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LindaK. said:

So Hard

It's hard to keep positive while going through so much.  My husband snaps at me and I just take a deep breath and try to ignore it.  He always comes around and apologizes.  I'm sure your wife knows it's the stress too. It sucks, I know.  Don't lose hope, it's what keeps most of going every day.  My husband, who has always been the positive person in our relationship, is really down and negative about this 2nd cancer, saying things like "I knew it would come back" so I have to now be the positive one, total role reversal.  We had a good visit with the surgeon yesterday, but he didn't sleep well last night tossing and turning thinking about all the information we got.  I can't blame him, but I slept really well feeling more accepting of the news and more hopeful.  I guess all relationships are like that, when one is strong, the other may be weak and vice versa.  Try to do something nice for yourself today, it will lift your spirits.  Maybe just talking to a friend for a few minutes, I know that usually helps me.  I have a good friend who is a 2-time cancer survivor and it's always good for my husband to talk to her and me too.  Those of us on this board understand, so just sharing your feelings here helps too!  Chin up

Linda

is that he not think of it as "coming back".  In many cases, the cancer has all been there from the very beginning, just growing at different rates until visible on the scans.  At least that's what my doctor said about my situation, and it helped me to think of it that way.  I don't why exactly, but it seemed more encouraging to think of it that way than to think it "came back".

annalexandria said:

Yay!

I knew that liver was going to be ok!  Should listen to Dr. Chels and Dr. Ann. 

As for the gallbladder, that thing can go if it needs to, and he won't even miss it.

Yep they took my gallbladder 2 years ago and I never missed it. Its funny how many organs or parts of organs we can dispose of.

So kind of you to suggest updates. I've been lurking but not posting. I think I'm at the end of the rope with Zaltrap. I've been on it for  15 months and my last treatment just about did me in. I'm spending way too much time in bed the last few weeks and eating is literally a pain.  told my wife I'm not doing anymore of these treatments. She is of course so very supportive of my decisions. The Doc wants to do another biopsy and try something else. He really is a saint because he doesn't quit on people easily. I'm just tired. Hopefully the coming week will be an improvement over the last. 

My best to all of you,

Ron