Hello everyone, I'm Sue and I'm new here. I was DX with lung cancer 2 weeks ago and I'm still waiting to see an oncologist , that will happen this week. So of course I've been on pins and needles waiting to hear just where I stand in this upcoming battle.
My question is this, do any of you find yourselves having to spend alot of time reassuring your friends, family co-workers that it's all going t be OK? It seems like once they found out about my cancer then they wanted me to tell them it was all OK and I'd be better in no time..this is exhausting for me.
Also, everyone seems to have the "best place" for treatment even though none of them have ever gone through cancer treatment. I know they are trying to help but I also have to follow the protocol set up by my imsurance company or risk having essential services not getting paid for because I used the wrong provider. They seem to think I'm dragging my butt on getting treatment started and all I can keep telling them is I'm doing the best I can and of course no one wants to get rid of this disease more than me.
I dearly love my friends and family and I know I am so blessed to have people around me who care and want the best for me but how do I tell them that I have to do things a certain way because that's what I can afford to do without hurting their feelings. I try and be sympathetic to them and having lost a partner myself to cancer I know how frustrating it can be to " wait and watch" but they are exhausting me and I don't ever want to feel like I let someone down by not validating their concerns.
Any suggestions? thanks, Sue