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  • UncleBuddy
    UncleBuddy Member Posts: 1,019
    Nana b said:

    So sorry to hear this. I am

    So sorry to hear this. I am now at my 5 year mark and have a recurrence. I'm on Erbitux/Oxy/Xelolda.  if this doesn't work, pretty sure Folfri will be next, then who knows?  I think you were smart to talk to the kids. Give them time to really get close and love Mom.  At times, I think I'm forgotten.  I had a lot more attention the first round of chemo. :)


    Seriously though, life is tough,  I just buried my Mom on Sunday, and it doesn't get easier with age.  She was still my Mommy.  With time, I know the pain dulls enough to carry on.  


    My my best to you all. Praying for our Bodies, I think our souls are good. 


    I am so sorry about the loss of your mom. It never gets easy. My mom is gone 8 years and I still miss her everyday. I have so many things I wish I could tell her.

    I'm sorry that your cancer has returned! I hope you have an easy time with the chemo.


  • suzanne-yes
    suzanne-yes Member Posts: 24
    Sending good thoughts your way!

    You have already received a great number of wonderful thoughts and helpful information.  Have you looked at getting a second opinion and does your wife have a multidisciplinary team evaluating her treatment plan?  It's important to have a surgeon, radiation oncologist, and interventional radiologist weigh in on other possibiliites - not only for treatment options but in help with keeping her symptoms under control.  There is no crystal ball and her new treatment may work well.  if it doesn't then it is helpful to know what your next steps will be.  Clinical trials possible?  What about revisiting one of the previous chemo regimens?  There are studies that show revisiting a regimen after a break may provide favorable results. 

    My treatments have been mixed, matched, and revisited!  Some with better response than others.  I'm thinking of you and hoping that as you test the waters of the new normal you find some peace and direction. 

    Suzanne Lindley

  • danker
    danker Member Posts: 1,276
    Bad News

    I know exactly how you feel!  My wife has been in a  nursing home for the last  14 moths with alzheimers disease.  Her Doctor did't expect her to make it till this Christmas.  She obviously won't make it the next one.  I see her 4-6 times a week.  Some times she knows who I am, and other times not.  Watching her deteriorate is indeed difficult. My only consolation is remembering the good times we had in our 56 year marriage.  Good luck to you.!!!

  • jen2012
    jen2012 Member Posts: 1,607
    How are things rls?
    How are things rls?
  • Chelsea71
    Chelsea71 Member Posts: 1,169
    jen2012 said:

    How are things rls?
    How are things rls?

    I have been wondering about

    I have been wondering about you and your wife, as well.  Hope things are okay.