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Ok Semis!

Let's start our own list of Stupid Things People Say to us:

A friend wrote me a long letter saying that my sister was dying because she had unrepented sin in her life.

A friend of mine said she couldn't think of me as having colon cancer and a tumor removed but that I just had a wart removed. (ok, in her defense, it was said because I seemed so healthy and I happen to love this friend and we laughed about it, but it was still a stupid thing to say).

"You don't look as bad as I thought you were going to look!"

"Just pray harder"

"How did you get colon cancer when you eat so healthy?"

"Why are you treating me this way?" (written in an email when I hadn't responded properly right after my diagnosis and was trying to figure out my life with 5 kids (3 homeschooling, 1 a nursing toddler, and 1 teenager).

"Just do the chemo, Emily." (I can't count the number of times I heard this one).

Ok, your turn.

peace, emily

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you were the last person I ever thought would get colon cancer.....you are the queen of greens.

-wow I know you have done chemo but you have hair!

-I know you are not feeling very well but you look terrific

-my personal favourite :):):) when friends say Nothing at all

mags

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I guess that's apparently a very common thing with chemo - because I have heard all of those!

wow - you still have your hair!

Oh - you don't look like you had/have cancer.

Tell, me, just WHAT does cancer look like? (although I now pay more attention to people lifting things out of the meat freezer at the grocery store - if they have gloves on I have offered to help!)

oh - yeah - and one of the best - how did you "catch" it?

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"What did you do that made you get cancer?" (Well, duh, I'd like to know how I got it, too! I didn't "do" anything to get it!)

"You look better today than last time I saw you." (Well, thanks- I guess that means I looked pretty bad last time!)

"Don't take chemo- it will kill you." (I know this is the opposite of what you heard and did, Emily- but I was a severe stage IV at diagnosis and feel I surely would have died within a few months if I hadn't done the chemo. A couple of well meaning friends were insistent I try alternatives to chemo and one really acted upset with me for going the chemo route. If I were less than a stage IV, I might have considered it, but felt I didn't have the luxury of time to see if those alternatives were going to work)

I'm sure others will have even more doozies to top these-

Lisa

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the same as you Lisa, had I been less stage, I may not be doing chemo either, but if I hadn't done it, I may not be here right now.

I get the hair one ALL the time, and the SKINNY comment!

"Wow! you really cut your hair short! where did it all go??" (I had waist length hair, they just dont realize it's all in my shower drain now)

"You're so skinny now!" (hmm..guess ya thought I must have been fat before then)

"Stage 4? I'm sorry to hear that" (well, damn, I'm not dead yet!)

Hugsss!
~Donna

This was on ColonClub.com and enjoyed it thoroughly, a poster posted the top things on the list:

"Sure, you might die but I could step off a kerb and get hit by a bus" Umm, ok I guess there might be a parallel - if you know which street kerb you'll be stepping off and you've got the date, time and number of the bus. Oh, and the bus backs over you for good measure.

"You have to think positively" Why, am I gonna die if I don't act like Tigger on prozac all the time?? Do ya think all the people who die are the one's who don't think positively? I am positive I have cancer. I am equally positive this is not a good thing.

"Oh, I know someone who died from that type of cancer" Thanks for that, you made me feel so much better.

"God gives you what you can handle" I could have handled winning the lottery too.

"What's your prognosis?" If I'm around in 10 years, I'll let you know.

"If anyone can beat it it's you" Yep, all along the cure to cancer is being myself! Sucks to everyone else, you're all doomed.

"It's not your time to go" Then why bother with the surgery and treatment?

"Life is not fair" Thanks for the heads up.

"God has a plan for you" ...but He didn’t quite get around to making one for all those poor suckers who have died from cancer, huh?

"Every cloud has a silver lining" Feel free to elaborate on that, I sure can't see anything good about being diagnosed with a life threatening disease that is highly likely to kill me and will at the very least leave me with permanent scars and side effects and a high risk of recurrence in the future.

"It’s just a bump in the road" Living with a cancer diagnoses, getting chemo, radiation, dealing with the multitude of side effects, gaining weight, having hot flashes, being depressed and anxious is not a bump in the road it's a major mountain.

"Lance beat cancer"…and I am going to beat you over the head with the hard copy edition of It’s not about the Bike….

[After the final round of chemo] "Just think, you're done" Done? I'm done?...I guess I'm done with cancer everyone. Nothing left to do. Umm, how about all the side effects and worrying for the rest of my life about recurrence?

"So, is it the bad kind of cancer?" No, I have the good kind.

"This is a treatable disease" Oh sure. Chemo, surgery, more chemo, radiotherapy. No sweat.

"How do you know if it's working?" If it doesn’t work, I end up 6 feet under. That’s how.

"You'll be fine, you have a great attitude" If attitude really matters then why did I get cancer in the first place? Or does attitude only matter after you get cancer? Right now my attitude about cancer is lousy. What does that mean?

"If you really want to live, you will. Just never give up. When people give up, they die." Finally, the real explanation for cancer survival rates! For example, why have cancer survival rates gone up over time? Because more people who get cancer really want to live! Why does the US have slightly better survival stats than say Europe and Canada? Because as everyone knows, Canadians and Europeans are more prone to giving up, right?

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I went to a new lab for my bloodwork and the nurse said to me "you have colon cancer?" and asked what my prognosis was!

wow! you didn't lose ANY weight at all! You actually look like you gained some. It's good to have some extra weight on you.

So, how long are you going to be on steroids? p.s. never told this person I was on steroids, granted, if you saw me it is very obvious I am on them, but you don't say it to that person!!!!! THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK, PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!

WOW, thank God you didn't loose your hair!
Karyn :00

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Oh donna....wait I had forgotten those

-yes you know we could all step off the curb

-it is alllllll attitude....you obviously have such a good attitude....lol

thanks Emily and Donna

oh it's kindof mean too though :) :) :)

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.. did not write all that, it was someone else, not to be mean though LOL...It's all in fun, but I know alot of people that say these things are very well intentioned, and just speechless, I catch myself doing it as well, we all do, but some of it that was posted just got a laugh out of me.

Hugsss!
~Donna

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I got that same one Lisa, "chemo will kill you." by a doctor no less! And yes, it's a stupid thing to say to someone who is going to do chemo.

(disclaimer--I may promote alternatives for those looking for other ways to heal their cancer--especially when Western Medicine runs its course and they send you packing-- but each person has to make that highly personal decision without judgment from others. Your friends were way out of line as much as my "pastor" who hadn't done one iota of research about my type of cancer and knew nothing about my health history). Ignorance is ignorance.

This was told to my husband after he found out that my tumor was cancerous, "You have to die from something."

We actually laugh at this one too (now) since my hubby does a great impression of the whole scenario.

peace, emily

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What happens in Stage 5? :) :)

Rob; in Van

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Donna I did not mean to imply you were being mean....I just meant...is it not funny that we really all have heard these things

and you are right donna....I have probably said them myself lol

mags

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I know that mags, I wasn't offended or anything, I was just saying...lol...

Hugsss!
~Donna

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HAHA, alot of those are familiar.. My best friend made a comment when we talked about me possibly having to get a colostomy. It made me laugh so hard at the time and it was what I needed. She said" at least you won't have you wipe your AS_. LOL Not stupid, but wanted to share. It was so funny..

I don't know how you keep up with everything, well what do you do when you have a 4&5 yr old at home. You just have no choice.

You look so good, I wouldn't even had known you were sick, you have great color. What color were you expecting me to be GRAY? LOL

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OMG

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Actually most people have been pretty sympathetic but here goes some of what was said to me - well looking at all I wrote maybe not real sympathetic after all :)

By my doctor no less, "the oxi is just a minor nuisance" Ummmm what? Have you ever taken this chemo before. I don't think she meant it the way it was said, but the cold sensitivity was terrible along with the neuropathy.

"You have lost so much weight." Yes, you don't think that I can see that when I look in the mirror. Oh wait a minute, all my images staring back at me in the silver glass are from a "fun house of mirrors."

"You should just eat, eat anything you want. Just put on some weight." Oh my goodness, I got tired of hearing that. You would think that I am purposely not eating, because I love the effects that the chemo give me better than eating something to make me feel better - yeah right.

"You look a little better today. Last time I saw you, you didn't look very well." Well geez thanks a lot.

"Wow you really look tired." Yeah well I was just up for three days after having two days of steroids. I feel like I had 5 pots of strong coffee.

"You're so strong." Sometimes I just wanted to cry when people said that. It's like what do they expect me to do, go in a corner and lay there. I did have to be so strong for my family and there were days I just wanted nothing more than to cry and curl up in a ball, but it seemed like everyone expected me to carry forward. This was probably the most sensitive statement for someone to say to me.

I'm sure I'll think of more.

Hugs! Kim

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Sometimes it's their tone of voice.

'How AREEEEEEEEEEE you?'
'Are you going to be OKAYYYYYYYYYYYY?'
'Did chemo burn?'
'When will you find out if chemo worked?'
'When will you know if the cancer is all gone?' (SURGERY got it)
'Why did you have to have chemo?'

Then the old people in church would want to tell me about Great Aunt Suzie who 'had cancer in 1960' and how much 'pain she was in during chemo and her dying'.

'Do you have a bag?' (NO)
'Where's your bag?' 'Is it hard to hide your bag?'

I have a couple of friends who would run the other way to avoid me once they heard I had cancer. Is it contagious?

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Someone asked if I was doing chemo. I said yes. Her reply was "ugh that's like putting Drano down your throat" Gee thanks!
Karyn

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Now that I'm almost 5 years out..."Well, it's like you never had cancer at all" (Come to my house, after dinner, almost every night, and count the trips to the toilet).

Another recent one - "Well, don't you think you should clean out your colon each month, since you already know you can get cancer from a dirty colon?" (WHAT???????? Is that like sitting on a public toilet seat?????)

From another colon cancer survivor (of all people...) "Can't you just stop thinking about it? After all, what's in the past is in the past". (I hugged her...offered her some popcorn just to see her 'past' - she polite refused, and then appologized).

During treatment "Oh, you are so brave!" (Brave? Do you think I CHOSE to get cancer, just to battle it and show my strength and bravery?)

I can remember many of the ones from you guys' other posts...sad, really, that the world shows such ignorance and lack of compassion....

Hugs to you all, and keep on keepin' on...and, if you have nothing better to do some night, I sell tickets for the entertainment....my beau just shakes his head...

Hugs, Kathi

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I was told to "be strong."

Another one," don't cry."

And, "You're feeling ok now, aren't you."

I am sure there will be others.

Amy

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When I told someone that John's cancer had returned and this time it was deep in the bone, he looked at the floor for a few seconds, then said "do you know how many people I've known who've died of cancer in the last 6 months? Three!"

Um, gee, thanks? I feel SO much better now...

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Things happen in three's so John's safe!

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So you're the one behind the crash today! Figures! Playing hooky again from work stirring up trouble. Uh huh. Don't hide. We know.

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This beats all of those and it came from my MOTHER! We had to drive about an hour and a half to my chemo treatments so after my first chemo treatment my mom was starved. We went to a restaurant and we ordered our drinks while deciding what to eat. They brought my ice tea and I was waiting for the girl to bring honey to put in my tea. So my mom just tossed me a packet of sweetnlow and she said yep "you know they say that could give you cancer" I just looked at her. I knew it wasn't registering with her what she had just said. Finally,we both fell apart laughing. She had been so upset all day and worried, that it wasn't sinking in. I am the youngest of 5 children and the only girl and she just lost it. We cracked up!!! It seemed to be a great release for her. Thanks for being here you guys, all these years with so much unsaid, well I have a mouth and I say it. But not nearly enough to get the word out, so thank you. I love this bunch!!! Goofyladie (Cass)

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My husband called from work and I told him about this thread and he said "you didn't tell them what your first doctor said" So here it is:
"I'LL MAKE YOU AS COMFORTABLE AS POSSIBLE" he had me on my death bed no questions asked. What a damn dork! 11 years!LOL
Goofyladie (Cass)

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Too bad he didn't mean FINANCIALLY comfortable....hey doc, how 'bout spreading some of that wealth you make off our disease, hey?!

If we live long enough we should get a part of their kick backs don't you think???

HA!

peace, emily

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Wow are people that, well you know!!!

My surgeon said I did not need to have any CT scans before surgery because his eyes and hands were better than the CT Scan. He said he "could save us a couple thousand bucks"! (I did not have time to find another surgeon because I was close to obstruction, surgery went well)

My Dad did not ask if I was o.k. or anything, he just wanted to know if I would loose my hair. I told him if I did it was just hair. I would rather save my life than my hair.

One friend said that after chemo was over I would never have to diet again because chemo will make me really skinny forever. Wow the benifits of Chemo!!!!!!

One friend asked the hair question, another chimmed in and said that Farrah did not want chemo that would cause her to loose her hair, so her delay in getting the hairloss treatment was the reason she died. (I thought she died because of cancer, silly me it is all about the hair!)

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"Cancer is a journey"
yah, you go buy the ticket, I'll pass thanks.
My good pal and fellow cancer survivor pass each other in the halls at work here whispering that in a mincing voice to each other and then just howl.

This is more gallows humor but this same friend, who works in IS, saw me in the kitchen at work and had heard I was getting a laptop to replace the desktop I had so I could work from home. He said. "Gee, people will do anything to get a laptop." i spit out my tea on the flor at that one.

Leslie

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I think we've all experienced stupid comments from people, mostly based on ignorance, but the worst question i ever got was from an ER doctor after they had finished putting in an emergency catheter after radiation had caused WBC and crystals to block my urethra.

He came in after they were done and i was relaxed. He sat down next to me and said, "you're the same age i am...How did you get this?"

I thought it was a very odd question, but i knew what he was swimming for. I gave him an answer, but it wasn't one he liked, and left it at that.

That, "you're so brave" comment is said to me by another cancer survivor friend of mine constantly. I think she is much braver than me. When i told her that i wasn't nearly as brave as her (she lost a breast, has horrible vascular problems, and is going to volunteer her healthy breast for removal), she told me she couldn't imagine anything worse than being blocked up and having to go to the bathroom a million times a day. Then i understood why she was saying that to me. She never sees me sulk and get depressed though what i'm going through is unimaginable to her. When i tell someone i think they're brave, i mean i think they're facing it better than most would, or better than I would. The comment can mean different things, but i was never comfortable with it, so i'm not going to use it anymore, even though i believe it, they may take it as i do.

My aunt and Mother are guilty of constantly telling me to be positive. I hate this comment more than ANYTHING!! During my symptomatic years; especially towards the end, i was certain i had cancer. Everyone kept telling me to think positively, and that i was too young to have this cancer, so i kept denying it was cancer, and thought positively that it was something minor. Boy did it help!! Stage IIIc! I think the "thinking positively" statement is different from the "great attitude" statement, though i no longer believe that either will save us from dying if we're going to.

My best friend was angry with me for choosing traditional treatment as well. But he didn't say much, or pressure me to harshly. I could just tell when i talked about how the treatments were affecting me that he didn't approve. I was scared because my cancer was advanced. I figured i'd give them a shot at it, and if they couldn't cure it, i'd go alternative. They didn't cure it, and the cancer not only further advanced, i developed a plethora of NEW illnesses as a result of the treatments. Now i'm doing alternative, and most of my secondary problems have vanished. Hopefully the cancer will too!

Great thread, Em!

Krista

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I probably have been guilty of saying stupid things in the past, I just can't or do not choose to remember them, but right after I got home from the hospital after surgery my neighbor came over, she was being supportive but had to tell me the story about her sisters fiance who was having his spleen removed because his white count would not come back up, she said he has colon cancer.
Yea more wonderful news!!!

Krista I also really hate the "thinking positive" thing.
Jan

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Just finished round 12 of Folfox just an hour ago. Came home and had a card from my sister-in-law. States, "Yahoo, your all done chemo, call me when you plan your party, we want to come." WHAT! All done chemo, she must know something I don't know! Guess she has a crystal ball and knows that next weeks CT scan will be negative. If I had a party, she wouldn't be invited!

Pat

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I understand that one completely!! I had one of those too!!!
Make it a great day!!!!
Goofyladie (Cass)

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So, back in 2005 when I was diagnosed a friend - actually a good one - said "Well, at least you know what you're going to die of - most of us don't." Yikes! I mean she does have a point, but please give me a break - that's not exactly the most supportive thing I've ever heard!

Betsy
(Stage IV, long story, NED for 3+ years (and 3 off chemo), solitary lung nodule detected 11/08, removed 4/09. did another 6 cycles of Xeloda and Avastin, continuing on Avastin only, still NED (again) since surgery and most recently based on CT and PET scans in the last 3 weeks.)

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I forgot to mention a co-worker called me Robo Krista when i first started the 5FU pump because of the weird electronic noise it makes.

I thought it was hilarious, and made me feel less like someone who had one foot in the grave. I remember in the beginning what bothered me more than anything was that "look" people would give me when they found out i had cancer. I think we all know that "look". Their expression suddenly changes to, "i'm looking at the walking dead...poor thing!"

Hugs,
Krista

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Yes, the "look". I pray I never give anyone the "look" ever in my life so help me God!

Honey, you never had one foot in the grave....that was Bab's sister's friend at the wedding that had one foot in the grave.

(sorry, I couldn't resist).

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Many of our ladies will know who Beth Moore is, well she tells the story of how she was working in a health club as a very young woman and an obese woman came in to be measured. The lady was very ashamed of her measurements and weight so to make her feel better, Beth said 'Well at least you have a nice tan!' The woman answered that she had cancer that had spread to her liver. Beth said she told the woman 'Wall it looks good on you'. She said she's never gotten over how bad she felt for saying that.

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My brother told me "this is nothing" I know of so and so and he had the same thing and he's fine now.
Such ignorance.....10 dr's probing my butt, 6 weeks of radiation and chemo before surgery, extreme pain every morning when I sit on the pot....blahblah blah - I don't have to tell you guys but all that and then painful sugery that I wasn't prepared for, blood clots, colostomy, etc- I don't call that "nothing"!

I know his intent was to encourage but when they really don't have a clue of what we are dealing with......it's a little stupid! I don't hate people for what they say if their intent is good.

kevin

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I had a lady at my church come up to me, tug on my hair and say "well you still have your hair!".

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I can certainly relate to most of these especially the look. So what do YOU say to someone who has cancer that is comforting?

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1) During a CT scan the tech told me a lengthy rendidition of his brothers misery with chemo and finally just letting himself die, he then asked me,"Do you have Kids"? "I said, yes two boys 9 and 12 and a stepdaughter 7", his reply "little ones, too bad".

2) Giving my brother in law a ride to the mechanic, I shared that I had just finished my chemo, he said they didn't give you the strong stuff, you still have hair. FOLFOX and AVASTIN are strong stuff my feet and fingers remind me every day.

3)My friend with lung cancer told me that on greeting a friend at Walmart, she was asked "what is it like to be dying of cancer.

4)A Masters prepared nursing instructor told my wife, I wish I could have cancer for a little shile, you know to loose weight. The new Jenny Craig Grey Plan and you don't even have to buy the meals.

Fun stuff

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Unbelievable!

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This one was buried in my memory and just popped out right now....I thought I had forgiven him, but maybe not....

When my sister came home from Mayo the first time after her surgery, radiation, and first sessions of chemo, I thought she looked really wonderful and was telling her so--color in her cheeks and life in her step-- and my BIL says (about his wife no less!!!), "She looks like a Bopal refuge" . Honest to God that came out of his mouth!

I'm not even gonna start up on what I think of him.....forgive as I have been forgiven....forgive as I have been forgiven.....mantra for the day.

peace, emily who has been known to say stupid things too

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Someone said to me, "Oh, my uncle died of that, is George going to die" Ummmm, not today but let me ask God and I will get back to you.

What happens at Stage V, ummm don't know have to get back to you on that one.

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When we found out Denny had Cancer and then decided to let the public and/our friends know.
A few of the good ones we heard were -

Oh no, both my parents died from Colon Cancer...

But this one topped all that was said to us -

If that ever happens to me I will just go out back and shoot myself!

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many of these comments. So, let's hear what you would want to hear....
from a concerned friend, relative, etc. What is the correct thing to
say? Just wondering as I'm racking my brain and can't come up with
much that we would want to hear.

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Think of anything that I would really want to hear! I guess that's why we all say things that actually sound stupid once you think about them! When I heard about my fiance's partner and her breast cancer, even having had cancer myself, I didn't know what to say, there isn't much of anything that is comforting when you find out. All I did say was wow, sorry to hear that. Cancer sucks, now lets talk about what you need to do next....

Oh, and the first thing I did was talk about her hair (because she is definately going to loose it) and made her get rid of some of these weight watchers meals she's been eating for now. Told her that in less than a month, she is going to hate food anyway, so lets have some fun now while you can taste it!

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What you said to her was honest, aknowledged the situation, but offered a fun alternative....BRAVO!

Hugs, Kathi

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I am eight weeks post surgery. I heard so many of these...thanks for the laugh tonight. I actually have kept a great sense of humor through this. There is nothing better than butt jokes! I especially love when people ask "what kind" of cancer. Nothing shuts a conversation down like the colon!

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the day after my fact finding colonoscopy, the one that found the cancer- the news is still hitting me in waves- I ran into my next door neighbor (who is a nut) and told him I have colon cancer. The first words out of his mouth, "OMG YOU AREN'T GOING TO DIE ARE YOU??"

I paused, the look on his face was one of horror, and I finally said, "David, truly, I can not believe you actually said that". Then shook my head and walked away.

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