Aug 10, 2009 - 10:05 pm
i am 35 and my wife and i are have in trouble!! i have been fighting kidney cancer or 5 years and right now i feel the best i'v felt in 5 years.i am still fight ing cancer but i'm back, from the dazed and confused and mean person i have been seance we started this 5 years ago. but now that i'm better my wife does not feel excited or intimate with me now. she says that she has grown and that i have stayed the same( she has learned to live without me) and i still need her to live. this is true i do still love her like it was are wedding day!!! but she does not have those feelings for me.she says that she still loves me like best fiends. that she wants to take care of me and does not want to leave me but can't be intimate wit me.
i have been sleeping on the couch for the last 7 nights as a experiment by her choosing. i have asked her and tried to discus where thing with her to see how she is and how she thought the experiment might be going. but she does not know. she tells me that she does not want to divorce but to day tell me that considers us separated.
i don't know where to go from here. i cant live with out er but i don't know how to live like this ether.