Please keep my SIL in your prayers.

deanna14
deanna14 Member Posts: 732
edited March 2014 in Uterine/Endometrial Cancer #1
We just found out that my SIL has a mass on her right ovary. They live in a small town in Missouri and will be coming her to see a surgeon. She is scheduled for next Friday morning. Please keep her in your prayers that it is benign!

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  • fuzzytrouble
    fuzzytrouble Member Posts: 212
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    SIL
    Deanna, I will be thinking and sending good thoughts for your SIL and hoping that the mass is just a cyst, like I had and it was huge mine was the size of a grapefruit. It didn't have cancer in it either.

    Hugs for you,
    Sharon
  • Teresa 61
    Teresa 61 Member Posts: 84 Member
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    SIL Prayers
    Deanna, prayers for your SIL that all goes well for her...
  • woofgang
    woofgang Member Posts: 12
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    Prayers for your SIL
    Praying for good news for your SIL - you must be an incredible role model for her.
    Sharon
  • Ro10
    Ro10 Member Posts: 1,561 Member
    #5
    Deanna I too will keep you SIL in my prayers
    Sorry to hear about your SIL having a mass on her ovary. I hope it turns out to be nothing serious. Glad she will have you there to help support her.
  • deanna14
    deanna14 Member Posts: 732
    #6
    Ro10 said:

    Deanna I too will keep you SIL in my prayers
    Sorry to hear about your SIL having a mass on her ovary. I hope it turns out to be nothing serious. Glad she will have you there to help support her.

    Thank you all.
    As you all are well aware, all of the waiting is nerve wrecking! She will see the surgeon on Friday morning and hopefully have a plan when she leaves there. That should help some, but then the wait to see what it is. I definately empathize with her.
  • lindaprocopio
    lindaprocopio Member Posts: 1,980
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    deanna14 said:

    Thank you all.
    As you all are well aware, all of the waiting is nerve wrecking! She will see the surgeon on Friday morning and hopefully have a plan when she leaves there. That should help some, but then the wait to see what it is. I definately empathize with her.

    I would say the waiting is the worst,....
    I hope that the waiting is the ONLY bad time for your SIL, as it is excrutiating. (although we all know that receiving a bad diagnosis is TRULY the worst moment; WAITING for the news is the 2nd worst.) I pray that the waiting is the only pain she will endure, and that she will get happy news that makes her feel silly for being so afraid. ((((Deanna))))
  • shortmarge
    shortmarge Member Posts: 291
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    lindaprocopio said:

    I would say the waiting is the worst,....
    I hope that the waiting is the ONLY bad time for your SIL, as it is excrutiating. (although we all know that receiving a bad diagnosis is TRULY the worst moment; WAITING for the news is the 2nd worst.) I pray that the waiting is the only pain she will endure, and that she will get happy news that makes her feel silly for being so afraid. ((((Deanna))))

    Prayers
    Prayers are going out to your SIL and all of your family....
  • daisy366
    daisy366 Member Posts: 1,458 Member
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    shortmarge said:

    Prayers
    Prayers are going out to your SIL and all of your family....

    Ditto prayers
    God Bless You and your SIL and all who are dealing with the anxiety of waiting and wondering.

    Mary Ann
  • deanna14
    deanna14 Member Posts: 732
    #10
    daisy366 said:

    Ditto prayers
    God Bless You and your SIL and all who are dealing with the anxiety of waiting and wondering.

    Mary Ann

    Thanks for the thoughts and prayers
    My SIL have to go back in 30 days for a repeat ultrasound for comparison with the last one. They diagnosed the ovarian mass as a hemorrhagic cyst which are a benign cyst in the ovary that bleeds. Usually they leave them alone and they heal themselves, but sometimes if they get too large, they have to be surgically removed.
    Ironically, she will be seeing my gyn/onc for her follow up. She was mistakenly referred to a general surgeon for the appt. she had on Friday. He spoke with the gyn/onc who told him to schedule the US in 30 days and an appt. with him.
    I'm skeptical, but I think it's just because of what I have been through. I would want them to biopsy if it were me. I was originally told that uterine polyps were almost always benign and mine turned out to be malignant!
    I went with her for moral support, but am not sure that I am really emotionally strong enough for that yet. Certainly not open minded enough. In my mind I'm screaming... just get it out of her so you know 100% what it is!!!
    Thank you again for the thoughts and prayers. I just have to mellow out and try to trust that these "specialists" know what they are doing.
  • Ro10
    Ro10 Member Posts: 1,561 Member
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    deanna14 said:

    Thanks for the thoughts and prayers
    My SIL have to go back in 30 days for a repeat ultrasound for comparison with the last one. They diagnosed the ovarian mass as a hemorrhagic cyst which are a benign cyst in the ovary that bleeds. Usually they leave them alone and they heal themselves, but sometimes if they get too large, they have to be surgically removed.
    Ironically, she will be seeing my gyn/onc for her follow up. She was mistakenly referred to a general surgeon for the appt. she had on Friday. He spoke with the gyn/onc who told him to schedule the US in 30 days and an appt. with him.
    I'm skeptical, but I think it's just because of what I have been through. I would want them to biopsy if it were me. I was originally told that uterine polyps were almost always benign and mine turned out to be malignant!
    I went with her for moral support, but am not sure that I am really emotionally strong enough for that yet. Certainly not open minded enough. In my mind I'm screaming... just get it out of her so you know 100% what it is!!!
    Thank you again for the thoughts and prayers. I just have to mellow out and try to trust that these "specialists" know what they are doing.

    Deanna, I hope the news on you SIL is only a hemmorhagic cyst
    I can understand your skepticism with the unknown. Most of us believed we had something not so serious, and yet it turned out to be very serious. I can also understand you not feeling emotionally strong enough to be a support for her, but I bet she is glad you went along to the doctor's visit. I'll keep you both in my prayers and hope the US shows the cyst has gotten smaller. HUGS to both of you.
  • lindaprocopio
    lindaprocopio Member Posts: 1,980
    #12
    I know that suspition well, when you feel you can't trust...
    I know exactly what Deanna is feeling & Ro refers to. It's so hard to accept the 'best guess' of a physician after you've lived through a few "It's probably nothing" comforting words that turned into the worst case scenario in reality. I look through the old emails to my family of my own journey and they are FILLED with these statements: The doctor is sure "it will turn out to be nothing" / "they got it very early" / "it hasn't spread", on and on. Somewhere in there you stop trusting the pre-pathology platitudes. ((((Deanna)))) And yet you really SHOULD! For most people these 'best guesses' of physicians are correct. We just haven't been lucky. Heck, my family doesn't even believe this type of comforting words from ME anymore; I've been wrong so many times. I flat out WITHHOLD information from them now when I want them to be worry-free. I wouldn't ever want anyone to do that to ME, but I understand how trust in 'sort of good news' wears thin when it never seems to pan out. Deanna, your perspective comes from a very different place than the typical person's. Try to factor that in when you advise your SIL. If you feel they are being flip about something that continues to bother you based on your own experience, interject your opinion so that she will be proactive. And if you feel your worries are irrational, and fueled by your own disappointments, try to accept the 'good news' at face value. (I wrestle back and forth with this myself with that 'nothing' 2.7mm 'whatever' on my lung on the last CT-scan, trying to believe it is the 'nothing' they said it was, but remembering all the other 'probably nothing' reassurances during my diagnosis journey that turned out to be 'something' pretty awful. I wonder how much is irrational fear, and how much is the wisdom of personal experience, and is it possible to tell the difference??)

    PS: My beloved DIL had an ovarian cyst that she had removed shortly after my hysterectomy, something she could have just continued 'watching, as it may shrink on its own'. I think her decision to have it removed (and pathology done) was based on what was happening to me. It turned out to be benign. But no one was more anxious for that pathology report than ME, because my fear for her was so heightened. And she's fine, perfectly healthy. The doctors were right. She's still glad she had it removed. In fact, she talks all the time about having a 'preventative' hysterectomy just as soon as she is old enough that the doctors will even consider it. Cancer in a family changes the way people think about surgery.
  • bonniesue
    bonniesue Member Posts: 124 Member
    #13
    lindaprocopio said:

    I know that suspition well, when you feel you can't trust...
    I know exactly what Deanna is feeling & Ro refers to. It's so hard to accept the 'best guess' of a physician after you've lived through a few "It's probably nothing" comforting words that turned into the worst case scenario in reality. I look through the old emails to my family of my own journey and they are FILLED with these statements: The doctor is sure "it will turn out to be nothing" / "they got it very early" / "it hasn't spread", on and on. Somewhere in there you stop trusting the pre-pathology platitudes. ((((Deanna)))) And yet you really SHOULD! For most people these 'best guesses' of physicians are correct. We just haven't been lucky. Heck, my family doesn't even believe this type of comforting words from ME anymore; I've been wrong so many times. I flat out WITHHOLD information from them now when I want them to be worry-free. I wouldn't ever want anyone to do that to ME, but I understand how trust in 'sort of good news' wears thin when it never seems to pan out. Deanna, your perspective comes from a very different place than the typical person's. Try to factor that in when you advise your SIL. If you feel they are being flip about something that continues to bother you based on your own experience, interject your opinion so that she will be proactive. And if you feel your worries are irrational, and fueled by your own disappointments, try to accept the 'good news' at face value. (I wrestle back and forth with this myself with that 'nothing' 2.7mm 'whatever' on my lung on the last CT-scan, trying to believe it is the 'nothing' they said it was, but remembering all the other 'probably nothing' reassurances during my diagnosis journey that turned out to be 'something' pretty awful. I wonder how much is irrational fear, and how much is the wisdom of personal experience, and is it possible to tell the difference??)

    PS: My beloved DIL had an ovarian cyst that she had removed shortly after my hysterectomy, something she could have just continued 'watching, as it may shrink on its own'. I think her decision to have it removed (and pathology done) was based on what was happening to me. It turned out to be benign. But no one was more anxious for that pathology report than ME, because my fear for her was so heightened. And she's fine, perfectly healthy. The doctors were right. She's still glad she had it removed. In fact, she talks all the time about having a 'preventative' hysterectomy just as soon as she is old enough that the doctors will even consider it. Cancer in a family changes the way people think about surgery.

    life experience
    I have to admit that when you are told not to worry about something and it is something-- it does change you and your thought process and yet logically you know that a doctor's experience usually is probably correct but not all the time especially based on this site and it makes all more proactive. I consider that the experience gives you insight and compassion and a wariness that may help another. Glad your DIL was good and hopefully Deanna SIl is good too. prayers going out to you and all on this site.
  • woofgang
    woofgang Member Posts: 12
    #14
    deanna14 said:

    Thanks for the thoughts and prayers
    My SIL have to go back in 30 days for a repeat ultrasound for comparison with the last one. They diagnosed the ovarian mass as a hemorrhagic cyst which are a benign cyst in the ovary that bleeds. Usually they leave them alone and they heal themselves, but sometimes if they get too large, they have to be surgically removed.
    Ironically, she will be seeing my gyn/onc for her follow up. She was mistakenly referred to a general surgeon for the appt. she had on Friday. He spoke with the gyn/onc who told him to schedule the US in 30 days and an appt. with him.
    I'm skeptical, but I think it's just because of what I have been through. I would want them to biopsy if it were me. I was originally told that uterine polyps were almost always benign and mine turned out to be malignant!
    I went with her for moral support, but am not sure that I am really emotionally strong enough for that yet. Certainly not open minded enough. In my mind I'm screaming... just get it out of her so you know 100% what it is!!!
    Thank you again for the thoughts and prayers. I just have to mellow out and try to trust that these "specialists" know what they are doing.

    Continued prayers for your SIL
    Will continue to pray for your SIL and wisdom for those "specialists." Also, Linda, for your 2.7 CM "whatever." Ditto that it's tough not to be cynical when you've heard all the reassurances that turned out to be far from reality. It's too fresh in my mind from my initial biopsy....thankfully, God's bigger than all of this and will carry us all through this.

    God bless,
    Sharon

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