Wish I could cry

Bee 1960
Bee 1960 Member Posts: 2
edited March 2014 in Grief and Bereavement #1
My husband of 46 years died after a year long battle with brain cancer in Nov 2008. I have never been able to cry much... it seems I hold it back. Now I'm wishing I could cry and can't figure out what to do. We were sweethearts since 9th grade, and he was my best friend. Wish I could have a good cry... I don't understand.
I well up when I think of him, someone speaks to me kindly, and lots of other occasions, but I never really let it all go. I remember that great scene in THE BIG CHILL when Glenn Close sat in the shower and sobbed... and that is exactly what I feel I need. God bless us everyone. Bee 1960

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  • angelsbaby
    angelsbaby Member Posts: 1,165
    Bee
    My husband just passed away april 16 2009 i cry aliitle every day no big crys just little and that may be ok. Take care


    michelle
  • MichelleP
    MichelleP Member Posts: 254

    Bee
    My husband just passed away april 16 2009 i cry aliitle every day no big crys just little and that may be ok. Take care


    michelle

    My husband passed in October
    My husband passed in October and my tears never stop. They run constantly all the time and I can't stop them. Doesn't matter how much medications I take....they will never end until my soul joins his. Which I hope happens quickly.
  • clsmith
    clsmith Member Posts: 76
    MichelleP said:

    My husband passed in October
    My husband passed in October and my tears never stop. They run constantly all the time and I can't stop them. Doesn't matter how much medications I take....they will never end until my soul joins his. Which I hope happens quickly.

    Michelle
    Hugs to you. Please take care of yourself. We want you here my friend. Take care Cindy
  • grandmafay
    grandmafay Member Posts: 1,633
    MichelleP said:

    My husband passed in October
    My husband passed in October and my tears never stop. They run constantly all the time and I can't stop them. Doesn't matter how much medications I take....they will never end until my soul joins his. Which I hope happens quickly.

    Care
    I just came to this thread again and found your post, Michelle. I agree with Cindy. We do need you. I worry about you and hope you are reaching out to those close to you. Crying is not a bad thing. I had a older friend at church tell me she thought she was dealing with her husband's death well until two months after he died. Then she cried for a month straight. If you need to cry, that's ok. I don't think we should ask too much of ourselves right now. Every time I go out I seem to find new people who don't know of my husband's death and ask how he is doing. I came home totally emotionally exhausted. I never knew that grieving was such hard work. You continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. Fay
  • sweetblood22
    sweetblood22 Member Posts: 3,228

    Care
    I just came to this thread again and found your post, Michelle. I agree with Cindy. We do need you. I worry about you and hope you are reaching out to those close to you. Crying is not a bad thing. I had a older friend at church tell me she thought she was dealing with her husband's death well until two months after he died. Then she cried for a month straight. If you need to cry, that's ok. I don't think we should ask too much of ourselves right now. Every time I go out I seem to find new people who don't know of my husband's death and ask how he is doing. I came home totally emotionally exhausted. I never knew that grieving was such hard work. You continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. Fay

    sometimes it takes a while
    sometimes it takes a while to get over the shock of losing someone. i had it happen to me, and i could not cry. finally after some time, it finally felt real,and the shock wore off. i cried for a week straight.

    you are in my thoughts and prayers.