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Lost wife

Kidpsych
Kidpsych CSN Member Posts: 2
in Stomach Cancer #1

my 36 year old husband has Stage 4 esophageal/gastric cancer. He has been estimated to live about a year, based on 3 oncology opinions. I feel like I'm dying with him. I am severely depressed. I am able to manage the basis of taking care of him, but I am so sad that I can't do much else. Leaning on others is not helping right now. How do we deal with facing this? He just had surgery, and is getting ready to do more chemo, but it's all palliative care. 

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  • Bspangberg
    Bspangberg CSN Member Posts: 1
    #2
    My wife of 39 years , has

    My wife of 39 years , has stomach cancer that has spread , no sugery is possible , I'm sorry no advise just  know how u feel, 

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  • Acelang
    Acelang CSN Member Posts: 19
    edited August 2017 #3

    I urge you both to look it cannabis oil.. documentary run from the cure rick 

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  • Mary H.
    Mary H. CSN Member Posts: 17
    edited September 2017 #4
    What to do now

    I just want to let you know how sorry I am for you.  I can so relate to your depression.  And the sadness.  And the concern about not being able to do much for him.  But, you're taking care of him and that's what's important.  My heart hurts for you.  Not much I can offer except prayers, if you believe, and positive energy.  It is so hard.  I remember times I would leave the room.  Scream, cry, whatever I needed, then wash my face, blow my nose, paste on a smile, and return.  He loves you, you love him.  That's all that matters at this point.  And you will continue to love each other, no matter what the future holds. 

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  • Triple-C
    Triple-C CSN Member Posts: 2
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    Mary H. said:

    What to do now

    I just want to let you know how sorry I am for you.  I can so relate to your depression.  And the sadness.  And the concern about not being able to do much for him.  But, you're taking care of him and that's what's important.  My heart hurts for you.  Not much I can offer except prayers, if you believe, and positive energy.  It is so hard.  I remember times I would leave the room.  Scream, cry, whatever I needed, then wash my face, blow my nose, paste on a smile, and return.  He loves you, you love him.  That's all that matters at this point.  And you will continue to love each other, no matter what the future holds. 

    Death of significant other

    We all will face this at some,some just get a long time to deal with it...........................Just keep loving and trusting God, be kind and gentle.

     

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  • Triple-C
    Triple-C CSN Member Posts: 2
    edited November 2017 #6
    3rd diagnosis of cancer, breast 2 times and now colon.

    Had my 3rd tx with Folfox6 3 weeks ago and went in saying not today last week. WBC count 2.7, Lymphocytes @ 50% CEA up to 27 from 4...............................Maybe I'll just stop.

     

     

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