Just plain tired

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Noellesmom
Noellesmom Member Posts: 1,859 Member
edited March 2014 in Caregivers #1
There's nothing really unnerving or spectacular about where we are in our journey with Jim's cancer. I am just plain old worn out.

He's finished his treatments, had (good) preliminary checkups with both oncologists, PET scan is scheduled for next week, finances are levelling out, the kids are all good - and yet, I just want to sit down and not get back up.

This is "our" time of year, the weather has turned off beautiful, cool and breezy. I have looked down in my bag of tricks and am completely out of motivation. I forget where I put it last time I used it, I guess.

I do not think I have ever been here before in my life.

Once again, cancer sucks. And I don't even have it!

Thanks for listening.

Tired hugs to all.

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  • ketziah35
    ketziah35 Member Posts: 1,145
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    hi
    I know what you mean, but hopefully I can help, because I am starting to come out of the lack of motivation thing myself. I had to start making lists of what i need to do before Xmmas and what I need to do this week. I have been going back and forth out of town to help with my mom and in between my house has turned into a wreck. First of all, I called in a housekeeper to clean. I can not do that now maybe later. Then things that I can't get motivated to do in the house, I do them during a commercial while watching TV. This breaks it down into little bites which I can handle.

    I'm eating too much so I wrote the first item on the list to be cook soups. So the most important thing gets put at the top of the list, then it is no way to avoid it.

    HOpe this helps.
  • grandmafay
    grandmafay Member Posts: 1,633 Member
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    Not Plain
    You are not just plain anything. You are an amazing women trying to make sense out of this life after cancer stuff. You are just taking some time off. That is ok. You deserve it. Fay
  • kimmygarland
    kimmygarland Member Posts: 312
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    grandmafay said:

    Not Plain
    You are not just plain anything. You are an amazing women trying to make sense out of this life after cancer stuff. You are just taking some time off. That is ok. You deserve it. Fay

    "Just Plain Tired"
    .... me too.... I'm just too dang tired to type any more!

    :)
  • zinniemay
    zinniemay Member Posts: 522
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    kimmygarland said:

    "Just Plain Tired"
    .... me too.... I'm just too dang tired to type any more!

    :)

    we all are
    We have all these things to deal with. We are all so tired , tired of the fears the tears the worries tires of it all. But each day passes for another one. We just fake our way thru it. Trying to Smile and hold down the fort. So many things we once enjoyed are like memories fading away.
    The only good thing to come out of this is the meeting on here to see that we are all human and suffer the same worries and thoughts. It somehow helps us know we arenot so alone. That our thoughts are not evil , strange or different . As much as we are so different we are just as much the same. Stuggling to understand why.
    I am glad I found you all, I am sad It had to be this way.
    Jennie
  • wifflefrog
    wifflefrog Member Posts: 31
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    Thanks!
    CANCER does suck just as much for those that don't have it.
    And take a break, no one really expects you to be totally perky all the time.
    So do sit and enjoy that right now all is level. I mean you may need this as life will pick back up again and that energy will just naturally kick in.
    I do appreciate all these posts, my husband said other caregivers just do it and we do, but it does not mean we are perfect and that its easy. So hearing everyone's thoughts keeps me motivated. Because its not easy!
  • Noellesmom
    Noellesmom Member Posts: 1,859 Member
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    wifflefrog said:

    Thanks!
    CANCER does suck just as much for those that don't have it.
    And take a break, no one really expects you to be totally perky all the time.
    So do sit and enjoy that right now all is level. I mean you may need this as life will pick back up again and that energy will just naturally kick in.
    I do appreciate all these posts, my husband said other caregivers just do it and we do, but it does not mean we are perfect and that its easy. So hearing everyone's thoughts keeps me motivated. Because its not easy!

    It's not easy
    That, wifflefrog, is the understatement of the century.
  • 3Mana
    3Mana Member Posts: 811
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    Noellesmom said:

    It's not easy
    That, wifflefrog, is the understatement of the century.

    Take time for yourself
    HI,
    Dealing with being a caregiver is very exhausting, but remember we went into our marriage "for better or worse". I didn't have to take care of Tom too long cause he died within 2 months. But I felt like a robot sometimes. I was moving but the battery was wearing out, does this make sense? You've been taking care of Jim and I know it's hard, but hang in there. Why not try to go out to lunch with some friends or something. Do you drink wine? Have a glass at night and try to relax. You are entitled to take a break and I'm sure Jim will understand. Just keep venting to us, and we'll try to help. "Carole"
  • Noellesmom
    Noellesmom Member Posts: 1,859 Member
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    3Mana said:

    Take time for yourself
    HI,
    Dealing with being a caregiver is very exhausting, but remember we went into our marriage "for better or worse". I didn't have to take care of Tom too long cause he died within 2 months. But I felt like a robot sometimes. I was moving but the battery was wearing out, does this make sense? You've been taking care of Jim and I know it's hard, but hang in there. Why not try to go out to lunch with some friends or something. Do you drink wine? Have a glass at night and try to relax. You are entitled to take a break and I'm sure Jim will understand. Just keep venting to us, and we'll try to help. "Carole"

    Thanks
    All the comments are appreciated.

    Follow-up PET scan Friday. Prayers would also be appreciated.

    Hugs to all.
  • karenbeth
    karenbeth Member Posts: 194
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    Noellesmom said:

    Thanks
    All the comments are appreciated.

    Follow-up PET scan Friday. Prayers would also be appreciated.

    Hugs to all.

    good thoughts
    I will be thinking good thoughts for Friday.

    Karen
  • kimmygarland
    kimmygarland Member Posts: 312
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    karenbeth said:

    good thoughts
    I will be thinking good thoughts for Friday.

    Karen

    Noellesmom
    Holding good thoughts for tomorrow.

    Oh, and I'm still tired. Came back to work yesterday and it's like I have two full time jobs now. I am trying not to let myself get overwhelmed, and get us worked into a doable schedule... but I can tell I am going to live for the weekends for a while!

    Bob's doing better physically. Mentally he's been down a little lately. He's tired of being "tired and sleepy" he says. Wants the trache out - hopefully on Tuesday, 10/12. We'll see.

    Keep the faith and take care.
  • Noellesmom
    Noellesmom Member Posts: 1,859 Member
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    kimmygarland said:

    Noellesmom
    Holding good thoughts for tomorrow.

    Oh, and I'm still tired. Came back to work yesterday and it's like I have two full time jobs now. I am trying not to let myself get overwhelmed, and get us worked into a doable schedule... but I can tell I am going to live for the weekends for a while!

    Bob's doing better physically. Mentally he's been down a little lately. He's tired of being "tired and sleepy" he says. Wants the trache out - hopefully on Tuesday, 10/12. We'll see.

    Keep the faith and take care.

    You, too
    Take care of yourself, Kimmy.

    Hugs.

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