“Pain and Suffering” – A Close Examination of Our Feelings as We Walk With Cancer

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  • Sundanceh
    Sundanceh Member Posts: 4,392 Member
    #22
    Thank You for Your Reassurances:)
    This past 7-months has been a really long stretch of road for me...most of the time I've found it to be pretty isolating and if I'm being truthful, pretty lonely too.

    I've had to resort to "talking to the wallpaper" :)

    That's not the worse part - the wall paper is starting to talk back, LOL:)

    Some of my posts draw some hits and other posts draw fewer, but when this one looked like it was a dead post after the first day, I did not take into consideration, that perhaps the waters were so deep, that people needed to time to think about it and then respond.

    I'll definitely keep this thought in mind when I open another post like that one again.

    You guys probably don't realize how much you mean to me and how much I look forward to reading your thoughts and replies. Like "bread and water" to a starving man. I wanted to talk with you and thought I had just blown it - and that perhaps these are not the type of posts anyone wants to read about anymore.

    I appreciate you responding back with your thoughts on this subject - it's always good to hear how all of us deal with these type of things in our lives.

    I get inspiration from you too, never forget that.

    Be well - CT scan today for me (chest only) checking from the rads treatment. Another infusion this Wednesday - #6 for those keeping score:)

    Thank you, everyone!

    -Craig
  • LivinginNH
    LivinginNH Member Posts: 1,456 Member
    #23
    I just now had the chance to

    I just now had the chance to completely read your post (I started at least three times but always got interrupted (darn boss) and only now was able to finish it. And it's a great post! One that certainly should be part of a chapter in your book. I was going to ask you about how the book was coming along, but I just read that you've postponed it for a few months. But that's ok, I'm just glad that you're still going to do it - I want a copy! :-) And it was great to see you back on the board and writing such thoughtful and emotional posts. Keep up the good work! Lot of Hugs to you! Cynthia
  • lesvanb
    lesvanb Member Posts: 905
    #24
    Right on Craig!
    You're right on the button for me with this post. My Zen teacher has always said we would never make any changes if it weren't for pain...and the suffering, well that's the piece we get to work with to see what we're made of, and often it's a whole lot more and wonderful than we ever would've thought (or we're brought up to think we believe). I would never recommend this cancer path to anyone as a way of opening the heart (and letting it break open sometimes), but I would never ever give up what I have learned and become because of what I've gone through on this path. Facing one's, and others', mortality every day is never high on one's bucket list.

    Below is just a piece of what I really liked about your post and is such a reminder and an encouragement. Encouragement is so key to staying in the game and playing well.

    "And by being able to tell someone else about it, is one of the most liberating feelings that there is in this materialistic world. There is a certain freedom that comes from opening our hearts and laying bare our souls to the world. The board is a great example of this and has been such a healing tool for me.

    After you have reached this epiphany, don’t you just feel like there has been this great weight of responsibility lifted off your shoulders? Don’t you feel about 20 pounds lighter as a result? You bet you do!"

    As regards posting and responses and timing etc, I just read this post now.. and with that here goes a bump...

    Ride on my friend,
    Leslie
  • chicoturner
    chicoturner Member Posts: 282
    #25
    Hi Craig, I'm happy you
    Hi Craig, I'm happy you didn't pull your post! I was out of town visiting my new grandson and just back last night. What you said is all so true. It does seem that pain, whatever it is caused by, allows us to recognize joy. Years ago when my son, a now 34 year old man, was a boy, he had a very bad sinus and bronc. infection. When the Doc gave him the anitbiotics he said to my son " The best thing about having an infection that makes you feel so bad, is that in a day of two of med. you will "think" you are well. Keep taking the meds." Maybe the pain is for us hard headed people that don't take suggestions well, or maybe it is for the strong ones who are able to show others what can be tolerated.

    Thanks for your words and don't feel bad that a lot of people didn't reply. Maybe they just soaked up the words into there hearts because of the true of it. Thanks again. Jean
  • AnneCan
    AnneCan Member Posts: 3,673 Member
    #26
    Sundanceh said:

    Thank You for Your Reassurances:)
    This past 7-months has been a really long stretch of road for me...most of the time I've found it to be pretty isolating and if I'm being truthful, pretty lonely too.

    I've had to resort to "talking to the wallpaper" :)

    That's not the worse part - the wall paper is starting to talk back, LOL:)

    Some of my posts draw some hits and other posts draw fewer, but when this one looked like it was a dead post after the first day, I did not take into consideration, that perhaps the waters were so deep, that people needed to time to think about it and then respond.

    I'll definitely keep this thought in mind when I open another post like that one again.

    You guys probably don't realize how much you mean to me and how much I look forward to reading your thoughts and replies. Like "bread and water" to a starving man. I wanted to talk with you and thought I had just blown it - and that perhaps these are not the type of posts anyone wants to read about anymore.

    I appreciate you responding back with your thoughts on this subject - it's always good to hear how all of us deal with these type of things in our lives.

    I get inspiration from you too, never forget that.

    Be well - CT scan today for me (chest only) checking from the rads treatment. Another infusion this Wednesday - #6 for those keeping score:)

    Thank you, everyone!

    -Craig

    Sweet Craig
    I am sorry you have had such a rough go of it; you don't deserve that! Don't ever think you blown it; this group loves your posts! I get great inspiration from you, + miss you when you are absent. I hope the CT scan went well, + I am 1 day after you with chemo.
  • C Dixon
    C Dixon Member Posts: 201
    #27
    I didn't want to read this but I am so glad I did!
    I needed this tonight.

    Thank you for sharing yourself,

    Catherine
  • snommintj
    snommintj Member Posts: 601
    #28
    C Dixon said:

    I didn't want to read this but I am so glad I did!
    I needed this tonight.

    Thank you for sharing yourself,

    Catherine

    Just so you know
    I read all your posts! I'm just usually too exhausted after reading them to respond. Lots of times I'm on my iphone, have you tried to read one of your post on the iphone. It takes forever but I'm still listening to you.
  • pete43lost_at_sea
    pete43lost_at_sea Member Posts: 3,900 Member
    #29
    snommintj said:

    Just so you know
    I read all your posts! I'm just usually too exhausted after reading them to respond. Lots of times I'm on my iphone, have you tried to read one of your post on the iphone. It takes forever but I'm still listening to you.

    craig this post justs keeps on being read
    how fantastic for us all.
    thanks again,
    Pete
  • Lori-S
    Lori-S Member Posts: 1,277 Member
    #30
    In my life journey
    I have through out times come to see that pain and suffering are like the rubberband or slingshot that is pulled all the way back and when I get through the times the rubberband/slingshot is let loose and I am catapulted to a new level of understanding of myself and life in general. I've found that my greatest spiritual growth as well as personal growth has come immediately after a painful times in my life.

    I guess that might mean that pain and suffering are the slingshot in the world of my spiritual growth

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