Sep 23, 2012 - 3:42 pm
My mom started out with lung cancer (Oct 2011), chemo has now quit working and it is bigger than before and spread to her liver. I am my moms only child, I have a half-brother who is here when he can be since he lives out of state, and my half-sister... well, we don't talk. My husband and I have 4 kids, 12 and under. My biggest support comes from my cousin who took care of her mom until the end, my aunt died from cancer. She lives a few hours away so she comes here when she can for weekends. My husband is here for me, of course, but there's just things he doesn't understand and he realizes his limits of understanding my emotions. My family, cousins and remaining aunts and uncles, all know that my mom has 4-6 months to live. No one has asked if I need help. My mom is receiving care from Hospice, she lives with us, she needs help getting out of bed to get to her toilet chair in her room, and my kids and my husband help when they can. My family, except my half-brother and one cousin, haven't called or even stopped by to see her. I understand that knowing someone is dying is painful, I am living it everyday. I don't ask for help, just a call for her or a visitor would be nice.