May 11, 2013 - 7:10 pm
A quick recap on my dad. He went through 35 rads with 5 weeks of chemo last year which he finished around December, he had a stent put in, that helped him some since he was unable to eat or drink, then had to have that taken out and had weekly throat stretches , went for consol in January to see surgeon who ordered another pet, previous one thought to be scar tissue on lung and liver (at least that's what my dad told me) he didn't want to worry us. Well, pet showed it had spread to lungs and liver so no surgery.
My dad was doing "OK" some pain but eating and drinking with out to much trouble, although his voice started sounding worse than it had, usually that would come and go, (hoarseness) but this is now permanent I think. He had to stop the weekly stretches on throat for fear of rupturing it. Roberta, dads wife, said the X-ray on throat looked different this time like the cancer was worse in that area than before. He also started having lots of pain around stimach, liver area. Dr. Decided to try a different stronger chemo(can't remember the namewe suppose to do once a week 8x's. by his second one it kicked his butt and started having severe diarrhea and couldn't drink anything this went on for a week,'I urged Roberta to take him to the ER that he would need an IV and that he was probably dehydrated she did 2 days later, this was last week. He had to have a blood transfusion for low white cells ?? That was wednesday, yesterday he had another blood transfusion for platelets, they can't seem to get his white cells up and his diarrhea is still just as bad nothing they give him helps he does not want to eat, says his stomach shrunk and just not hungry, he is very weak and sleeps alot.
he says he does not want to continue isn't more chemo, I think the dr agree. I fully support his decision, I love my dad so much and it hurts to know he is suffering so much, the selfish part of me wants him to continue but I know this cant or shouldn't be. My sister passed away at the end of January we are all still grieving, I'm sure my dad wanted to try what ever he could because of the timing of everything, but his body is too weak to go on. Originally we were told he would be home by Saturday now they are saying maybe another week. I live 6 hours from him, husband just had surgey for a brain tumor then back in hospital for a blood clot. I can't leave my husband as he has to be driven for blood test every day from his shots and coumadin. I desperately want to be near my dad and hug him so bad, when I told him in the phone last night how much loved him he said "I know you do" he said you don't have to prove it to me. Meaning I don't have to come right now. Ok, so I know you can't give me a time frame and I know everyone is different I know all this. But having gone through blood transfusions and at the point where he is, and at this point I don't think there is any mention of hospice, do you think time is of the essence now and should by make plans to be there as soon as possible?
sorry for such a long post, I have posted here a couple times but can't seem to find them.
love and hugs to all of you!