Tomoxifin and sex drive
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What makes it painfuljo jo said:unfortantly i am going threw
unfortantly i am going threw the exact same thing...no sex drive, its painful & theres no fun in it for me anymore and ive only been on it for a month! It sucks...so Ellee it seems were in the same boat!
I am going on it soon so want to know what to expect. What makes it painful?...dryness...I am guessing?
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Astroglide....or another product...jo jo said:yep...dry as a well in the
yep...dry as a well in the desert!
There are products on TV ads, can't remember who the company is, that is even a 2-pack...one for the male, one for the female.
Sometimes getting back into the saddle is a bit tough. I just posted on my 'other' cancer (colorectal) board...FINALLY I have my drive back, no more pain (the radiation for my rectal cancer went straight thru my uterus...it HURT during penetration)! I am into my 5th and final year of Tamoxifen.
About a year ago, with no enjoyment during sex, I just made up my mind that this was not going to be the way it would be for the rest of my life. So, I had a frank talk with my beau. I told him I needed to 'run the show', everything from being on top to motion and depth. After using Astroglide for a time, I started making my own stuff again. I must admit, it was easier at the beginning to have my beau pleasure me first...things relaxed, and penetration was easier.
It DOES take some work. And a bit of patience. And a strong desire to make it work! I always was a willing participant before cancer, why not now?????
And even MORE cool...because I had a total hysterectomy as part of the rectal cancer J-pouch surgery...I have no danger of getting pregnant!!! WHAT could be BETTER???? ROFL!!!
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Astroglide?KathiM said:Astroglide....or another product...
There are products on TV ads, can't remember who the company is, that is even a 2-pack...one for the male, one for the female.
Sometimes getting back into the saddle is a bit tough. I just posted on my 'other' cancer (colorectal) board...FINALLY I have my drive back, no more pain (the radiation for my rectal cancer went straight thru my uterus...it HURT during penetration)! I am into my 5th and final year of Tamoxifen.
About a year ago, with no enjoyment during sex, I just made up my mind that this was not going to be the way it would be for the rest of my life. So, I had a frank talk with my beau. I told him I needed to 'run the show', everything from being on top to motion and depth. After using Astroglide for a time, I started making my own stuff again. I must admit, it was easier at the beginning to have my beau pleasure me first...things relaxed, and penetration was easier.
It DOES take some work. And a bit of patience. And a strong desire to make it work! I always was a willing participant before cancer, why not now?????
And even MORE cool...because I had a total hysterectomy as part of the rectal cancer J-pouch surgery...I have no danger of getting pregnant!!! WHAT could be BETTER???? ROFL!!!
Hugs, Kathi
Ive never heard of this is it just a lubricant or a prescrition drug? I have seen the his and her fun stuff at the stores and thought about tryin them to get thing back on track.
But you dont go for the whole 5 years like this....i mean you adventually get back to normal in a few years while on tamoxifen...cuz if your going on your 5th year of it and it sounds like your getting back to normal...right? If so thats great to hear!!!0 -
Yes I have experienced this.
Yes I have experienced this. I tried replens, that didn't do much. I tried a prescription for premarin cream. That really helped a lot. After a while though, I stopped using it, and have discovered that if I deal with the pain and "deal" with it, then it becomes less painful.0 -
Do any of these things giveEil4186 said:Yes I have experienced this.
Yes I have experienced this. I tried replens, that didn't do much. I tried a prescription for premarin cream. That really helped a lot. After a while though, I stopped using it, and have discovered that if I deal with the pain and "deal" with it, then it becomes less painful.
Do any of these things give you UTI or anything like that?0 -
Yeah, see, it wasn't the Tami....jo jo said:Astroglide?
Ive never heard of this is it just a lubricant or a prescrition drug? I have seen the his and her fun stuff at the stores and thought about tryin them to get thing back on track.
But you dont go for the whole 5 years like this....i mean you adventually get back to normal in a few years while on tamoxifen...cuz if your going on your 5th year of it and it sounds like your getting back to normal...right? If so thats great to hear!!!
It was the chemo/rads for the rectal. Then the hyster and the J-pouch surgery for the rectal (which is a VERY interesting surgery...they re-did my entire plumbing!). Just this alone took about a year to get comfortable.
6 months after the rectal I started treatment for the breast cancer with a lumpectomy. 2 weeks after that hospital stay, I developed a full bowel obstruction...had more. By then, my beau felt so sorry for me that he didn't even try to get back to normal.
After I started tami, my beau developed heart trouble...no, not from the tami...lol! So, it was more a lost opportunity than anything...we both were the 'walking wounded'...sex was not a big thought....
But, yeah, I had most of my trouble from the surgeries, hyster and rads...the dryness was the only result from the Tamoxifen that I could see...and that was solvable...KY jelly is the maker of the couple stuff.....
Now, we are both in a healthy spot at the same time. We joke that we should be invited to every party...between his heart disease and my cancer (the top 2 major life-threatening situations), we reduce the odds for everyone else!!!
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Tamoxifen side effects
Hey, Ellee. I went so dry and was incredibly itchy after 2 weeks on Tamoxifen. For 3 days I thought I would go out of my mind! Then, poof, it vanished. I don't know if my body adjusted or what. I am wet enough to have non-painful intercourse. But here's something: I got wicked bad hot flashes, worse than the ones I've had since I went through natural menopause 11 years ago at age 47. So after 2 months on Tamoxifen I spoke to my gyn and she put me on Effexor. Not only has it reduced my hot flashes to just 5 or 6 in 24 hours, it gave me back my libido. Not something anyone said anything about. It couldn't be coincidence. My husband is thrilled and so am I! We just celebrated our 34th anniversary and we feel like twenty-somethings again.
So, I don't know if Effexor is for you, but it sure counteracted some of the side effects of Tamoxifen for me.
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Man do i feel blessed!KathiM said:Yeah, see, it wasn't the Tami....
It was the chemo/rads for the rectal. Then the hyster and the J-pouch surgery for the rectal (which is a VERY interesting surgery...they re-did my entire plumbing!). Just this alone took about a year to get comfortable.
6 months after the rectal I started treatment for the breast cancer with a lumpectomy. 2 weeks after that hospital stay, I developed a full bowel obstruction...had more. By then, my beau felt so sorry for me that he didn't even try to get back to normal.
After I started tami, my beau developed heart trouble...no, not from the tami...lol! So, it was more a lost opportunity than anything...we both were the 'walking wounded'...sex was not a big thought....
But, yeah, I had most of my trouble from the surgeries, hyster and rads...the dryness was the only result from the Tamoxifen that I could see...and that was solvable...KY jelly is the maker of the couple stuff.....
Now, we are both in a healthy spot at the same time. We joke that we should be invited to every party...between his heart disease and my cancer (the top 2 major life-threatening situations), we reduce the odds for everyone else!!!
Hugs, Kathi
Man do i feel blessed...i dont think i could handle some of the stuff ive seen some people i know and some people on here like you and what they are going through!
I know i get through mine with humor and making the best of it...but your one tough cookie and im truely glad to see you havent lost your humor through this....i tip my hat to ya...i can actually do it to cuz im wearing one! hehe!
I hear ya on the cancer and heart disease...my moms side, me and my grandma had cancer and on my dads side my dad and all 6 of his siblings have heart disease. Sadly i have to go and have my heart tested now cuz my muga scan came back with something wrong ...not sure what but right now im in no hurry to find out...im just tryin to get through the rest of my remaining surgeries then worry about that...but right now one thing at a time!0 -
I have been on Tamoxofin for
I have been on Tamoxofin for almost 4 years now. I think that no labido comes from no estrogen in our bodies. At first I was having no orgasims' anymore, but now it is better. Not great like it used to be but better. I to am on Effexor for hot flashes but still have at least 10-15 daily. I am not so dry now. Oral sex has helped with moisture. Sex is definatly not what it used to be, but when you love each other and want to please each other it does get better.0 -
Astroglide is a lubricantjo jo said:Astroglide?
Ive never heard of this is it just a lubricant or a prescrition drug? I have seen the his and her fun stuff at the stores and thought about tryin them to get thing back on track.
But you dont go for the whole 5 years like this....i mean you adventually get back to normal in a few years while on tamoxifen...cuz if your going on your 5th year of it and it sounds like your getting back to normal...right? If so thats great to hear!!!
Astroglide is a lubricant that you can get at just about any store...I may be new on here & have no experience with the drugs and side effects you're talking about but I do know about Astroglide! A few years back I threw a bridal shower for a younger co-worker, and both she and her husband were waiting until marriage to have sex. Along with the pretty bridal lingerie and household knick-knacks I got her, I also threw in a bottle of Astroglide as well-they both were sure to thank me when they got back from the honeymoon!0 -
available in most drugstoresjo jo said:Astroglide?
Ive never heard of this is it just a lubricant or a prescrition drug? I have seen the his and her fun stuff at the stores and thought about tryin them to get thing back on track.
But you dont go for the whole 5 years like this....i mean you adventually get back to normal in a few years while on tamoxifen...cuz if your going on your 5th year of it and it sounds like your getting back to normal...right? If so thats great to hear!!!
The Astroglide was suggested by my GYN for the vaginal dryness when I went through menopause several years ago. It does not require a prescription, it is over the counter. Two years ago, I mistakenly packed it in my carry- on luggage on our flight to our Florida vacation. The tube is purple and quite large. Airport security found it on the xray of my luggage. They removed it, holding it up and asking "what is this?" "Do you have a prescription from your doctor?" Of course they ended up chuking it into the garbage and I emerged from the line a bit redfaced. My husband stood there speechless and tongue tied when the security officer asked what it was used for. We stopped at CVS when we got to our destination and replaced it.Yes, the Astroglide is pretty effective and does not cause UTI. We still get a laugh when we remember our "Astroglide incident".
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K that is halarious!!!KayNYC said:available in most drugstores
The Astroglide was suggested by my GYN for the vaginal dryness when I went through menopause several years ago. It does not require a prescription, it is over the counter. Two years ago, I mistakenly packed it in my carry- on luggage on our flight to our Florida vacation. The tube is purple and quite large. Airport security found it on the xray of my luggage. They removed it, holding it up and asking "what is this?" "Do you have a prescription from your doctor?" Of course they ended up chuking it into the garbage and I emerged from the line a bit redfaced. My husband stood there speechless and tongue tied when the security officer asked what it was used for. We stopped at CVS when we got to our destination and replaced it.Yes, the Astroglide is pretty effective and does not cause UTI. We still get a laugh when we remember our "Astroglide incident".
Hugs, K
Im
K that is halarious!!!
Im going to have to remember to NOT take it with me threw the airport next time i fly!
Thanks for the laugh!!!!0
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