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Time for hospice.

rls67
rls67 CSN Member Posts: 127
in Colorectal Cancer #1

My beautiful wife of twenty years was officially placed in hospice. We are waiting for bed to open in the hospice we choose. She has been given 2-6 weeks to live. I am trying to be strong for her and our kids. But it is so hard when you're dieing inside. I really hope she doesn't have to suffer long.  l love her to much to see her go through that. She has fought so bravely for so long.

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  • johnnybegood
    johnnybegood CSN Member Posts: 1,117 Member
    #2
    im so sorry

    for this news we are all here for you anytime.i dont know if you are a man of faith but i have alot of faith and He is what gets me thru everyday.i will be praying for you and your family that this transition is filled with lots of love....Godbless..johnnybegood

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  • UncleBuddy
    UncleBuddy CSN Member Posts: 1,019 Member
    #3
    I'm so sorry.

    I'm sure they will keep her comfortable. Make sure you take care of yourself. Your kids need you now more than ever. You, your wife and family are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Lin

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  • Chelsea71
    Chelsea71 CSN Member Posts: 1,169 Member
    #4
    I am so sorry.....will be

    I am so sorry.....will be thinking of you and your wife.  I have no words.  I am sure this is not what you guys envisioned on your wedding day.  Life sure can throw some terrible curve balls.  I wish it didn't have to be this way for any of us.

     

    Chelsea

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  • Trubrit
    Trubrit CSN Member Posts: 5,808 Member
    #5
    My heart aches for you

    But I know you can and will be strong for your wife, your children and for yourself. 

    You will all be in my thoughts and prayers.

    Hugs!

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  • LivinginNH
    LivinginNH CSN Member Posts: 1,456 Member
    #6
    :'(

     

    It's difficult to express how saddened I am right now, my heart simply aches for you.   The hospice team will do their very best to provide her with comfort care so that you may focus on simply being with her and loving her. 

    Stay strong, and peace to you both,

    Cynthia

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  • Cathleen Mary
    Cathleen Mary CSN Member Posts: 827 Member
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    My heart and prayer are

     

     

    My heart and prayer are with you and your family.  Know we are here day and night.

    CM

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  • rls67
    rls67 CSN Member Posts: 127
    #8
    There are so many angels here,

    Thank you so much for the love and compassion. I am so lucky to have stumbled on this board. You all have been a founton of information and an anchor in the storm. Thank you so much.

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  • Lovekitties
    Lovekitties CSN Member Posts: 3,364 Member
    #9
    Thinking of you both

    I know that you can never be prepared for reaching this point.

    Hospice is a wonderful organization which makes sure of the peace and comfort of the patient and offers additional services to the family during this difficult time.  Be sure to reach out to them to help you and your kids.

    I am sending prayers to all of your family.

    Marie who loves kitties

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  • devotion10
    devotion10 CSN Member Posts: 623 Member
    #10
    rls67 ~ I wish I could wrap my arms around your whole family ...

    and hold you close for a bit. 

    When I first started working with hospice, they explained that the experience we call death occurs when the body completes its natural process of shutting down, and when the spirit completes its natural process of reconciling and finishing. These two processes need to happen in a way appropriate and unique to the values, beliefs, and lifestyle of the dying person.

    As you seek to prepare yourself for this approaching event, they will help you know what to expect and how to respond in ways that will help your wife accomplish this transition with support, understanding, and ease. This is the great gift of love you have to offer her as this moment approaches.

    My heart is heavy for you as I know your pain.  Try to be present.

    Peace and comfort to you as you support your wife on her journey.

    ~ Cynthia 

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  • marbleotis
    marbleotis CSN Member Posts: 721 Member
    #11
    My heart breaks for you both

    Please do not waste time being sad now - just love her and enjoy every minute you have.  The hospice will help you both.  I am so sorry you are going through this.

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  • teamzach
    teamzach CSN Member Posts: 35
    #12
    I am sorry-

    You are amazing and your family is too! I have been in your shoes just a short month ago. The suffering part is no fun...  Hospice is amazing and I know they will help in whatever way they can...

    Prayers and strength sent your way!

    Janelle

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  • Kathleen808
    Kathleen808 CSN Member Posts: 2,342 Member
    #13
    Sending prayers

    Your family will remain in my prayers as you continue on this journey with your precious wife.  Peace to all of you.

     

    Aloha,

    Kathleen

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  • sharpy102
    sharpy102 CSN Member Posts: 368 Member
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    teamzach said:

    I am sorry-

    You are amazing and your family is too! I have been in your shoes just a short month ago. The suffering part is no fun...  Hospice is amazing and I know they will help in whatever way they can...

    Prayers and strength sent your way!

    Janelle

    I'm so sorry

    Hello there,

     

    I am very very sorry to hear this. It is so sad, and I know this is very very hard for you, and your family. I wish all of you strength, and lots of patience to each other. Please, if you ever need to vent, we're here, and want to help you in any way we can. Please take care of yourself, and your children, and show your wife that you'll never leave here, and will love her. Tell her that many many times, that you love her and always will. Tell her that you'll take care of your children, and that she'll never be forgotten. I'm so sorry!!

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  • Semira
    Semira CSN Member Posts: 381 Member
    #15
    So sad

    and so sorry for you.

    A silent hug from Germany

    Petra

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  • annalexandria
    annalexandria CSN Member Posts: 2,571 Member
    #16
    Words don't really suffice...

    I'm just so sorry.

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  • thingy45
    thingy45 CSN Member Posts: 632 Member
    #17
    annalexandria said:

    Words don't really suffice...

    I'm just so sorry.

    No words

    no words can discribe how I feel reading this. I know how empty and angry you are having been there myself.  wishing you strength and peace .

    marjan 

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  • here4lfe
    here4lfe CSN Member Posts: 306 Member
    #18
    Sorry to hear

    Spend as much time as you can with her. A friend of mine told me as my wife passed away, "She is trusting you to make her decisions for her now." This is the time to be the man she married.

    Take care,

    Mark

     

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  • fatbob2010
    fatbob2010 CSN Member Posts: 467 Member
    #19
    So Sorry

    What a hard place you and the family are in.  Hospice team will help keep your beloved comfortable.  They should also have assistance for you and the children as you go through this dark time in your life.  I can not start to understand how you feel and how much this is hurting you and the family.  I hope you can find peace in the fact that she is not longer in pain.

    Streaming comfort and ((HUGS)) to you and yours,

    Art

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  • Annabelle41415
    Annabelle41415 CSN Member Posts: 6,744 Member
    #20
    Sorry

    I'm sorry for your wife's decline.  Please spend as much time with her as you can and let your children do the same.  May her journey forward be peaceful and pain free.

    Kim

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  • Momof2plusteentwins
    Momof2plusteentwins CSN Member Posts: 509 Member
    #21
    So sad
    So sorry for what you are going through. I wish peace for you and your family.
    Sandy :(
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