Apr 11, 2006 - 2:10 pm
Hello, It has been a long time since I was here so I guess I am new to this site again.
Maybe someone here will have some insight or experience on my delima. About a year and a half ago....
I was in a long distance lesbian relationship for four years with whom I thought I would spend the rest of my life with. My Girl friend and I were very much in love and working on moving closer to one another. Although it was a struggle being 3000 miles apart, We would not go more than 3 months without seeing each other, we talked several times a day keeping the communication open. I was in therapy, the relationship was moving forward and the date was set in a few short months I would move, and we would start our new life together.
Then one day I was blindsided, My Girlfriend told me was confused, she was starting to have feeling for one of her friends. She had a group of lesbian friends, often times we would visit when I was in town visiting her, this person was part of that group.
2 months after we broke up I found out I had Cancer. My now ex and I have struggled to remain friends. The distance is now in our advantage. We have made one attempt to establish a friendship between the three of us. I flew back to PA to visit. It was OK, but I was having a hard time struggling with the cancer, and the loss of our relationship, her new relationship and I am not sure I was completely over her at that time (looking back at it). However, Keeping a friendship was important to both of so we have stayed in contact to this date.
About 3 months ago I found out the cancer was spreading, the chemo was no longer effective and surgery no longer an option. The Doctors are now just trying to keep me comfortable, offering Pallative care. My ex and I both agree we would like to see each other before I get really sick. I invited her to come at the end of March first of April. I told her I would really like to spend time with just her. (As friends, I respect that she is in a relationship) She understood and said she trusted my intentions. However when she called me to tell me she would be coming and she booked the trip. She said her and her girlfriend would be coming. On one hand I was happy but on the other I was taken back. I feel like she did not even consider how I felt before she booked the trip, I would have at least liked to make the choice my self. Not to mention I only invited her to come.
Any advice on how I should handle this?