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dreamer925
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Joined: Oct 2005

I just had part of my lung removed and I am home in recovery. I have no-one to talk to and I am feeling pretty low. I was diagnosed w/lung cancer less than 5 mos ago and I don't believe it's sunk in yet. My husband of 13 mos is being cruel and very unsupportive. I need support bad. I am truly hoping there is someone out there who I can relate to. Please.

kesnh
Posts: 9
Joined: Oct 2005

Me too. I just had the upper lobe of my left lung taken and I am completely overwhelmed. No one seems to get it. I was using that lung!!! I am scared and grateful and angry and sad and over joyed and everything in between. Everyone just keeps saying " Wow 29 yearolds don't get lung cancer". I want to scream " Yes they Do I am sitting right here"
I am sorry your husband isn't being very supportive. He is probably really freaked out. I would love to have some one to talk to. Just hang on !!

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Plymouthean
Posts: 264
Joined: Jan 2004

Hi. I'm a lung cancer survivor of 4 years. Although I had a lot of support during my illness, I learned a lot through conversations with other cancer patients. Being alone with no one to talk to is rough. Unsupportive relatives are not necessarily "bad guys". Their apparent attitude may be caused by many different things, such as denial, or simply not knowing what to say. In many ways, cancer is as traumatic to those around you as it is to you. Sometimes it is worse for them, because they don't understand, and can't admit that they're scared. That doesn't excuse their behavior, it explains it. People have told me that sometimes it helps to ask for help, when, in fact, you are actually offering help. Asking for help sometimes helps those people cope with your illness. Sometimes a spouse feels powerless, which results in misdirected anger, - in your case, cruelty and lack of support. In any case, we on this website are here for you. Keep in touch. ernplym@adelphia.net

barbstow
Posts: 3
Joined: Nov 2005

I had a lobe of my lung removed 10 years ago - no chemo or radiaion. I did not have much support either,but made it thru ok. I think when you are feeling better physically, you will feel better in all ways.

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Plymouthean
Posts: 264
Joined: Jan 2004

Hi. I was browsing the boards, and I thought that I would check in with you. I hope you are feeling better. Are you up and about? Has the doctor recommended exercise? Please keep us posted.

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