

    You fought this disease with grace and NEVER complained... rest now.

    - Jay

     I AM CRYING~~~
    I wrote Neil

     I AM CRYING~~~

    I wrote Neil a few days ago, but noticed today I still didn't hear from him..sigh

    So I get on HERE and get an private message, thinking it was from NEIL and find

    out it was about DJinnie!!!

    At least, there is a reunion, the other great lady from Smart Patients, Moyra, and so many others from here.. FINALLY done paying their dues and OUT OF PAIN and MISERY!!

    Still.. I am sad for us..

    HUGS to you all!

    Jan

  • Srashedb
    Srashedb Member Posts: 482
    angec said:

    I know, Kathy. I was fond of

    I know, Kathy. I was fond of Moyra also.  It is so unfair.  I cannot understand why there is no cure and I honestly don't believe that there is not a cure!  If there is something close, it seems to disappear!  The anger is not towards the family, it is towards cancer.  And, rightly so.  Hugs to you!

    Random and unpredictable

    this disease truly is unpredictable and when it metastasizes, it depends on where; Neil was a realist and he knew what he was facing; his cancer took on a life of its own last summer.

    Moyra didn't post here but agree that she will be missed.

    Treatment working or not is also random and unpredictable ; some are on meds for years, others a few weeks.

    Just some thoughts

    Sarah

  • foxhd
    foxhd Member Posts: 3,181
    Jan4you said:

     I AM CRYING~~~
    I wrote Neil

     I AM CRYING~~~

    I wrote Neil a few days ago, but noticed today I still didn't hear from him..sigh

    So I get on HERE and get an private message, thinking it was from NEIL and find

    out it was about DJinnie!!!

    At least, there is a reunion, the other great lady from Smart Patients, Moyra, and so many others from here.. FINALLY done paying their dues and OUT OF PAIN and MISERY!!

    Still.. I am sad for us..

    HUGS to you all!

    Jan

    sad

    Our friends are no longer suffering. I know they fought hard and expected the same from all of us. So let's emulate their spirit and keep them in our thoughts. I love all you guys. We do this together. Fox.

  • icemantoo
    icemantoo Member Posts: 3,360 Member
    foxhd said:

    sad

    Our friends are no longer suffering. I know they fought hard and expected the same from all of us. So let's emulate their spirit and keep them in our thoughts. I love all you guys. We do this together. Fox.

    So sad.

    I had the opportunity of speking with Neil a couple years back and he sure took seriously his effort to help others on their joutney.

     

    Icemantoo

  • Dave418
    Dave418 Member Posts: 95
    My thoughts are with their

    My thoughts are with their families. May their spirits help everyone here who needs it...

    Sad day for this group... :-(

    I hate this &$"€¥##~|_ cancer....

  • APny
    APny Member Posts: 1,995 Member
    Dave418 said:

    My thoughts are with their

    My thoughts are with their families. May their spirits help everyone here who needs it...

    Sad day for this group... :-(

    I hate this &$"€¥##~|_ cancer....

    I am sad beyond words. And

    I am sad beyond words. And angry. What a horrible %$#@ disease. My thoughts and prayers with their families and a part of my heart with DJ and Neil.

  • Jojo61
    Jojo61 Member Posts: 1,309 Member
    Dave418 said:

    My thoughts are with their

    My thoughts are with their families. May their spirits help everyone here who needs it...

    Sad day for this group... :-(

    I hate this &$"€¥##~|_ cancer....

    We just lost two very special

    We just lost two very special members to this horrid disease. 

    Djinnie was a sweet,  gentle soul who never got discouraged or lost hope.  

    Neil was an incredible vault of knowledge and support who was so very stoic. 

    Two huge losses and a blow to us all. 

    We will certainly miss them... But we will never forget them.  

    My thoughts and  prayers go out to their families. 

    Heaven just became a better place. 

    Lots of love to you all,  

    Jojo

  • Skagway Jack
    Skagway Jack Member Posts: 224 Member
    Heavy Heart

    It is with heavy heart I read of the loss of our friends.  I too was blessed with kindness and attention from these two souls when I first joined CSN.  Though I post less frequently I try to check the forum weekly.  I am greatly saddend by the news.  My deepest condolences to their families and loved ones. 

    Jack

  • BDS
    BDS Member Posts: 172
    Neil - Nanosecond - RIP

    So sad, Neil will be dearly missed but he is at peace now.

     

    I know, I am probably violating some site rule but the following was posted on Smart Patients from Neil's wife.  

    Neil's wife wrote:

    It is with a heavy heart that I tell you that Neil Feldman passed away this morning.

     

    He had been declining severely in the past few weeks, in a wheelchair and sleeping much of the day. But in the end it was quick. He awakened at 2:30 a.m. and said, “Something’s not right.” I helped him back to sleep, and when I got up at 6:45 a.m. (late for us), he was still sleeping — in a coma. He passed away, with our daughter Anna and me at his side, just after 10.

     

    Please let the community know that Neil was on hospice for a full year -- after he came close to death in June 2014, before starting Afinitor and gaining another year -- and I cannot recommend hospice highly enough. People should not fear signing up. We had a nurse visit every Monday and a massage therapist every Friday. They helped us with oxygen, hospital bed, medications, and all manner of issues. They were here when Neil died -- though Neil, typically, waited until the nurse was out of the room and alone with Anna and me.

     

    Please tell everyone how important Smart Patients has been to him.

     

  • mrou50
    mrou50 Member Posts: 389
    Sadness

    It is a sad day for us for two great people have passed, but a happier day for them for the suffering of this horrible disease is now over and they are in a far better place.  Thoughts and prayers go to their families.

  • angelsnls
    angelsnls Member Posts: 67
    SO SO SAD

    This is so sad nanosecond and Djinnie were among the first people I spoke to on here when I joined last year, it has taken me all day to write something and all I can think of is that this is so sad. My deepest condolences to their families and their friends. This is such a horrible desease I HATE it.

    Keep fighting everyone 

    Lots of love

    Angela xx