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Newly Dignaoised

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Joined: Jun 2001

Was dignaoised May 8, had lumpecety and 8 lymph nodes removed. Not enough, now scheduled for left breast removal.Am terrified with what is ahead.Need some encouragment.

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Joined: May 2001


It is tough, I know. It is OK to be scared. Before my own operation, my doctor was not sure whether he would have to do a lumpectomy or masectomy. He asked me to list on a piece of paper my life priorities. I wrote down : daughter, husband, family and friends, health for all, happiness... I realized my breast was not one of my life priorities, and it helped me make the decision to accept whatever operation or treatment that would be necessary. I finally was lucky, only had a lumpectomy. But look at the other people on this site, they are doing great, full of energy, some of them having had a double masectomy. Go down a few threads : I started a thread May 26 "wishing you all a happy day !" Look at the answers , and then look at the web pages of these wonderful ladies . They went through Hell, gave a kick to that monster, and won the battle. You' ll find life goes on, and, for some reason, it is even better than it was before cancer. Why ? Because we are forced to realize how fragile it is, and we want to make the most of it afterwards...

It is OK to cry, and to be scared. But there is Life for you at the other end, and happiness, and family and friends .

Please let me know how you are doing, and don't hesitate to email me if you just need a friend to listen .

With a big hug from Switzerland,

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Joined: Jun 2001

Had appointment with the Dr and feel much better about the outcome. Scheduled for a masectomy June 26. Having people to talk to have actually experienced what we are going thru is so helpful. Found out what a wide range of friends and family I have out there. Today it's cool and rainy but somehow when the future is uncertain even the little things seem to become less important. Just finished a class on portrait drawing before I was diaganosed and have been spending time for myself.Reading others fight, I feel rather selfish, complaining about my life.Thanks for being out there for new ones like me. It really makes all the difference.

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Joined: May 2001

I was diagnosed in February 2001 after lumpectomy and then had a sentinel node biopsy, left breast removed, inserted a port-a-cath and had breast reconstruction (saline expander) in early April. Two out of Five nodes were positive so I had a third surgery in late April to remove 10 more nodes, which turned out clean. It was alot of surgery in one month and I must tell you that I too was scared as I did not know anyone who went through this and did not know what to expect. Although you can expect some pain the first few days post surgery, the body has an amazing way of healing itself. It's only been alittle over a month since the node surgery and I am doing great. I'm on my second round of chemo and I am returning to part-time office work this Monday. I am still rehabilitating my arm but I've disiplined myself to do the ACS suggested post-mastectomy exercises every day in order to regain my full range of motion. Still some pain but very tolerable. Have faith in your healthcare team and be strong. You will get through this one step at a time. When is your surgery? Please let us know how you make out.

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Joined: Mar 2001

Sorry to hear of you fight ahead. It has been four years since all my treatments. Mastectomy, chemo and radiation. I had stage 3 with plenty of lymphnode involvment. I ended up having the other breast removed a year after the first. I wanted them both gone. It was advised I didn't too hard for the body.
You will soon see through posted messages that everything is doable. Some have it worse than others due to side affects. Some don't have any at all, lets hope you fit into that percentage.
You will find lots of word of encouragement from us all. If you don't watch yourself Tiger will kick you in the ***, just when you need it. I just wished this site had been around when I was enduring my battle. I am so lucky to finally be around women who truly understand some of the things I say.
Go with the flow, beats fighting the needles, stiches and pains. I want to be the one to remind you that water and food are very important in keeping your strength up to tolerate what they are going to do for you. I soon saw that there was plenty still to laugh, love and live about. Soon you find simple pleasures that lift your spirits, no matter what it is.
We will keep you close at heart,

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Joined: Jun 2001

The beginnig was the scariest time for me and my husband because we knew almost nothing. However, once you know what you have to do and why, it is less difficult. I recovered from my mastectomy very quickly and with just a little discomfort. Hard to believe, but true. I think I like my reconstructed breast more than my real one! Treatment (chemo and rad) was no picnic, but definitely not as bad as I had envisioned and what you see on television. If you have a good oncol. and take you meds, you should be fine. I was sick from chemo only once and that was my fault because I didn't take my medications for nasea. I was tired some of the time, especially at the end of chemo, but that wasn't so bad. I found that in the beginning I tried to read as much as I could get my hands and eyes on. I discovered that for me (I can't speak for anyone else) that that wasn't the best thing to do. Sometimes what you read conflicts with something else and it will drive you crazy and worry you too much. For me, I read realiable sources of info and left the rest up to my doctors. It is their job and you should trust them or find another doctor you do trust.

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Joined: Dec 2000

I'm a year and 4 months past surgery to remove my left breast. Had 8 rounds of chemo and then radiation. What is ahead is a return to a new normalcy. I still hate housework, love my gardens, and have my family and friends. My left arm reminds that I had the surgery, my feet reminds me that I had taxol and my new hair style is short. You can endure the treatments. There will be a time when it is the past. Hang in there. Debw

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Joined: May 2001

People told me that I was a strong person and that I could do it. Well, I found out how strong I was. It was no picnic, but YOU CAN DO IT!! It was not the worst thing in the world. I am a three year survivor and still have days that I get low, but believe it or not, you will find some positives in your journey. I have never appreciated life and health as I do now. It makes me mad to see someone take life for granted! I was never sick through four rounds of chemo and only missed 1 week of work because of my surgery. I had 28 nodes removed and I still have full range of movement in my arm and only now and then have little twinges in it that remind me. I have had no swelling that sometimes occurs. Just do your exercises religiously. Trust in your doctors. I also tried reading a bunch of things that just made me more worried, so take that part slow. Find a doctor that you trust, is compassionate and gives you lots of encouragement. Plastic surgery is wonderful these days and they can build you a new breast. A friend gave me some advice and that was just to take on things one day at a time and don't think past tomorrow. Just get through what you have to do that day and then take on the next day. You will be amazed that one day you wake up and you feel like yourself again. Keep your chin up! You can do this!

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Joined: Jun 2001

Hello! I am new to this site and I want to you know that I and many others understand your fear and what lies ahead for you. Listen to your docs and be very good to yourself. I was also recently diagnosed and I had mastectomy and tissue expanders 6 weeks ago. Found out yesterday that now they want to take my right breast after I finish chemo. I have had 1 treatment of a/c 2weeks ago. 3 more to go. You can do this and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Posts: 19
Joined: Jul 2001

I know how you are feeling right now. Four years ago I had my right breast and 29 lymph nodes removed. At the moment I am scheduled for surgery on my right breast. A very small lump was found through self-examination (after my mammogram) so had ultrsound done. I guess Friday I will know the outcome. But let me say that since I have turned my life over to God I have become happier than I have ever been. I have been a Christian for years, but I guess I seemed to try to handle ever thing myself. It won't work. You will continue to have doubts about if the cancer will come back. That is normal. You will have crying spells, and you will wonder why you are crying. That is normal. You know, I thought I was going crazy. I wish I had had someone to talk to about the problems, pain, the questions. It would have helped me so much. If there are any questions that you would like to ask, please e-mail me. pamcarver@hotmail.com

May God bless you and give you the strength that you need at this time in your life.

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