Is there anyone out there like me?

I've been meaning to write somewhere like this for a long time, but I get busy, don't have the energy mostly.

I am 24 years old, was diagnosed with stage 6 (yes) Nephroblastoma at age 4. Was given two weeks.

My parents begged. The doctors conceded. Included me in a clinical trial. Frequent and enormous doses of differing chemotherapies. No radio, as it would have killed me outright.

I lived in a ward full of other children with terminal cancer. I survived the treatment, an outbreak of HIV at our blood bank which wiped out half of us in a week, a full right nephrectomy, and eventually I survived the tumour.

But my friends didn't. And now there are all these... things.

The side effects started when I was 9, right after remission. Heart, lung, concentration, learning issues, and serious deficiencies. Was called lazy and ungrateful for having no energy. Tests since have shown that I had real problems because of my treatment, but I can't blame my parents, who gave me everything, for just wanting me to be normal and "Stop breathing like that!" when an attack came on.

Past all of that, which was basically just life happening and not too big of a deal. I wonder what the things I saw did to me. You can't unsee things. I am generally happy. Successful in my field, in a loving relationship for the first time ever, and mostly healthy.

I understood that I was dying back then, at 4. I saw other children die, a lot. I saw pain and immense bereavement. Children know things... and all of us, we were like a little group who knew about things before they happened, wise little creatures shuffling around, knowing things would get better, knew what it meant when our parents came and left hollow-eyed, knew we were leaving, except I never left. They died and left me behind. All of them.

And I don't know what that means. The time I woke up and the little girl next to me had passed away. Her mother was holding her, and my mother was holding her mother. And this woman was screaming as though something had been torn right out of her. Because it had been... this was my every day... and it is not my grief. I feel almost selfish saying it effected me in any way, but how could it not? She screamed scene appeared and screamed.

I see their faces. I see other sick children and feel like one of them in another body. I will always belong with them. It was all so every day for us, and now they are all gone and I am like the Last freakin' Unicorn, and I want to wave the flag for them but sometimes I feel so weak. Some times I close my eyes and see terrible, terrible horrific things.

I've done lots with my life. And I was probably a very strange creature before it all happened. It's not so bad being alone either, and knowing all I know. When people complain about small things, I am quietly glad that I am not them.

But it hurts. I wish I could tell my friends who are gone, how precious they were, how I will always remember them, always try to be good for them. I suppose I know they know that.

I'm good at being self sufficient on this topic. Too much to even really broach what the problem is. Maybe just wondered if there was anyone else out there like this. Who feels like they exist between worlds. Who never got on the spaceship with everyone else. Who got left behind. And a bit like Death is their homeboy. I know it's there, it knows I'm here. We've met. We respect eachother. There was no deal made, it just can't have me yet.

The whole cancer thing made me who I am. Or what I am. But I don't know what that is.