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Abunai
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Aug 19, 2018 - 1:44 am

Hi all,

This is Cathy, Abunai's wife.

Dave has been on hospice since Wednesday, and has had good and not so good days. Today was an okay day, and he's been able to talk and get some thoughts across. He wanted me to tell you what is going on, and that he loves you all. He gained a lot of strength from this board and the people on it. You have become dear friends that he honesty cares about, and wishes the best for.

With love,

Cathy
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Retcenturion
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Aug 19, 2018 - 7:40 am

Thank you Cathy for the update. Have been thinking of how you guys have been doing. May today be a good day. Sending positive thoughts to to you and Abunai.
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Gtngbtr58 @aol.com
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Aug 19, 2018 - 8:07 am

Thanks for the update- wishing you both physical and emotional comfort and peace.  June
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stub1969
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Aug 19, 2018 - 10:04 am

First of all--prayers of strength and comfort to you, Dave, and your family.  Thank you for the update.  I'm hopeful he has many more "good" days ahead.

  Keep in touch,

Stub
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APny
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Aug 19, 2018 - 10:36 am

Wishing you both many more good days. Thank you for letting us know. You are both in my thoughts.
sandy23
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Aug 19, 2018 - 11:27 am

Prayers for you both.  Thank you for the update.  You will both continue to be in our thoughts and prayers.
Wehavenotimeatall
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Aug 19, 2018 - 11:59 am

i am absolutely devasted

 please tell him how strong he is  and how wonderful  person he was to everyone on here

He is a special special guy

I pray you both get comfort and strength from each other and your families 

prayers and hugs

annie

 

 
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Aug 19, 2018 - 5:35 pm

Hi Cathy, Wish you both strength and more enjoyable days togehter. Please tell Dave that thank him for sharing his journey here and I am always impressed by his positive attitude on fighting this disease. I have been wishing the new treament would work for him. Can’t imagine how much you two have been thru for the past two years.

Prayer for you both, please take care of yourself too.
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Aug 19, 2018 - 7:19 pm

I am sad to hear this news. Just enjoy the time, savor every moment, however long or short it may be. I have valued the short time I got to know you and Dave a little bit. Take good care of yourself.
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daisybud
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Aug 19, 2018 - 10:04 pm

Sending love and prayers to both of you
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Allochka
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Aug 20, 2018 - 10:52 am

Strength to Dave, and lots of strength to you!

You both are example of love, support and dignity during these terrible times.

Hugs to you, dear Cathy...
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Aug 20, 2018 - 12:36 pm

I think of you often and pray for you.
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Jan4you
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Aug 20, 2018 - 1:00 pm

Tears in my eyes, I write to you both, Cathy! 

Heart to heart

Soul to soul his spiritual journey continues...

I get it. I worked in hospice. 

May you feel OUR love and connection too, Cathy!

Hug him for me!

thanks for sharing his kind and caring thoughts!

 

Jan
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Aug 20, 2018 - 3:49 pm

Wishing you both the best at this very difficult time. So sorry to hear it. Thanks for letting us know and let Dave know we are thinking of him!

Todd
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Aug 20, 2018 - 4:43 pm

Dave and Cathy........my heartfelt well wishes and prayers for you both. We will keep you in our prayers and tell Dave we are always thinking of him.
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Aug 20, 2018 - 4:52 pm

We have Hospice here in the US.  After my Dx and 2 surgeries, I went through the local Volunteer Training for 13 Wednesday afternoons.  I wanted to know what I might eventually encounter; and even was assigned a patient.

Four years ago, my M-i-L was at the end of her bout with pancreatic cancer and I only have wonderful things to say about what hospice can do Dave and the rest of his family.

I am so sorry Dave has reached this benchmark, and wish you only wonderful days and nights together.  Create more memories.

With hugs and love,

donna_lee
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marosa
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Aug 20, 2018 - 5:35 pm

with love and respect in these difficult moments.   Please do tell him we have him in our thoughts and in our hearts.
Brock1969
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Aug 20, 2018 - 6:55 pm

may you be granted with the strength to handle whatever comes your way. Thank you for the update and prayers to you 
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Aug 20, 2018 - 7:07 pm

Prayers for you and Dave. Many blessings to both of you.
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Aug 20, 2018 - 7:18 pm

Please let Dave know that we are all keeping him close in thought. Praying for some more good days ahead. Sending love to you both.

Cin
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Aug 20, 2018 - 10:28 pm

Wishing Dave and you kind thoughts and comfort in this difficult time.
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ImNotDeadYet
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Aug 21, 2018 - 7:31 pm

I'msso sorry to read this and wish you both strength and comfort as you deal with everything. 
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CRashster
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Aug 22, 2018 - 8:53 am

Dave fought a good fight. Nothing prepares you, nothing.
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Gtngbtr58 @aol.com
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Aug 22, 2018 - 12:58 pm

Both-thank g-d you have each other.  Hope you are resting confortably-June
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Jan4you
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Aug 22, 2018 - 7:21 pm

Dave & Cathy, I LOVE YOU!!

 I am here, with you, beside you all the way~

You are not forgotten big guy~

Healing hugs, Jan
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angec
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Aug 25, 2018 - 7:53 pm

Please give Dave all our love as well! Hugs to you both!
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AnnissaP
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Aug 27, 2018 - 7:26 pm

Much love for the both of you xoxo
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Amy_Jo
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Aug 28, 2018 - 4:31 pm

Prayers for you both. 
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Abunai
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Aug 30, 2018 - 1:45 am

that Dave, (Abunai) has passed away.

He left us in the early morning of the 24th.

He really loved this board and everyone on it. Thank you all for helping him through this journey.

Cathy
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Aug 30, 2018 - 1:58 am

Cathy,

 

 

So sorry to hear. I don't even have words that could comfort you.

 

 

icemantoo
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Sep 24, 2018 - 6:46 pm

Just trying to catch up on reading here. I just saw this.

Very sad news.

Wish I had magic words to help, but I know there's not.

Hugs and peace,

Todd
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Canadian Sandy
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Aug 30, 2018 - 3:05 am

So sorry to hear this. Take care.
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Retcenturion
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Aug 30, 2018 - 6:13 am

Thank you for posting. I have been thinking of you since your last post. He loved you very much from his writing. Peace to you.
Wehavenotimeatall
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Aug 30, 2018 - 7:29 am

so heartbreaking

so cruel

 

your pain is unimaginable 

we know how much  he loved you

 

 

Rest In a Peace Dave

you are a special special guy 

 

Annie
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Gtngbtr58 @aol.com
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Aug 30, 2018 - 9:34 am

Strength and comfort to you Cathy-June
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lobbyist0724
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Aug 30, 2018 - 9:35 am

Thank you Cathy for letting us know, as least there is no more suffering for him,  he was so lucky to have you to walk togetger thru the journey. I wish you peace and and plase take care, only time can heal such pain.

Rest in peace Dave, people here will always remember you. Your story will always help new comers with similar situation.
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stub1969
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Aug 30, 2018 - 9:43 am

Cathy, prayers of comfort to you and your family.  Please know that Dave impacted many people on this board with his openness to share his story.  He offered comfort and advice to many...and those folks found strength and wisdom in his words.  It's a legecy worthy of being proud.

Blessings,

Stub

 
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Allochka
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Aug 30, 2018 - 11:11 am

Dear Cathy, so sorry to hear. I hope that time will heal you, please take care of yourself and thank you for letting us know

Rest in peace, Abunai
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angec
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Aug 30, 2018 - 11:15 am

Very sorry to hear about Dave. Praying for you and the family and friends. Please stick around and update us on yourself.  Hugs to you!

 
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ImNotDeadYet
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Aug 30, 2018 - 11:59 am

We'll all remember Dave as someone who genuinely cared about helping others on this board acclimate and become comfortable sharing. I know he helped me to do that. I wish you and your family strength and comfort in this difficult time  May his memory always be for a blessing. 
penitent
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Aug 30, 2018 - 1:14 pm

Requiescat in pace, Abunai.
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Amy_Jo
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Aug 30, 2018 - 1:17 pm

I'm so sorry to hear this news. Praying for strength and peace for your family. 
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JoeyZ
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Aug 30, 2018 - 1:52 pm

I am also so very sorry to hear this. May you find comfort in knowing just how much we all do care, just like he cared for you and for us. Please take good care of yourself. Thank you for keeping us informed.
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Aug 30, 2018 - 2:28 pm

Dearest Cathy......I have no words that will take away the hurt. Just know that Dave meant a lot to many people on this message board. He showed us all what real strength is. Please take care and when you feel ready please keep posting. Your insight will be a valuable asset.

Condolences to you and yours.

 

 
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CRashster
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Aug 30, 2018 - 2:47 pm

Thank you for letting us know.
Brock1969
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Aug 30, 2018 - 3:10 pm

But what a legacy.He offerred such confort to so many on this board. When anyone thinks of him, a smile is sure to emerge. God bless and prayers
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Steph85
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Aug 30, 2018 - 4:00 pm

I'm so so sorry for your loss. Hugs to you and your family!
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Bryn1108
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Aug 30, 2018 - 4:37 pm

Deepest prayers and his for you and all your family.  
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AnnissaP
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Aug 31, 2018 - 7:06 pm

So very, very sorry. I apologize, but nothing I can say will make this any better for you xoxo. I wish it would!
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rhominator
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Aug 31, 2018 - 7:15 pm

Hi Kathy,

I'm so sorry. I aways enjoyed my short little chats on this board with Abunai. He will be missed.

My prayers are for you and your family.

Rhom
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APny
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Sep 01, 2018 - 10:34 am

Dear Kathy, I am so very sorry to hear that. What a tremendous loss. You and your familly are in my thoughts.

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