A Peaceful Passing

connsteele
connsteele Member Posts: 232
Our son David departed this earthly plain peacefully this morning. I was sleeping in the recliner next to his bed and woke up at about 4 am, noticing that the oxygen machine sounded different..quieter. I immediately got up to check him, and he was not breathing. He must have just passed because he was still warm. His eyes were closed but his mouth was partly open in a half smile. I woke up my husband Jim and our daughter Hannah and we sat around his bed for a while, crying, and hugging him and each other. We then called the Hospice Nurse, who was here within 15 minutes. Within an hour, the funeral home came for his body.

David had been having a few bad days, mainly due to the aspiration pneumonia (he had been having trouble swallowing for about a week). But yesterday, he rallied some, I think mainly because Hannah arrived home on Thursday. We got out some old pictures of some trips we've taken together and he seemed to enjoy that.

We knew that this day would come at some point, but now that it is here, it seems so sudden and unbelieveable.

We are OK for now but I feel like we're embarking on uncharted territory. Living without David in our life will leave a huge hole that can never be filled, but the love and prayers of our friends and family will get us through.
.
Connie
m/o David
dx AA3 April 12, 2011
on hospice since March 13, 2012
passed away April 14, 2012
age 35

Comments

  • LeslieLand
    LeslieLand Member Posts: 49
    Dear Connie,
    I am so sorry.

    Dear Connie,

    I am so sorry. So sorry. I know that no words are sufficient. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts. Wishing strength, peace and grace to you all.

    Take gentle care,
    Leslie
  • falcon69
    falcon69 Member Posts: 24
    deepest sympathies
    Dear Connie,
    You and your family have my deepest sympathy at the loss of your dear son, David. I have read many of your posts since I have joined this group and have followed your journey. Your posting today touched me deeply. You have traveled a very rough road and you are in my thoughts and prayers as you begin a new road in your life. Be comforted by the many precious memories you have and know that you were a loving, supportive and wonderful mom to David.

    Blessings and peace to you,

    Julie
    mom of Scott 32 years old
    dx/oligodendroglioma gr 2/Dec. 2011
    gross total resection/Dec. 23, 2011
  • PBJ Austin
    PBJ Austin Member Posts: 347
    falcon69 said:

    deepest sympathies
    Dear Connie,
    You and your family have my deepest sympathy at the loss of your dear son, David. I have read many of your posts since I have joined this group and have followed your journey. Your posting today touched me deeply. You have traveled a very rough road and you are in my thoughts and prayers as you begin a new road in your life. Be comforted by the many precious memories you have and know that you were a loving, supportive and wonderful mom to David.

    Blessings and peace to you,

    Julie
    mom of Scott 32 years old
    dx/oligodendroglioma gr 2/Dec. 2011
    gross total resection/Dec. 23, 2011

    I'm so very sorry.
    Thank you for sharing your journey with David, as well as David's final journey. I wish you peace and healing during this most difficult time. You and everyone on this board are in my heart and in my prayers.
  • kate2kate
    kate2kate Member Posts: 19
    falcon69 said:

    deepest sympathies
    Dear Connie,
    You and your family have my deepest sympathy at the loss of your dear son, David. I have read many of your posts since I have joined this group and have followed your journey. Your posting today touched me deeply. You have traveled a very rough road and you are in my thoughts and prayers as you begin a new road in your life. Be comforted by the many precious memories you have and know that you were a loving, supportive and wonderful mom to David.

    Blessings and peace to you,

    Julie
    mom of Scott 32 years old
    dx/oligodendroglioma gr 2/Dec. 2011
    gross total resection/Dec. 23, 2011

    I am so sorry for your loss
    Connie,

    I am so sorry for your loss. I have read many of your posts and you strength and courage amaze me. You have loved your son with every ounce of energy in your being and you can be proud of that. I am at the beginning of my journey with my husband and I hope I can do half as well as you have. I hope you share the good memories with your family and that you are surrounded by love.

    I wish I could give you a big hug.
    Katie
  • alutiiqmom
    alutiiqmom Member Posts: 256
    prayers for you
    Hi Connie:

    I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad that Hannah could be there with you all. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. God Bless you all. You were a wonderful Mother to David.

    Edna
  • cindysuetoyou
    cindysuetoyou Member Posts: 513
    I am so very deeply sorry
    When I logged on and saw the title of your topic for this post, I started sobbing before I even opened it. I kept looking at the name of the poster, refusing to open it, not wanting it to be you who had written that...."a peaceful passing." I'm still crying so hard that I can't see to type. I am so sorry, Connie. I'm glad that you were there with him, I'm glad that he spent his days at home with you and his dad and his sister and that he had constant loving care, I'm glad that he didn't suffer and that he had a half smile on his face...but I feel so broken hearted. I must live in denial because it's so hard for me to believe that your David is gone. I am so sorry for how I know you must feel....it is so true, there will be such a hole left in your lives. You (and I) have lived the last few years totally for our sons...it will be so hard to know what to do when they are not with us any more. I dread the day that I fear is drawing closer for me too.

    Connie, I hope that you will feel some comfort, knowing that you did everything in your power and you fought hard for your son to have the best care that he possibly could have had. I wanted to be like you, with my David. I know that in time, you and your husband and daughter will heal and go on--as you said, you will get through this, but I hate the pain and sorrow that you all will have to go through before you reach that point.

    My thoughts and prayers and love are with you.
    Cindy
    [email protected]
    Please keep in touch if it's not too painful for you....
  • Thoughts and prayers are with you
    Connie,

    I was so sad to see your post today, and wanted you to know that my family will be thinking about you and your family during this difficult time. I'm so glad you had some good moments together when Hannah came. I can't imagine how difficult this is for you, but I just wanted you to know that others grieve with you, even from a distance. God Bless you. CindyO
  • sadinholland
    sadinholland Member Posts: 248
    unknown said:

    Thoughts and prayers are with you
    Connie,

    I was so sad to see your post today, and wanted you to know that my family will be thinking about you and your family during this difficult time. I'm so glad you had some good moments together when Hannah came. I can't imagine how difficult this is for you, but I just wanted you to know that others grieve with you, even from a distance. God Bless you. CindyO

    Connie,
    It saddend me to

    Connie,

    It saddend me to read about David's passing. A peaceful passing is a blessing. Words cannot express how deeply I hurt for you and your family. May you find comfort in knowing that he is no longer suffering and that you did all you could for him. May God continue to be with you and your family. Just continue to lean on the Lord and he will see you through. I can't imagine how you may be feeling right now, but know that you have many people here thinking of you and lifting you up in prayer during this difficult time and throughout. I pray for you to have continued strength as time passes.

    My condolences go out to you and your family.
  • Girl2010
    Girl2010 Member Posts: 26
    So sorry..
    Prayers for you... And your family. Glad you got to be there with him, I know I'll never forget the last hour we spent with my brother. Spend the next few days celebrating David's life .. And Know now you have the best kind of guardian angel..
  • Beckymarie
    Beckymarie Member Posts: 357
    Peaceful Passing
    Dear Connie...So very very sorry for you and your family. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. It so hard to lose a love one, but hope you can take some comfort that all the suffering, anxiety and sorrow of this dreaded disease is over for him. He is at peace.

    Becky
  • mighty6
    mighty6 Member Posts: 47
    so sorry
    Dear Connie,

    So sorry to hear that David has passed away. At least he is at a better place now, without any pain and suffering anymore. Please take care!
    -- Jane
  • chicken2799
    chicken2799 Member Posts: 105
    So Sorry for your loss!
    Connie,

    I try to get on here first thing Monday mornings to check on everyone over the weekend. I started crying as soon as I saw the title to your post! You and David have been down a long hard road, and you are a very strong woman! David was very lucky to have a Mother like you, and you be sure to remember that! I am so glad he passed peacefully in his sleep, and you have that smile to keep in your heart forever! There are no words to say, but I do want you to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. Like all of the others on here, your family will be in all of our thoughts this week. Again I am so sorry for your loss!!

    Prayers to you and your family!!

    Michelle
    Mobile, Al
  • barbn
    barbn Member Posts: 33
    so sorry
    I am so sorry to hear about David. You are an inspiration to all. So glad to hear Hannah made it home also.
    You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.
    We all care about you and your family.
    a friend,
    barb
  • 4theloveofmysis
    4theloveofmysis Member Posts: 248
    Dear Connie
    I am so sorry to hear about David. You and I joined this site close to the same time. I have been following your posts from the beginning. You did all you could, you fought hard and were always there for your son. My prayers are with you.
    Brenda
    sister-
    dx GMB4 feb 22 2011
    lost the battle Oct 19 2011
  • momsworld
    momsworld Member Posts: 135

    Dear Connie
    I am so sorry to hear about David. You and I joined this site close to the same time. I have been following your posts from the beginning. You did all you could, you fought hard and were always there for your son. My prayers are with you.
    Brenda
    sister-
    dx GMB4 feb 22 2011
    lost the battle Oct 19 2011

    I know there are no words to
    I know there are no words to make you feel better. I am so sorry and my heart feels very heavy for you. My hopes and prayers for you (for all of us), that you may be able to go on and celebrate his life, again, I am so sorry

    Tina
    NH
  • BenLenBo
    BenLenBo Member Posts: 145
    Our prayers and sympathy to
    Our prayers and sympathy to you and your family. In reading your post, you sound like an amazing mother and family who cared deeply for your son David. He was truly blessed to have such a caring compassionate family to be there for him during his battle with cancer. It is an inspiration to all who follow the families on this site. You are providing so much needed information to those of us who are just starting out with the diagnoises of a brain tumor. Thank-you!


    Carol-Mother of Benjamin diagnoised 9/25/2011.
  • BenLenBo
    BenLenBo Member Posts: 145
    Our prayers and sympathy to
    Our prayers and sympathy to you and your family. In reading your post, you sound like an amazing mother and family who cared deeply for your son David. He was truly blessed to have such a caring compassionate family to be there for him during his battle with cancer. It is an inspiration to all who follow the families on this site. You are providing so much needed information to those of us who are just starting out with the diagnoises of a brain tumor. Thank-you!


    Carol-Mother of Benjamin diagnoised 9/25/2011.
  • amron
    amron Member Posts: 15
    Its been hard...
    April 27, 2012 - 6:51am

    Its Been Hard....


    Hi Ms. Connie, my mother is 69 yrs. old. She was dianosed last January 2012. Talking with the doctors evrytime, was like our worst day. Saying things like nothing is gonna change anything. Sometimes i think, maybe because he knows we're poor. That even if we ask for another opinion, they will only say the same. Life is tough with people like us who don't have the money to support the person you LOVE. You feel it more when things like these happen, felt like we're not good enough for them. Today is April 27, 2012, my mom's condition is not good. She sleeps most of the day, can't talk , walk and very weak. Ive had really bad days where i could not stop crying for most of the day. I miss her....I love her with all my heart. I still ask "HIM" WHY HER... SHES AN AMAZING PERSON, A MOTHER AND A FRIEND TO US. i DON'T THINK WE'RE GONNA BE OKEY AGAIN...

    THELMA (AMRON)
  • I_Promise
    I_Promise Member Posts: 218 Member
    amron said:

    Its been hard...
    April 27, 2012 - 6:51am

    Its Been Hard....


    Hi Ms. Connie, my mother is 69 yrs. old. She was dianosed last January 2012. Talking with the doctors evrytime, was like our worst day. Saying things like nothing is gonna change anything. Sometimes i think, maybe because he knows we're poor. That even if we ask for another opinion, they will only say the same. Life is tough with people like us who don't have the money to support the person you LOVE. You feel it more when things like these happen, felt like we're not good enough for them. Today is April 27, 2012, my mom's condition is not good. She sleeps most of the day, can't talk , walk and very weak. Ive had really bad days where i could not stop crying for most of the day. I miss her....I love her with all my heart. I still ask "HIM" WHY HER... SHES AN AMAZING PERSON, A MOTHER AND A FRIEND TO US. i DON'T THINK WE'RE GONNA BE OKEY AGAIN...

    THELMA (AMRON)

    All my love,
    Dear Connie,

    I send you all my love in this time of grief. You are an amazing mother. You made your son's last days peaceful.

    J.
  • Poohtie99
    Poohtie99 Member Posts: 5
    A Peaceful Passing
    Another angel has been given their wings, peace and comfort to you and your family, has you heal and grieve for your son.