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Mom just dianosed with Lung Cancer

sassygrrl
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Joined: Apr 2011

I found out today. They say it's a small tumor, but I'm still in total shock as she quit smoking almsot 40 years ago. How do I deal with this? I'm scared, depressed, and angry.

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z
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Joined: May 2009

Hello, So sorry you had to find us. I know how scary it is. I also had a 11mm nodule that was in my lower right lobe and had to have a lobectomy via VATS. On 9-23-10, I had the lobecotmy with an 85% cure rate, and so far so good. There are many survivors here and there is a lot of treatment now a days. Please come back when you know more there are many people here to support you and your mom. I wish you both well.

iujenny
Posts: 8
Joined: Apr 2011

It is so scary to be going through this. My mom was diagnosed 1/31/11 at stage 4. It has metastasized to her bones and brain. It's been a rough few days for me. Today is the first day I found myself forcing myself to eat, run errands, move...etc. She lives 2 hours south but I've been there for the past few days quite a bit. It's hard to be there every day. She's been in the hospital, bad bout with chemo. I will pray for your mom. I just joined this site today and I feel so much less lonely than a did a few hours ago.

sleepless in jersey
Posts: 185
Joined: Feb 2011

Hello iujenny~ I so feel what your feeling...My Mom was DX 1/3/11 stage 4 Lung thats mets to the brain, spine, & pelvis. What type of treatment is your Mom receiving? Mom received WBR for 10 days and in her 2nd week of TX she was also getting her chemo Carboplatin/alimta and every cpl of weeks zameta. She is going on round 4 tomorrow and than scans. I have to say she is doing very well with the treatment so far, knock on wood. We will see what the scans show in a couple of weeks.
Im glad you joined, I was a mess as well and have found comfort here...There is hope here and people understand what your going through and they have such great advice.
Lots of thought your way...Sleepless in jersey

lynntaylor
Posts: 39
Joined: Mar 2011

Hi, my dad was diagnosed also about a month and a half ago. I have felt so helpless, lonely, mad, devastated... I too I have found comfort in this site. It is humbling to read others stories and struggles. And so encouraging to read the survivor's experiences. Dad just started chemo/radiation last week and has had a few rough days... but we're all just glad to begin the fight. Life has changed so drastically for us all.. and so quickly. Glad you all found this site too. Here's to hope...
LT

iujenny
Posts: 8
Joined: Apr 2011

I've come to believe that it's truly okay to feel helpless, lonely and mad. Exactly! Devastated is the situation and how you feel...but you, you are not. It is quite humbling to read the others' stories. It certainly was for me. You're dad is gonna feel pretty bad with chemo and radiation. Just always make him laugh when you can and the best advice I can give is to be concious of the side effects. It's so important to eat and drink. My mom just got out of a crappy hospital where they told us 3-6 months... which is not the case. Her oncologist was MAD! Mom just went in for pain and dehydration. They pretty much kept her comatosed. Assholes! That's when I get mad. :)

What chemo is your Dad taking? Life has changed. It will not be all for the worse though. This has tested me in so many ways in such a short time. Just remember that you won't see immediate results- because I have had such a hard time with that. This is truly a fight and all of us must arm ourselves. From the wise words of my Mother- What we don't know, we fear. Stay informed, ask questions and I've found that whether good or bad, the more I know the less fear. Keep in touch and know you are most certainly not alone! Hugs! iujenny

lynntaylor
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Joined: Mar 2011

iujenny, I hadn't seen this, but so needed it today. Thanks for your post. It's been a rough weekend... like you said it truly is a rollercoaster. I had been doing better until Friday, and then for some reason felt like crying all weekend. I have a great support group of friends... but I still feel terribly lonely. Their lives are happy and fun right now... I feel guilty sharing any of this burden with them... but it is so all consuming... it's all I think about these days. My dad is on the Carbo / Taxol too. He is miserable... and still in a lot of pain from the tumor. I am impatiently waiting for some sign of results.

How is your mom? How are her treatments going?

Take care,
LT

iujenny
Posts: 8
Joined: Apr 2011

Yes, there is hope here. In my mind, it's important to understand that good or bad, we're in for a fight. My mom is out of the hospital, her idiot family doctor was ready to let her stay medicated till she died. She came out of it and communicated with the oncologists and let's just say- her doctor is fired and her oncologists think he's a doofus also. My mom got out of the hospital on Monday and started her second round of Carboplatin/Avastin/Taxol today. We have a few days before it hits. This is actually a pretty toxic chemo. This is an awful thing to go through but it is what we'll go through. I can finally have a conversation with mom again!! People do not lie when they say it's a rollercoaster. My mom is actually getting fluid treatments to ward off dehydration. She actually told me that she scared herself because she didn't try to combat the side effects sooner. I am glad you posted because you aren't alone, and thank you because I don't feel so alone. My family and friends are great but this is a different and wonderful type of support. Mom's also had radiation on her brain, spine and left leg. She's in the middle of radiation with her right leg. Mom's are strong people and continue to encourage and engage your mom. Keep in touch... iujenny

lynntaylor
Posts: 39
Joined: Mar 2011

Hi sassygrrl... how are you? I hope you are finding some ways to deal...
thinking of you, and all going through this.
LT

daughtertobea
Posts: 7
Joined: Apr 2011

My mom was just diagnosed with stage IV squamous cell lung cancer that has spread to her bones. I know exactly how you feel. I have my moments where everything is okay, but other times are tough. The hardest part for me is that feeling of loneliness that no one understands, which of course, is not the case. I guess that's why I am here-- to find people who do understand. Keep positive thoughts and surround yourself around those who are positive. Take care.

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