OK I'm here I'm fine...........

tasha_111
tasha_111 Member Posts: 2,072
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
I move out next tuesday/weds/ thurs...........I'll keep in touch...........He is very upset..........he says...........Not my problem!

Hugs All Jxxxxxxxxxx
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  • jk1952
    jk1952 Member Posts: 613
    I just finished reading the

    I just finished reading the posts from yesterday, and was so concerned about you. Hang in there: we all want to see you settled in a safe, clean place without the threat of abuse. We'd also really like to see you have a companion like that guy in the market who still loved his wife six years after her death. You deserve peace in your life, especially after everything you've been through.

    Joyce
  • chenheart
    chenheart Member Posts: 5,159
    Nope, NOT your problem at
    Nope, NOT your problem at all! you have finer fish to fry, and I don't mean guppies, sister! LOL

    Hugs,
    Claudia
  • mmontero38
    mmontero38 Member Posts: 1,510
    J; I am so gladyou finally
    J; I am so glad you finally made the decision to move out and tae care of YOURSELF. The MOST important person in that relationship. You most certainly nor shall I say any woman deserves any kind of abuse. I hope all goes well for you and know that we are a post away to support you. Love you dear Julia. Hugs, Lili
  • outdoorgirl
    outdoorgirl Member Posts: 1,565
    YayTash!
    Happy to hear that!By the way,nice accent you've got!
  • Kayla1
    Kayla1 Member Posts: 101

    YayTash!
    Happy to hear that!By the way,nice accent you've got!

    Tash,
    I am sooooo sorry for

    Tash,
    I am sooooo sorry for the late reply!!!! You deserve to be happy and be treated with nothing less than tender loving care! If you can, don't take the hand out he said he would give, make a clean slate and rid him of your life forever.
    Be happy you are getting out and starting a new life, so many are not as brave as you and feel they can't make it on their own or afraid of being alone.
    This move is going to be the best chapter in your life!
    A great big hug and lots of prayers just for you!!!!
    K
  • lolad
    lolad Member Posts: 670
    Kayla1 said:

    Tash,
    I am sooooo sorry for

    Tash,
    I am sooooo sorry for the late reply!!!! You deserve to be happy and be treated with nothing less than tender loving care! If you can, don't take the hand out he said he would give, make a clean slate and rid him of your life forever.
    Be happy you are getting out and starting a new life, so many are not as brave as you and feel they can't make it on their own or afraid of being alone.
    This move is going to be the best chapter in your life!
    A great big hug and lots of prayers just for you!!!!
    K

    Of course
    He is going to tell you he's upset to try to get to you. Stay strong, you will soon be soooo happy again.

    laura
  • rjjj
    rjjj Member Posts: 1,822 Member
    Kayla1 said:

    Tash,
    I am sooooo sorry for

    Tash,
    I am sooooo sorry for the late reply!!!! You deserve to be happy and be treated with nothing less than tender loving care! If you can, don't take the hand out he said he would give, make a clean slate and rid him of your life forever.
    Be happy you are getting out and starting a new life, so many are not as brave as you and feel they can't make it on their own or afraid of being alone.
    This move is going to be the best chapter in your life!
    A great big hug and lots of prayers just for you!!!!
    K

    Good for you
    You won't have to listen to what he......says any-more. I am happy you have found a new apt. and a new happy life is coming your way.
    hugs, jackie
  • taleena
    taleena Member Posts: 1,612 Member
    Oh Tasha... okay.. so ... no
    Oh Tasha... okay.. so ... no more taking on his feelings... time to put yours first... and this move that your doing is going to lead to wonderful things I just know it... The first few steps are always the hardest... remember that with each step the next one does become easier as long as we do not allow "their" feelings to control what we do... Time for you my dear... and whatever the new, exciting future holds...

    Hugs

    ~T
  • Akiss4me
    Akiss4me Member Posts: 2,188
    Are you sure?
    I know you are saying your fine, but really??? I was very good at faking it and saying I was fine when I wasn't just so I wouldn't have to deal with something anymore. None of us are responsible for anyone but ourselves (our children not included). Once I realized I did not have to behave or act a certain way around someone to "keep the peace" (I am a peace maker!) I was free to really be me. What a wonderful feeling. And the real me wasn't all that bad!! Your absolutely right, not your problem. It is the other persons problem to deal with!! I admire your strength and courage. Just one more thing.....are you taking the turquoise guppies?????? :) Pammy
  • djteach
    djteach Member Posts: 273
    Hi Tasha,
    I know I'm not one

    Hi Tasha,
    I know I'm not one of your click and that is okay, everyone cannot like everyone.
    What I really want to tell you is that I am so proud of you right now. You have taken some incredibly hard steps to take control of your life. You are a strong, beautiful woman that has a great deal to offer the right man. I'm glad that you are willing to work on yourself first to keep yourself safe. If I were there, I'd help you move. You are going to be just fine as long as you never go back to the man you just left. I have yet to see an abusive man change his "MO" except to escalate their violence.
    You have the inner power to make your life an amazing one. I can't wait to see what you do next!
    I know these things because I worked for 26 years working with children from abusive homes.
    Love and Big Hugs,
    Donna
  • tasha_111
    tasha_111 Member Posts: 2,072
    djteach said:

    Hi Tasha,
    I know I'm not one

    Hi Tasha,
    I know I'm not one of your click and that is okay, everyone cannot like everyone.
    What I really want to tell you is that I am so proud of you right now. You have taken some incredibly hard steps to take control of your life. You are a strong, beautiful woman that has a great deal to offer the right man. I'm glad that you are willing to work on yourself first to keep yourself safe. If I were there, I'd help you move. You are going to be just fine as long as you never go back to the man you just left. I have yet to see an abusive man change his "MO" except to escalate their violence.
    You have the inner power to make your life an amazing one. I can't wait to see what you do next!
    I know these things because I worked for 26 years working with children from abusive homes.
    Love and Big Hugs,
    Donna

    Bugger
    Donna, I wrote you a huge response a couple of hours ago.........then my internet crashed.

    You are definitely one of my click, there are only 2 people in here and 3 in the chatroom that I don't care for.......they shall remain nameless...for now. Anyway, thanks for posting and you'll probably understand when I say, he has been working hard on me for the past few days....But I have to do this. It's an emotional roller-coaster at the moment, and being around him makes it harde, I have to remove myself from this situation to be able to see things clearly......
    Thank you for saying you are proud of me, it means a lot. Hugs Jxxxxxxxxxxxxx
  • mollymousemom
    mollymousemom Member Posts: 18
    "ok, I'm here I'm fine.......
    Tasha, I'm a newby here, & I hope you don't mine me giving you my 2 cents worth.......I think what you are doing takes a lot of guts.....it's not easy to leave a situation for one that is new.....it's also scary...but put your faith & trust in our Lord & He will see you thru this.......just draw strength from Him......as hard as it is (& I still have trouble with this sometimes)just ask him to shoulder this burden & guide you thru it)....you're a very special person & you deserve the best & only you can make it happen....the first step is always the hardest....just have confidence that you can do this & you deserve a better life....you're worth it!....I wish you all the best in this new road you're taking....surround yourself with things that make you happy......keep your chin up, smile on your face, song in your heart & a skip in your step.....you've come a long way, baby!....best of luck.....you have a great support system here, take advantage of it.......it's a very special thing.......

    mollysmousemom
  • sausageroll
    sausageroll Member Posts: 415

    "ok, I'm here I'm fine.......
    Tasha, I'm a newby here, & I hope you don't mine me giving you my 2 cents worth.......I think what you are doing takes a lot of guts.....it's not easy to leave a situation for one that is new.....it's also scary...but put your faith & trust in our Lord & He will see you thru this.......just draw strength from Him......as hard as it is (& I still have trouble with this sometimes)just ask him to shoulder this burden & guide you thru it)....you're a very special person & you deserve the best & only you can make it happen....the first step is always the hardest....just have confidence that you can do this & you deserve a better life....you're worth it!....I wish you all the best in this new road you're taking....surround yourself with things that make you happy......keep your chin up, smile on your face, song in your heart & a skip in your step.....you've come a long way, baby!....best of luck.....you have a great support system here, take advantage of it.......it's a very special thing.......

    mollysmousemom

    Tasha
    I have not been around much for a few days, so am only just catching up with this. I am really sorry for what you have been going through Tasha. You must having such a hard time right now. We will all be thinking of you in the next few days and wish you lots of strength to get this done and get on with your life. inside you know you are doing the right thing.
  • tgf
    tgf Member Posts: 950 Member

    Tasha
    I have not been around much for a few days, so am only just catching up with this. I am really sorry for what you have been going through Tasha. You must having such a hard time right now. We will all be thinking of you in the next few days and wish you lots of strength to get this done and get on with your life. inside you know you are doing the right thing.

    One Giant Leap for Tasha!!!
    Way to go Tasha. You've taken one huge step toward your independence. I'm sure there will be times when you have second thoughts about the decision to move ... but just keep telling yourself you have done the right thing. You are moving on with your life and you are moving on without "him." You don't need him. He thinks he needs you ... but all he really needs is a target for his horrible behavior. You don't need that. You've been his "target" for too long and been attacked for too long ... but you've finally realized you deserve to be treated with love and respect.

    You really amaze me Tasha. You are one strong woman! Standing up for yourself against the "blob" ... going out and finding a job you love ... and now moving into a place of YOUR OWN. Way to go! Stay strong and don't look back at your "old" life ... look forward to your new ... independent ... happy life. There are good things in your future.

    hugs.
    teena
  • Jadie
    Jadie Member Posts: 723
    (((((((Tash))))))))
    I've not been on much in a few days so I have catching up to do. I am not here to advise you anything. I have not been there and done that. I am here to support you 100% on whatever decisions you make for yourself. Thought you could use an extra hug today.

    Jadie<3
  • bfbear
    bfbear Member Posts: 380
    Jadie said:

    (((((((Tash))))))))
    I've not been on much in a few days so I have catching up to do. I am not here to advise you anything. I have not been there and done that. I am here to support you 100% on whatever decisions you make for yourself. Thought you could use an extra hug today.

    Jadie<3</p>

    Tasha
    You CAN do this!!! You are a strong and wonderful woman (sorry I've missed some posts, but I've followed the gist of all this for the last 5 months).
    I'm on your side no matter what, so follow through on your dreams and move ahead with your life. You deserve everything fabulous and more!

    Hugs,
    D
  • fauxma
    fauxma Member Posts: 3,577 Member
    tasha_111 said:

    Bugger
    Donna, I wrote you a huge response a couple of hours ago.........then my internet crashed.

    You are definitely one of my click, there are only 2 people in here and 3 in the chatroom that I don't care for.......they shall remain nameless...for now. Anyway, thanks for posting and you'll probably understand when I say, he has been working hard on me for the past few days....But I have to do this. It's an emotional roller-coaster at the moment, and being around him makes it harde, I have to remove myself from this situation to be able to see things clearly......
    Thank you for saying you are proud of me, it means a lot. Hugs Jxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    I think we are all so proud
    I think we are all so proud of you. This is difficult for you and it is hard when you still have contact and they try to wear away at your resolve but you are doing the absolute right thing. We are all here to give you support and encouragement whenever you need it. ANd when you feel those moments of doubt and fear just remember that you fought cancer and were victorious. You shall prevail. And remember turquoise is the color of freedom. Well, okay I made that up but still Turquoise warriors rock the world.
    Stef
  • aztec45
    aztec45 Member Posts: 757
    Think About This
    When he starts running his mouth, wearing you down, working you, ask yourself, 'Do I want to live with someone like this for the rest of my life or do I want to be free and find a man like the one you met in the store who truly loved his wife.' I think you know what you want so get off the arse and go get it.

    Love ya,

    P
  • jnl
    jnl Member Posts: 3,869 Member
    tasha_111 said:

    Bugger
    Donna, I wrote you a huge response a couple of hours ago.........then my internet crashed.

    You are definitely one of my click, there are only 2 people in here and 3 in the chatroom that I don't care for.......they shall remain nameless...for now. Anyway, thanks for posting and you'll probably understand when I say, he has been working hard on me for the past few days....But I have to do this. It's an emotional roller-coaster at the moment, and being around him makes it harde, I have to remove myself from this situation to be able to see things clearly......
    Thank you for saying you are proud of me, it means a lot. Hugs Jxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    I think we are all proud of
    I think we are all proud of you Tasha. Just stay strong. And, you do need to remove yourself from his presence. An abuser never wants to lose.

    Hugs, Leeza
  • Alexis F
    Alexis F Member Posts: 3,598
    bfbear said:

    Tasha
    You CAN do this!!! You are a strong and wonderful woman (sorry I've missed some posts, but I've followed the gist of all this for the last 5 months).
    I'm on your side no matter what, so follow through on your dreams and move ahead with your life. You deserve everything fabulous and more!

    Hugs,
    D

    I am with Debi! You can do
    I am with Debi! You can do this Tasha and you need to do it for YOURSELF! Stay strong.

    Hugs, Lex