intimacy and chemo?

CAMaura said:

Hi - I would suggest calling and making an appt with your GYN. I know that you can get through the conversation. It probably is a case of how well you both are. If it is a committed relationship - which it sounds like it is - then your doc will most likely give you lots of green lights - maybe with protection, maybe without. When I was on chemo, and just after ending my treatments - my doc asked me to prod the guy I was seeing to use protection as my immune system was compromised. He refused, and needless to say he is history. BUT, your situation sounds worlds away. Take the time to talk to your husband and just ask your doc. This is important and will help you and your husband stay closer and stronger as a couple. All the best to you - Maura

If anyone thought ozzie guys were shy...he!he!...they got it right, but not this fella. While I was on chemo I have to admit that I was somewhat concerned myself. My doc(a lady by the way) basically told me it was fine but the first question she asked was were we intending any more ("anklebiters"...kids)......funny question at my age!Anyway I have been "cut n shut" so fertility was not an issue but I guess the reason for her question was the chemicals effect on sperm count or the possible problems with the chemicals involved to a baby if I had been capable of fathering. Jen had no problems with sex(see---I ain't coy...lol!) but here's the crunch.
At times having sex was pretty near impossible...in fact a lot of the time during my 6 months chemo. I simply was not up to it due to feeling really crappy and being extremely tired. One thing Jen commented about was that she could distinctly smell the chemicals exuding from my body. This was particularly more pronounced when I sweat. Even after excercising....brisk walk etc. she could smell the chemicals....so you can imagine what it would be like enjoying oneself. Even I could smell it.
We never used any protection....was never told to but it did cross our minds. Anyway, Jen's still here....it never had ANY effect on her. And yes.....we cuddled a lot more too, even if only to be close....cried a lot as well.
Hope that helps you out......oh.....just don't spread around that kanga posts intimate replies...lol!
Ross n Jen

3gk, I asked the same question when my hubby was going through chemo. He said we should use a condom but not for fear of me...but of him picking up some kind of infection. Not to say we have anything, but the immune system is extremely vulnerable at this time.

FYI: We did not use anything and we were fine :-).

Linda

Good question and one that was thankfully covered in the info package from the oncology dept at the hospital- sex is just fine but protection is needed for 48 hours post chemo since the "ejaculate" can iritate or burn the delicate vaginal tissues...
Bev

joanneire said:

Since we are all being so open can I ask if the sperm (with chemo) can actually cause any lasting harm to the partner (i.e me!)?

Hi- from what I was told- "no real harm to partner other than some internal burning pain if no protection is used within a 48 hr post chemo period...the chemo is "diluted"...and can't do any lasting damage...but if there could be a potential pregnancy issue- that is entirely different...
Bev