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ladyg
ladyg Member Posts: 1,577
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
I am in treatment for bc myself and had surgery and awaiting rads. I am worried about what is going to happen with me. I know I will beat this and be fine in a few months but the fear of the unknown still gets to me.
I also feel bad because I have a niece (35 and a single mom of an 8 yr.old) who has cancer. It started in her uterus and even though it was treated it has spread throughout her body. I know her time is short even though her drs. will not give a time frame.
I feel kind of guilty because I can not be there to help my sister ( she know about my fight too) deal with this. I am as supportive as I can be when we talk on the phone but I wish I could do more for both of them. I know I need to put myself first right now but it is so hard knowing what is going on there.
I am glad that I can come here and let things out. I thank you all for listening.

Hugs and prayers to all

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  • Jinx721
    Jinx721 Member Posts: 2
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    Too Many emotions
    My heart goes out to your and your family. Right now you need to focus on yourself and should not feel guilty by any means. Offer moral support as best you can. Take this one day at a time, you will need your strength for your upcoming radiation.

    We all have a fear of the unknown, but the majority of us choose not to focus on this aspect, you are alive today, this is what is important.

    Laurie
  • Flakey_Flake
    Flakey_Flake Member Posts: 130
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    Hang in There
    You are a very compassionate person, worrying about your neice, while you also need to put yourself first. I am sure your family will understand that you have to attend to your own needs. Your sister is probably experiencing the same thing - wanting to do for her daughter and be supportive of you at the same time. It is a sad situation, but it sounds like you have a loving family. Sometimes just having someone who will listen with compassion can be very important. It sounds like you are already doing that. Hang in there, ladyg. And when you think you've reached the end of your rope, tie a knot, and hang on.
  • ms_independent
    ms_independent Member Posts: 214
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    your job
    The reality is that your primary job is your recovery. Do what you can without draining your energy and ditch the guilt. I'm sure your sister feels guilty for not being able to do more for you. and I'm sure your phone calls help more than you know. Sometimes life isn't fair and sometimes it is even more unfair. It sounds like this is one of those times. Be gentle with yourself. Take care of yourself and then do what you can for your sister and her daughter.

    Hugs, El

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