Diagnosed last night - in shock

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  • 6browns
    6browns Member Posts: 15
    Time for an update!

    Yesterday we went to the oncologist. It turns out that A has stage 3A Hodgkins. He will be treated with ABVD starting on Friday for what will likely be six cycles.

    As I type this I am remarkably calm -- I guess it's the idea that we're going to do something about the Hodgkin's that's calming both of us down. The doctor didn't think he needed a port-a-cath as he has "good veins". I think we'll see how the treatment goes and get one later if needed. Are there complications with a port-a-cath?

    Unfortunately I"ve been sick and I think A has a touch of the cough now. He went to bed early and seems better today.

    The weather here in Boston is not too great -- icy and cold. I'm glad our appointment was yesterday!

    We are both scared but much stronger and more confident than we were three weeks ago. The shock has worn off and now we're trying to focus on getting through the treatment. He's very worried about the side-effects. I've tried to block all of that out and have focused on getting him healthy! It's so strange that someone can be so sick and feel and look so well.

    Last week we were married 16 years -- I hope and pray that next year on our anniversary he will be hodgkin's free.

    Thank you all for your support. Your personal experiences have been helpful, calming and inspirational for us.

    Any advice you'd like to share in terms of being ready physically or emotionally for the first chemo would be great.

    I will post an update after the first treatment.
  • uglyowl
    uglyowl Member Posts: 3
    I went to MGH for a second opinion. Are you seeing Dr. Takvorian. If so you got a great doctor.

    I was diagnosed in February 2004 with 3A. I am now back to work and waiting for my next check up in January which will be 5 months after I finished chemo.

    Good luck to you,

    -Joe
  • 6browns
    6browns Member Posts: 15
    uglyowl said:

    I went to MGH for a second opinion. Are you seeing Dr. Takvorian. If so you got a great doctor.

    I was diagnosed in February 2004 with 3A. I am now back to work and waiting for my next check up in January which will be 5 months after I finished chemo.

    Good luck to you,

    -Joe

    Hi Joe,

    Yes, we're patients of Dr. Tak! I hope we do as well as you have! My husband picked up all of his medication today (Friday is the first chemo). He's not as calm as he was yesterday -- first times are probably the scariest.

    Anyway, thanks for your note! I wish the best of luck with your scans!

    Lisa
  • KTCHECK
    KTCHECK Member Posts: 3
    I was diagnosed November 2003, with stage 4b Hodgkins, just 8 weeks after the birth of my son. I too was shocked. I thought a had the flu, but nope, i got to join the club that no one wants to be a part of.
    I started ABVD in November 2003, and my repeat PET scan in January 2004 was negative. I went into remission with only 5 treatments behind me. I finished all 12 treatments, and needed no radiation. I had another PET scan in November 2004, and i am blessed to be in remisison still. Another good resource is the Leukemia/Lymphoma society website. Keep the faith . God Bless Kelly
  • 6browns
    6browns Member Posts: 15
    Time for an update!

    Hi!

    It's been such a long time since I last wrote -- I wanted to provide a mini-update on my husband.

    My husband is going to have his fourth treatment on Friday. Overall he is doing pretty well. He opted out of a cath (no interest) and his veins are holding up (so far, so good). He counts remain OK and he hasn't needed any extra medicine to boost them. (keeping our fingers crossed).

    He seems to be tolerating the ABVD pretty well, although I noticed that he was much more tired after #3 than the previous two infusions. He is more than satisfied with the care he has received so far at the General.

    I've noticed that the dynamics in our family have changed as a result of the disease. Because he is less energetic, our kids are having to do more (not popular), I've also gone back to work to ensure that we have medical insurance just in case something happens to his job. These changes have caused some stress. I do feel terrible about having less patience -- but I confess I'm tired as I"m doing more on less sleep. He is also getting more focused on the disease, the treatment, the side effects, etc.

    On a positive note, the lump on his neck appears to be gone (at least to me) and the doctor is pleased with his progress.

    I guess this is a bit longer than I thought. I want to thank everyone again for their helpful advice. I will post again (hopefully) after we get (GOOD) results on a scan tentatively scheduled for the March timeframe.

    May this year bring good health and much happiness to everyone!

    Best,
    Lisa
  • DenMorton
    DenMorton Member Posts: 3
    Hi,
    I was diagnosed on Nov 17 and I am 56, living the good life in Maine. I have never smoked, drank very little and taken care of myself.
    That night when the call came in was like a kick in chest. My wife is very strong and didn't cry until when we went in for my first treatment and seeing the chemo entering my chest was to much for her to take.
    She does go with me every treatment and I like having her there for me. I also have a really strong church family that are there for me.
    If you haven't seen the book CANCER A medical and Spiritual Guide by William Fintel and Gerald McDermott you should get it. It will help answer a lot of questions.
    I have a great hat collection and after 3 treatment (#4 tomorrow) I am still working as an electrical engineer.
    Don't forget that the doctors will take care of any pain he has but suffering is something different and you will suffer right along with him as a care giver. Freinds, family and faith will help with the suffering
    God Bless you both
    DenMorton