Jan 28, 2010 - 10:34 pm
I just here looking for people's prior experiences, support, but mostly hope. My husband just turned 30 a couple weeks ago and this week we began the whirlwind of probable kidney cancer. There is a possibility that is may be a different form of cancer (lymphoma), but kidney cancer is the most likely the animal we are dealing with. There is also a mass in one of the surrounding lymphnodes almost the size of the mass in the kidney. Both are very large. And possibly a small lesion in his liver. We still waiting on the biospy results, but everything I am finding in my research is painting a very grimm picture of what lies ahead. I can't stand the thought of our 15 month old daughter growing up without her daddy. And I am going to do everything I can to make sure that doesn't have to happen.
Is there anyone out there who has has the unfortunate experience of having to deal with this as such a young age? Anyone who had a large mass in a lymphnode? With everyone freaking out around us, telling us their stories, their recommendations, it is hard not to become overwhelmed. I am trying desperately to be strong for my family while trying to be understanding of the fact that he is not only my husband but also his mother's child. I hate feeling out of control (I know, get use to it) and I hate being treated like a child and like I have no medical background when I worked in the healthcare industry for over 5 years. Because we are so young, people seem to want to take us under their wing and make decisions for us. I need the reassurance that we have every right to stand our ground and make the decisions we feel are best for us and our daughter. Even it means that I am going to be known as the icy, cold b-word from this point on.
Wow! This went from asking for other experiences to a venting session. Sorry!