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I have my presurgical testing scheduled for Monday and reality is starting to set in.  Sometimes I'm calm, sometimes I'm scared. My husband has been acting like this is no big deal.  Well, not for him! I'm feeling blue again. Cry 

My sister in law had a laporoscopic surgery to remove a dermoid tumor from her ovary.  I went to see her in the hospital night of the surgery and she had already been released.  When I heard she was released so soon I wanted to bring her dinner but my husband asked her if she wanted to go to Frankie & Johnny's this family style resturant.  She said yes and ate a huge plate of pasta. I think this is what he is expecting of me.  

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Again, whatever you are feeling is okay. Just try not to project into the "what ifs".. because it is fruitless, agree?

 

I have had two laproscopic surgeries and both were not very painful at all. In fact I remember pressing on incisions and saying, this doesn't hurt at all! The bigger incision was sore. I slept fine. I ate fine, except the narcotics make me too loopy for a long time. Found out I can no longer tolerate opiates with one kidney . And NSAIDS are not allowed any longer.

I was in hospital for 3 days, but I have other medical conditions they were monitoring so they did not rush me out the door. Since I was hallucinating on pain meds, they didn't want me too loopy when I left.

But that's me. Again, you are having major surgery tell your hubby. And resting is important. Who knows. He may be secretly scared and wants to put on a brave face! You know him best.

Be well and I'll be thinking of you my dear~

Warmly, Jan

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I had a laproscopic nephrectomy and it was not nearly as bad as I had anticipated . I was in the hospitol for only one night and snug in my own bed the next . I had a two and a half hour trip home and one thing I would do diffrently is I would have taken a pain med on my way home . I was fine during the trip but getting out of the car and into the house was a little painful . I had pain meds to last five days and that was all I needed . On the fifth day the pain was gone and all I had to do was take it easy and mend which went pretty quickly and with no drama .

As Jan said your husband should understand that not all sugeries are the same and what you are having is a pretty big deal. She's smart like that . You should listen to her. . He most likely already knows and is just acting tough for you . Guys are like that .

Like Jan , the narcotics made me loopy . Unlike Jan I never got over it and am just as loopy as a rattlesnake to this day . There are people who claim I was loopy before the narcotics . Maybe .

I know all will go well for you and I'll be keeping you in my thoughts .

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Thanks Frank....I need encouragement and reassurance things will be alright. 

 

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Thanks Jan.

It really helps to hear from others who have been there.

It's hard when you are the one who is usually doing for everyone.

Mother Homemaker and Provider.  Many here say to take your time and recover and I'm worried about making money. I guess I'm no good to anyone if I'm not well.

 

 

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Nothing to worry about.  The surgery is necessary so look forward to it and your recovery. Concentrate on how this is the best thing that you have ever done for yourself. Then think about how much better the rest of your life will be because of it. Think about all the positive outcomes from this. Every time you catch yourself worrying, change your focus. At least consider wearing your johnny backwards and walking the halls. If you can't make yourself smile, think of what it will do for the other patients. You'll be OK.

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Hi CM, 

I understand how you are feeling, we have all been there, the whole process is scary. Believe me though, once you are fully ensconced in your room and given something to help you relax, you will be able to deal with it. The waiting period is always the most stressful, once your in the moment your coping skills kick in. You will do just fine, you will surprise yourself!

A laporoscopic procedure on an ovary is obviously not in the same league as a kidney op. A partial nephrectomy is a complicated procedure. It is a painful procedure which is why you will be on strong pain meds. You will be shuffling around for a little while and will have trouble standing up straight. You won't be able to lift anything weighty for several weeks. Getting in and out of chairs is difficult, and finding a comfortable position at night is tough. You are going to need some help initially, so your husband needs to take this seriously, and be there when you need him. Just out of interest has your partner ever gone through any major surgery? 

Don't let yourself get down, you are tougher than you think! Just make sure you concentrate and prioritise your wellbeing, irrespective of what those around you expect from you.

Djinnie x

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Diana,

 

This is major abdominal surgery, not a procedure. I have never had to put up with a husband. A wife is enough.. Rent the movie Junior with Arnold Schwarstneger where Arnold gets pregnant. That made me sweat and will do the same for any guy.

Hope your surgery is on the lesser end of the stories here.

 

Icemantoo

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Dijinnie Ice and Fox

You guys really rock and have no idea how much you have helped me through this time.

icemantoo how long have you bed here helping newbies like me?

Fox your words resonate.

Dijinne I know you are fighting your own recent battle and you still console a cry baby like me.

thank you....I may need you guys every step of the way.

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Don't be so hard on yourself, it is times like these you will show your metal, you will find that you are a lot stronger than you think you are! We will all be here to give you all the support you need, no worries!

 

Djinnie x

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Ah C. Mom...you had kids... from what I have heard from other women, this is easier than child birth...  Heck the Doctor does all the work while you sleep..!  There will be some pain once you wake up... For me, the fact that the deed was done made me want to jump up and down for joy..!!  The presurgy stuff is nothing.. an EKG and a blood test, they weigh you and take blood pressure... ask a bunch of questions, and you fill out the forms.. done deal..  Sometimes they want more scans, but not likely in your case.. my tumor was well big...

Oh yes, some folks here named their tumor... too bad I did not think of that before surgery... 

Hang in there.. it WILL be OK...  If I were closer I would hold your hand.... Tongue Out

Holler at us when the deed is done..

Ron

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My presurgery testing is Monday too, nobody has offered to hold my hand. Cry

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Oh! DS we can't have that! I will hold your hand, in fact I'll hold both hands! Albeit very distantly!  All the best this week:)

 

Djinnie x

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The distance doesn't matter, only the strength of the grip!

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When is your surgery?  I'm going in Thursday. I think you go after me right? I can give you my blow by blow and hopefully it will not frighten you.  What Fox said made lots of sense.

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Correct, mine is the following Wednesday after you have yours. I don't think you will frighten me. I'm actually looking forward to mine as my little tumor is actually causing me some pain in my lower back and I'll be glad when they get this thing out of me. Oh, and best wishes for a speedy recovery for you.

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My labor was hard 11 hours and then they cut me. The epidural didn't even take the edge off. I'm sure the did it wrong in the hillbilly hospital I gave birth in. I went to work in 5 weeks and it was a little tough but I had the hormone thing going on. I was getting sweaty. I remember it was hard getting up and going down sitting or lying.  I just keep thinking about the little girl who was brains dead after her tonsillectomy. My son is only 9.

-Diana

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Diana,

 

I have been here tring to help the Newbies for a little over 4 years (Joined: Jan 2010). I try to be helpful , respectful and add something positive if not humerous. Your comment caught my attention a few weeks ago where you had an unrealistic intention of being back to work a week or 2 after the surgery with an extra ordinary commute to and from work each day. At least now you have impute from a variety of others to address that question.

 

Have the surgery. Get well. Don't rush it.

 

Icemantoo

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Hi Diana,

The most painful part of the pre-surgery for me was the weigh in!!! The truth hurts! Everyone at pre-surgery is usually very kind and reassurng. But I know that is not your real worry.

Maybe find a good article on line about the procedure and have your hubby read it. Maybe that will educate him a bit. My hubby is wonderful, but he internalizes everything and often won't say anything about what is bothering him. At first I thought what I was about to go through had no effect on him. He didn't react the way I would react if the tables were turned. It wasn't until the night that his best friend died, and we had a couple of drinks in his honor, that he finally broke down and said "please pull through this". He is very loving and sweet but I still had to ask him to do things. I was doing laundry 2 days after I got home. I was cooking and doing dishes the day after I got home -while he watched tv. I did get a little angry about it (thinking "are you KIDDING me? Even me having cancer doesn't inspire you to get up and help me?") But I have realized that some men don't mind doing things - but they have to be asked every time. So I adapt as best as I can. I look at it as a trade off because he is very patient, kind and loving to me. And Lord knows I ain't perfect either!

And after the surgery, I felt a huge sense of relief once the procedure was done. You will have it all behind you soon and you will be moving forward.

Hang tough, girl. You can do it!

Hugs

Jojo

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I'm not a fan of the scale either but I think what worries me is either  the thought of finding more cancer in my body or not being able to have the surgery. My cyst or tumor is small. I have no real health issues except an underactive thyroid. I think a lot of my fears have no basis.  I do feel encouraged hearing you were able to do laundry or dishes. I hate being helpless. My husband is not the loving type at all. He is the helpless type. I think this experience will show his true colors. I wonder what they will be?? 

Thanks!

Diana

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why men have to be asked to do things. If my wife just let it be up to me to know when to vacuum, I would probably do it once a week. Seems to me thats when it has to be done. But her timetable says to do it every 2-3 days. So she is always vacuuming and my turn never seems to come up because she has already done it. So to me, it doesn't need it yet.

The most painful part was the weigh in.  That's funny.

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One thing I told visitors:   Don't make me laugh.

Make sure you have a pillow to hug, both in the hospital and home.   Even when walking in the hospital corridors, I had that pillow against my tummy.

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Thanks for the advice Joanne.

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I won't tell you my weight story, it will p** you off... seems like guys lose weight with the surgery.. women, well not so much.. ooops..  But Diana.. no way will it be as bad as you described that baby delivery story...  You most likely have a choice on pain drugs.. epidural or a pump with a button.  I can not tell you which is better, but I opted for the pump.  The first two days were the worst, BUT and I mean BUT, I had a HUGE surgery...  My tumor was super big and the Cancer was in my Renal Vein...  I got the major incision.. which you will not have.  Sounds like you will ge the petite version incision.  Heck you may not even need the extra pillow... There have been a couple of people that stated "what pain..?" as they had almost none.  Hope you are in that category.!

I know it is stressful... trust me I know..!  But the fear was far worse than the reality..!  Even though I had a big surgery, I was so glad the deed was done..!!

Can't wait to hear your story once it is over and you are home again...

Ron

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Yeah, yeah, Ron. I know it is the typical story. You guys are so lucky! I know that Fox had about the same sized tumor as me and lost 8 inces around his waist. I was thrilled to have lost almost 4 inches. 

However, there is a new study has found that women with large butts live longer than men who mention it.Undecided

 

Jojo

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Ah JoJo, how does that saying go.. More cushion... Ron

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yes it does, Ron, yes it does.

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Forgot to add, that i used ICE for pain/swelling. I remember the RNs face when I asked for ice. She said, but you have pain pills? Finally, the PT therapist got me ice cubes. Bring immediate relief.

Also, I wore this lumbar velcro wrap (you can get at any drug store) to support my sore muscles. I asked the surgeon and he said it was fine. I used this wrap for my 1st laproscopic surgery too. I wore it at home and even to bed, so when I would get up I had support.

Trust me, I had little to no major pain. The incisions are small, about an inch, and the larger one (to remove the kidney) was about 2.5 inches. It was the only one that offered some discomfort. I used the a dry ice block inside the wrap and never used any pain pill once home. That ice block did the trick, reduced the swelling which reduced any discomfort.

BUT you need to get your iron levels checked. You'll be more tired, esp if you DO use narcotics for pain. I finally demanded that they check my iron levels, took their time, and learned yes, as I suspected I was anemic. Being deficient in iron makes you more fatigued.

Eat healthy, rest, rest, rest. And unlike others, TELL your HUBBY what you need. Do not expect him to read your mind. LOL

It will be okay..

Jan

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My worst moment (after getting weighed) was throwing up twice a few hours after the surgery. That really hurt - and of coure I was worried about blowing a gasket or something!

I think the ice is a fabulous idea! I was on morphine the first 24 hours - and it did nothing. Finally they gave me dilaudin the 2nd night and it was marvellous but that was short lived - 12 hours. Then I was on to tylenol 3 tablets....another useless one. I think dry ice would have been a great alternative. Jan - since you used the ice, I am curious if you have the typical bulge? I wonder if the ice applied at that time would alleviate that? 

And Foxy!! Sounds like you are kinda making excuses! lol...you know there is more than vacuuming to do. Scrub the toilets and see how happy she will be! I ended up getting a cleaning lady - it solved most of that problem.

That reminds me of a joke.

Two women were sitting in a restaurant. One of them locked eyes with the most gorgeous man across the room. He came over to her and said "I could not help but notice that you were watching me from across the room. Do you find me attractive?" She nodded yes. "Well," he said "I am in need of some money....for $100 I would be willing to do whatever you like, if you can express what you want in three words or less." The woman smiled, reached into her purse and pulled out $100; She took his hand and placed the money there. Then she licked her lips and slowly smiled and said: "Clean my house."

 

Jojo

 

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Again, I must thank all the flirty women here... you make my day a lot brighter..!!  Tongue Out

 

Ron

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JoJo, you do crack me up!! Thx for the laugh.

Agree, the best aphrodesiac is do a chore around the house without being asked !

And yes, ICE really helped the pain and swelling. No other med worked. In fact I had a horrible 8 days of hallucinations, loss of memory, confusion=embarrassing!!

The hallucinations were fun, esp the one where a guy all in black was reaching over my end table next to my bed to hand me my eye drops!! hehehee And the pretty lights on the ceiling fan..what a trip!

I know NSAIDs would've helped, but cannot take them.

I don't have the bulge and would assume that comes from muscles shifting into a new place? Is that farfetched?

But kept ice block (plastic dry ice thingy) inside my velcro wrap. It truly helped. I could walk around and it stayed in place.

My daughter in law just had her 2nd C section (my 9th grandbaby, a girl!!) and she is using ice too, stating she is not using any pain pills because she is nursing. She's doing fine with the ice only treatment.

Be well.. my friend,

Jan

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Good to know that ice can be of service.

 

 

Icemantoo

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