The Point of Cancer

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  • jams67
    jams67 Member Posts: 925 Member
    #22
    davidsonxx said:

    I think the point of cancer is not in the disease but in how we chose to respond to it. A life thereatening situation always changes the person who experiences it. Some times for the better sometimes for the worst. I wanted it to be for the better for me. I have discovered strength I never knew I had. I am more patient and less demanding. I also realized I was giving away today worrying abut tomorrow. Before my dx I was very career oriented. Now I'm much more balanced when it comes to my job.

    The biggest surprise to me was that I am actually less afraid of dying than before I had cancer. It's as if facing my mortality has made me more comfortable with its end. I am currently NED so it's not that I have accepted my impending death. The cancer journey has strengthened my faith and because of that I am less fearful. Would I avoid the journey if I could, probably. But I do treasure what I have learned from it.

    My husband had kidney cancer about 20 years ago, and you are describing the metamorphoses that he went through with his life. His personality changed, and he became aware of the important things in life. He is a much better person today than he was precancer.
    I was able to understand this much better after I had cancer. I think a person can say that they understand the fact that they are mortal, without actually facing knowledge that it will happen to them. Death will claim all of our lives sooner or later, and for me, after facing death, I feel like I've been given a second chance at life. I'm looking forward to life, and not mourning my lost innocence, but living life, because I realize how precious it is.
    Jo Ann
  • jams67
    jams67 Member Posts: 925 Member
    #23
    jams67 said:

    My husband had kidney cancer about 20 years ago, and you are describing the metamorphoses that he went through with his life. His personality changed, and he became aware of the important things in life. He is a much better person today than he was precancer.
    I was able to understand this much better after I had cancer. I think a person can say that they understand the fact that they are mortal, without actually facing knowledge that it will happen to them. Death will claim all of our lives sooner or later, and for me, after facing death, I feel like I've been given a second chance at life. I'm looking forward to life, and not mourning my lost innocence, but living life, because I realize how precious it is.
    Jo Ann

    I have to add one more thing.
    It is not where we are now with our lives that we need to think about so much as where we are going. In order to live forever, we have to be prepared to die. I feel like I was given a wake up call and my faith in God is much stronger now than precancer.

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