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When someone on this forum passes away, we promise to the family and to ourselves that we never forget them. And we don't. The Day of the Dead or Halloween just passed and I dont know why I didn't bring this up then, but I'd like to start a thread when everyone of us amoungst the living would write down the name of a friend who is not with us anymore. If we forget someone you can repeat.

I go first: KENNYD

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Lovekitties did this for Memorial Day and I really appreciated it. 

Thanks for starting this thread. 

I remember: Doc Hawk and Vickilg who both passed away on the same day, July 18th. 

ketziah35
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Just to clarify Day of the Dead in Latin countries is like Memorial Day in the USA?  A day to honor those who have passed on.

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...All Saints Day which is about remembering the dead is on November 1st in Catholic countries in Europe. People go to the cemeteries at night with flowers and decorate the tombs with a lot of candles.

We can't do this too often. We owe this to our friends to honor their pain and suffering, the bravery and strength they demonstrated.

Laz

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We went to church for All Saints Day on November 1 to honor our Saints, and All Souls Day is celebrated the day after on November 2.  All the people who have passed before are remembered on those days.  Everytime an old post comes up I'll see someone on there that has passed and remember almost everything about them and their personality.  It shouldn't be a sad memory but a happy one that you have been Blessed to know them.

Kim

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It's good to see you.  You were one of the first people, whose post that I followed, when I joined.  Have a great day.

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My hubby George on 10/29/2012 after his 3 1/2 year battle.  Other names from the board that come to mind, but there are so many more are:  Mike49, Crow 71 (Roger), Butterfly23 (age 40), Lizbiz (age 34), Patti (Itapp age a42), Lizzydavis, AnnCan, Kenny S, Linda Liess, Bucklworth (Blake), Lisa42, Eric38, Jenny (Idlehunters), Shayenne (mom to 4, only in her 40's), JohnSFO, Brant Walton, M.D (age 34), Buzzard, my friend Ron Lagodna (age 48), Erica Paul, Westie66, Paula G's hubby JR,  LivinginNH's hubby Rick, .....

So very heartbreaking thinking of these wonderful people, many of whom were so very young with young children....

Hugs - Tina

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May 11, 2013              Kenny H.                     Kenneth Herber

 

June 29, 2013              ABackho                      Andrew Backhouse

 

July 2, 2013                 Steved                          Steve Dinniss

 

July 18, 2013               Vickilg                          Vicki Lyn Gonzalez

 

July 18, 2013               Doc_Hawk                  Ray Poulsen

 

July 22, 2013               Westie66                      Cheryl Pearce

 

August 7, 2013 Chelsea71’s husband    Steve

 

August 16, 2013           rls67 mother-in-law

 

August 16,2013            scared99’s mom

 

August 23, 2013           Marieanne313’s aunt

 

August 27, 2013           belindahill’s husband     Ian

 

August 27, 2013           Winter Marie’s sister-in-law

 

August 29, 2013           taraHK                         Tara Whitehill

 

October 27, 2013        Renw                           Ren

Here are the links to other years I had done.  It is worth reading the thread because other's often added their own special rememberances.

 

 

http://csn.cancer.org/node/240734

 

http://csn.cancer.org/node/259293

 

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Hi Marie,

Thank you so much for maintaining this important list.  I've meant to mention this to you before now, but this post gives me the chance to say, thank you.  And I personally believe that keeping the tradition to listing the names of our loved ones should continue to be on Memorial Day in the US. 

All my best,

Cynthia

Chelsea71
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Thank you Marie.

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I was reminded that I did not have devotion10's husband on this list.  I have added him to the one I keep, but can't edit the list here.

If anyone else has noticed someone else not mentioned, please don't hesitate to let me know.

Marie who loves kitties

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I Binged (google was useless in this case) and found out who Ren was  http://searchenginewatch.com/article/2304606/In-Memoriam-Ren-Warmuz-of-Trellian

I had figured he was an investment banker or an internet mogul, and it turns out my internet guess was true.  No wonder he was able to research and find so many alternative treatments - he probably had the best search engine tools on the planet!! Cool

- Karin

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Thank you for searching and sharing this information.

Ren was special in many ways.  His death makes wide ripples across the fabric of life.

Marie who loves kitties

jen2012
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Karin - thanks for sharing that.   So sad for so many reasons.

UncleBuddy
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I am sitting here with tears in my eyes. How heartbreaking! I'm fairly new to the site, but have read many of Ren's posts. I've heard discussion of people who have lost relatives, and my heart breaks every time. May God bless each and every one of them. Thank God they are without pain. 

rls67
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For starting this post and thank you Love Kitties for posting all we have lost. I to have tears in my eyes as I typr this. God Bless you all and all of our friends and family who have passed.

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As many of you who follow CSN may know I was active as a critical care paramedic in a major metro area for 13 yrs and then 2 yrs in Iraq & Kuwait. Ambulance personell running 8 to 12 calls every 12 hr shift see a lot.  To do your job you have to be a duck and just let the hard calls roll off your back.  Each critical patient is an object you have been trained to take care of. Concentration on the affliction and not the person is key to providing the best care possible. Many times after a bad outcome on a cardiac arrest in the home of the deceased I have ignored orders from dispatch to clear for another call because I would not leave a grieving widow or widower until a close relative or clergy arrived.  Spending that time gave me a chance to look around the room and see pictures, knicknacks, heirlooms, and such on display. Seeing those things and comforting the survivor turned my patient into a person, a life, a family member who had left a legacy behind.

That's the reason I no longer work the streets. It got to where I was not able to separate the job from the person. I don't have or need nightmares to remind me of the lives I've held in my hands and couldn't stop them from dieing.

I think that's the reason I keep coming back to this site.  Though we've never actually met in person, many of you have become a part of my life as we share a bond of compassion, and physical knowledge of what each other is going through.

Remembering is good. It's part of the glue that holds us together. It's what helps us breath a little life back into the treasured souls that have gone before us.

Thank you for this thread and all of your friendship.  Dan 

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I completely understand your past struggle. I am a very consciences person as well and have hard time separating my job and my personal life. In order to help others many times I sacrificed too much of my own. I tried many times to balanced the two, but it was only a temporary success. If you create a bond with someone you have to realize that if that bond is broken it will tear a part of you with it. You have to pay a price for love, but for people like us it's worth it and actually essential. 

Laz

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This is so hard to read, tears rolling down my face........

  • all these people fought so hard
  • so many sent me wonderful posts throughout my ordeal
  • they are all around my age

I know that their pain is finally gone for them.

Cancer really, really sucks!

God, rest all their beautiful souls.

ketziah35
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I forgot Peter. 6/2010.

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I know he could be a little crusty at times, but he was kind to me when I first joined the forum.

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Remembering our Buzzard, who was the first to reach out to JBG & me, Lisa42, who had such hope, our very special Jenny, & oh so many others over the years.

Would like to add my Ron, JBG's stepfather, who lost his battle with H&N and Lung Cancer on May 5 of this year.

Each was very special in our lives.

 

Wolfen

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Thanks for keeping the good friend's memories alive.

 

Best Always,   mike

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..Jeff just recently.

Laz

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I would like to remember my beautiful mother, Rachel, who passed away 19 years ago from this disease at age 72.  Medicine has come a long way since 1994.  Her strength gave me the courage to fight when I was diagnosed in 2010 with the same disease.  Thankfully, I am am cancer free and my port was removed in August, 2013. I know that she is soaring as an angel.  I also wish to thank everyone on this site who always give comfort and support.  May you all have a blessed day.

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Good but very sad topic. I wasn't sure if Steved was mentioned who was so brave and put up such a fight until the very end which came so quick. Jenny (Idlehunters) was such a sweetheart whose demise came on so quick as well as most recently Renew. The losses are so tuff. It makes us sad since they will be missed and sad for thier families ezpecially ones who left youg children behind. Its also scary because it reminds us of our own mortality.

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And now we have to add Wawaju (Judy) to this list. 

Sometimes I feel I can't return to the boards, when so many of our online friends pass. 

Sweet dreams Judy. 

janderson1964
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When did judy pass. I am shocked. I didn't know she was bad off.

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Nobody from her family had a chance to notify us. 

Laz

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Lisa42 and Donna!  Miss these ladies too! 

 

When the time comes for me, know that I enjoyed my life, and I treasure you all!    I will come back to this site!  This will be me, 13 <3

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So many. So sad.  As difficult as it is to read these names, I am so appreciative that Marie keeps track and we all remember.  One of the best things about this forum is we deal in the real....that is why we are such a support to one another.

We borrow the strength and courage of those we remember...

CM

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What does the 13<3 username mean?

Laz

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Thank you Laz.  I didn't know many people on this list but it's nice to honor their memory. 

Cynthia

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13 hearts    My sign. <3

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My sister passed away at 1:50 eastern time 11/15/13.

Our parents and I sat with her for 4 hrs. as she passed from this world to the next.

Marie who loves kitties

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I know it's easy for us to say this, but she's in a better place without pain. You have been such a wonderful sister. Families are so important at the end. She was very lucky to have you as a sister. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. God bless.

Lin

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my brother robbie 46 last year from brain cancer and my father in law santos 81 2 yrs ago from colon cancer and my love 51 fron colon cancer 4 1/2 yrs ago i miss them all so much

 

michelle

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I think of you often Michelle.  So much loss for you my friend.  Sending you love and prayers. 

 

Aloha,

Kathleen

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so much kathleen. and sending u and your family luv and hugs

 

michelle

 

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Love and prayers for you and your family Marie.  I am so very sorry.  I am sure she was comforted having you and your parents with her.

 

Aloha,

Kathleen

rls67
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Prayers going out to you and your family. 

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To me the most important people, one is  Buzzard (Clift) who was always there to help me with my struggles. I had ton of messages back and forth with him, he was like a real dad to me. And my Mom July 22, 2009. I also remember one lady in particular, but cannot recall her username anymore, she was the first one to leave me a note back in April 2009 when I joined this site. I don't remember her username but I do remember that she used to mistype the word "cancer" all the time and she would spell it as "canzer"....but she was the very first one who replied to me and tried helping me when I was asking what I should give to my Mom. And she followed up through my craziness....

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Hi Sophie,

Her csn avatar was 'kimby'.

Take care dear,

Cyn

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It has been a very long time since I have posted here, but when I saw this thread I thought I would honor my mom.  She was a six time cancer survivor - six primary cancers - Colon 3x, Lung, Mediastinum and the last, Glioblastoma Multiforme brain cancer (a truly ugly cancer - it robs a person of who they are).  Mom was the most beautiful person I've ever met and I miss her everyday,  She died on May 4, 2013.

I love you, Mom.

Thank you, lp 1964, for starting this thread.

 

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Your mother must have been a true fighter. God bless her, and bless you as you live on with happy memories of a beautiful woman and mother. 

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my sister Brenda 3_16 who passed away in January, 2011.  Does anyone remember us? I  remember so many of you.  I still miss her daily.  It does not get easier.  It is a different life.  I am forver changed :(

 

 

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Hi,

Yes, I remember her, a very kind lady.  And you're correct, it has not gotten easier for me either , but I just keep trudging forward each day through sadness.  I am so very sorry that you lost your dear sister at such a young age.  It is truly heartbreaking for you, I know.

Take care of yourself, and always remember the fun and happy times that you both shared.

Cynthia

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I'm not trying to deter the subject, but is that your cat, Cynthia, or it's just a picture off the web? If it's your cat it looks sooooo cute and sooooooooooooooooooo soft!!! Like I wanna hug it...:)

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:)

Hi Sophie, Yes, I got her in early September when she was just four months old.  Her name is actually - Sophie.  ;D  She a sweety, and a wonderful companion.  The house is just so empty and lifeless without my Rick being here, so she has certainly brought life back into it.  I can't help but to smile at her playful antics, so I have to say that I've been feeling so much less depressed since I've become a new pet parent.  ;)

I hope that you have a nice Thanksgiving with your family this year.

Take care,

Cyn

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Hey Cynthia:

 

Yes, her name was Kimby...now I do remember. Thank you for retrieving my memory on this. I feel bad for not remembering but I was so new at the time and she disappeared too quickly. :( In terms of your cat I love it. It looks sooooooooooooooooooooooooo soft. Although, you have a bad taste for naming anything alive as Sophie. :) But hey, I definitely will have a hard time forgetting you cat's name in the future. :) Give her a big pet in the head for me, please. :)

Please take care!

- *Meow* ;)

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It's been more than four years since my diagnosis.  I was 38 with 1 year old daughter.  I found the site that first night, and asked for help on the journey that was a head.  Donna was the first to reply.  I can't begin to tell you what her posts meant to me.

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