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  • steved
    steved Member Posts: 834 Member

    I am sending thoughts,
    I am sending thoughts, prayers, well wishes, good luck, good spirits, positive thinking and all other things that i know will help you get through this
    You are awesome
    You can do it
    Love that you used the work cure!!!
    You go for it!!!
    xx

    Tara you are right that there is a huge sense of relief to have this possibility given to me and now become a reality. I just want it now to happen so I can get on with dealing with what ever challenges arise from it,

    steve
  • steved
    steved Member Posts: 834 Member
    Vickilg said:

    Steve!
    What an amazing person you are! Last night I prayed for you, your family and your surgeons! I believe in the power of prayer! Your amazing attitude is going to pull you through this and by all means say the word cured! Say it over and over and over again. It is the hope and believe in a cure that pulls people through. Be positive and fight the good fight. You got this, Steve!

    Big hug!

    Vicki

    Thank you
    for the prayers and thoughts- they all are gratefully received. I do believe that attitude is half the battle and whilst I am less of a believer that it changes outcomes, it certainly changes how you live in the present.

    steve
  • relaxoutdoors08
    relaxoutdoors08 Member Posts: 521 Member
    You have Courage We have Prayers and Support
    You will be in my thoughts and prayers. For all of us who are here to learn about all possible treatments for this disease, I thank you for being courages enough to step forward for this radical surgical treatment. We will be with you in spirit and support every step of the way.
    Prayers as you have made the first step. Prayers for you and your family as you take each step towards the altimate goal SURVIVAL
    Prayers,
    NB.
  • steved
    steved Member Posts: 834 Member

    Steve,
    It's truly difficult


    Steve,

    It's truly difficult to put into words how I felt after reading your post. I am simply in awe of the courage and tenacity that you, and so many others, display in this fight. This is going to a long journey for you, but your determination and strength of spirit will get you through the hurdles.

    I pray that this operation will be successful so that you may enjoy many more wonderful years with your family.

    All my best,

    Cynthia

    Courage etc
    I am sure it isn't just me but I always find talk of courage, bravery etc difficult lables to accept. We are all here fighting this illness and we all tend to do and accept the challenges that we face as part of that. I sruggle to equate that to any sense of bravery- I really feel I am simply accepting what I have to do, as anyone in my position would. Would I be less brave if I declined this operation?

    I hugely apprecaite all the support and positive thoughts that people have contributed and it genuinely does help me face this. I am interested in others ideas around how people attach such words to people fighting cancer. Are we brave because we are fighting cancer? Are some of us more brave than others? Does fighting and beating caner make some one more brave than another who lost their battle? I have often seen these words used at funerals and in eulogies to people who have lost their fight and it may be that, that is the source of my discomfort with the terms.

    Sorry, got distracted by an irrelevant rant that simply makes me seem ungrateful for all the support people are offering :) but do others feel that way at times?

    Anywau, thank you so much, cunthia and all the others above for your kind words of support. It does make me feel like I am facing this challenge with huge support behind me which helps enormously.

    steve
  • JohnsIsland
    JohnsIsland Member Posts: 9
    Steve,
    You will be in my

    Steve,

    You will be in my thoughts and prayers. I hope you have a speedy recovery.

    Jeff
  • pete43lost_at_sea
    pete43lost_at_sea Member Posts: 3,900 Member
    just a big hug and prayers
    one suggestion is to see the best naturopath in town. they may have some suggestions re diet post op, and supplementation. i healed very well with supports collagen pro etc etc, its possibly to late for full biological analysis, but if i were having your op, i would be in peak shape, at least all insufficiencies addressed. but no doc will go that far.

    the metametrix porphorins test is a good test.

    but just relax and breathe and smile.

    i'll give you that hug one day in real life!

    hugs,
    pete
  • Sundanceh
    Sundanceh Member Posts: 4,392 Member
    steved said:

    Courage etc
    I am sure it isn't just me but I always find talk of courage, bravery etc difficult lables to accept. We are all here fighting this illness and we all tend to do and accept the challenges that we face as part of that. I sruggle to equate that to any sense of bravery- I really feel I am simply accepting what I have to do, as anyone in my position would. Would I be less brave if I declined this operation?

    I hugely apprecaite all the support and positive thoughts that people have contributed and it genuinely does help me face this. I am interested in others ideas around how people attach such words to people fighting cancer. Are we brave because we are fighting cancer? Are some of us more brave than others? Does fighting and beating caner make some one more brave than another who lost their battle? I have often seen these words used at funerals and in eulogies to people who have lost their fight and it may be that, that is the source of my discomfort with the terms.

    Sorry, got distracted by an irrelevant rant that simply makes me seem ungrateful for all the support people are offering :) but do others feel that way at times?

    Anywau, thank you so much, cunthia and all the others above for your kind words of support. It does make me feel like I am facing this challenge with huge support behind me which helps enormously.

    steve

    Now, Here’s a Meal – Not a Snack (For SteveD)
    Steve, I appreciate having you around here. You’ve raised several interesting questions that have some meat left on the bone. So, if you don’t mind, I’d like to weigh in with a few thoughts on your topic of “Word Association” with regards to the cancer fight.

    “Are we brave because we are fighting cancer?”

    The easy answer is Yes, but I’ve always held the belief that Courage, Strength and Bravery comes from us doing the things that we have to do – even though we don’t want to do it.

    That’s always been the way of things in life and cancer represents a different obstacle to the many challenges that besets each one of us everyday in what often times seems like a random happening of events that tend to comprise our individual journeys.

    I realize you are running your latest gauntlet for the love of your children – that is your motivation. I think partly too, because you still see a shot at cure – and that shot equals Hope – and that makes this worth going for. I've heard you echo that sentiment.

    If this were me, I’d be lacking the incentive that you have to make this decision. I got a small taste of the love of a child with my grand niece recently. It was all too short and I tried to use your story to put myself in your place and imagine and weigh the things that you must have been thinking.

    But, it’s completely different…

    She’s my niece and only 3. And your children are just that – your children. So, if I were making that decision today, as much as I see potential, she’s still too young too really know who I am and as such, I could not find the motivation there for myself to attempt what you are going to do.

    It’s just one of the hardest stories and decisions I’ve been privileged to follow here on this board. I guess, I’d have to be able to convince myself that Me would be worth the fight, because when it was all said and done, there would be no physical resources who would align with me when it was over. I’m not sure how my wife would handle this if we found ourselves there - she might run for cover, I just don't know.

    I think for me, I'd wake up in the aftermath of it all and just wonder...

    So, Bravery, Courage, Strength is what you do have to go through with all of this…there could be many of us, myself included, who might not be able to make the decision to follow through as you have. I’ve done a few things in my fight, but the magnitude of this encompasses anything that I’ve had to deal with.

    I just don’t know what I would do – but I know what you are doing for your family and yourself - and it is absolute courageous that you are fighting cancer in this way. I have no doubt that you will be teaching us a thing or two.

    As for the general population, I still think it is brave to stand up to – and fight cancer. The alternative would be to cower down and not fight it. I have seen real-life people do this and while I support everyone’s individual right to fight or not, it still is upsetting to not try.


    “Are some of us more brave than others?”

    The answers here lie shrouded in ambiguity. Again, Yes, some of us are braver, because some of us fight, and other choose not to. As I alluded to, I’ve seen a couple of folks in real-life clinics and hospitals that I frequented put a stamp on it and mail it in, right from the start. They simply did not have what it took to go the long mile. They went through the motions, but lacked the necessary conviction to stay with it, which is so essential.

    And we could also say that you are braver than we are, because you are stepping up for this tremendous undertaking while we sit and watch and do not have to endure it. Would we be braver if the situation confronted us?

    Hard to say, because none of us know what really lies beneath our own inner core, until that core is exposed to the elements and we are faced with that proposition and must take a decisive action – one way or the other.

    How would we handle it?

    As always, according to each other’s unique gifts that we possess.

    I’ve found that Bravery itself comes in many flavors – anything that is difficult and arduous to overcome in life takes many characters to deal with the task at hand….Courage, Bravery, Strength, Perseverance, Fortitude, Tenacity, Conviction…and of course, Integrity…just to name a few of the players.


    “Does fighting and beating cancer make someone more brave than another who lost their battle?”


    The answer here is a definitive NO.

    “Losing” the battle does not equate to the lack of bravery in any individual’s fight. All of us are brave for doing what we think must be done to give ourselves the chance to be. Bravery knows neither Life nor Death – he only knows what beats inside his chest and what courses through his veins.

    I’ve come to think of Bravery as the adrenaline, which serves as the catalyst, to put us into motion to do that, which me must do – at the time that we need to do it.

    The fine line that separates the Two Worlds of Cancer is the ultimate dichotomy – the underlying message that is the foundation of cancer itself is simply….that some of us are going to make it – and some of us are not.

    I think that message resonates with life as much as it pertains to cancer. After all, cancer represents only a chapter of our lives – what came before – and what we hope will come after.

    If we look back at any horrific, catastrophic event in human history – some of us will walk away, while others will not. Whether it is natural disasters, global war, vehicle accidents, or sickness…

    Still you have to be brave to face any of life’s challenges, or you’ll be swallowed whole. In its most simplistic terms, perhaps that may just be the definition of what Bravery represents.

    I really appreciate your story, Steve. It haunts me, if I’m being completely honest. Our stories are in stark contrast to one another in the manner that cancer has worked us. Getting clear for as many years as you did – and then to recur…

    I’ll never forget that post…I’m still feeling the shockwaves, because I think that through others, we can catch a glimpse of ourselves – and see a possible future that we just don’t want to imagine.

    Your story still tells me that no matter how many years you get clear, NED should be a 4-letter word and should only be used in hushed tones…it lends the illusion of false hope, as your story prior to this, would have indicated a major success at going over 5-years clear….the gold standard marker that all of us are striving for.

    But, the message you delivered was clear…never relax – don’t take your guard down – and don’t assume anything.

    It’s a sobering message, but the good ones always are. You’ve showed me that the concerns and apprehensions with regards to cancer, will last me My Lifetime. I wanted to take this opportunity to say “Thank You’ for that message.

    I read you loud and clear:)

    Nice talking to you, Steve. I’m glad to see the wheels spinning inside your head. Good, thought provoking stuff today. I needed that.

    -Craig
  • Kenny H.
    Kenny H. Member Posts: 502 Member

    just a big hug and prayers
    one suggestion is to see the best naturopath in town. they may have some suggestions re diet post op, and supplementation. i healed very well with supports collagen pro etc etc, its possibly to late for full biological analysis, but if i were having your op, i would be in peak shape, at least all insufficiencies addressed. but no doc will go that far.

    the metametrix porphorins test is a good test.

    but just relax and breathe and smile.

    i'll give you that hug one day in real life!

    hugs,
    pete

    x2 wishing you the best.
    x2 wishing you the best. This is a huge one. Surgery in my opinion is always best option to rid the beast. Seems you have excellent team there. Where you having this done at?
  • Varmint5
    Varmint5 Member Posts: 384 Member
    Big decision
    Best wishes to you, Steve. You are a very brave man. Prayers for a successful outcome for you.

    Sandy
  • pepebcn
    pepebcn Member Posts: 6,331 Member
    steved said:

    Pepe
    BE careful what you offer as it may come true- always feel a pang of jealousy when I read of you heading to the beach for your weekends!

    Thanks so much for the support- it genuinely means a lot,
    steve

    It's going to be a pleasure to have you here my friend!
    Always welcomed!
  • steved
    steved Member Posts: 834 Member
    Sundanceh said:

    Now, Here’s a Meal – Not a Snack (For SteveD)
    Steve, I appreciate having you around here. You’ve raised several interesting questions that have some meat left on the bone. So, if you don’t mind, I’d like to weigh in with a few thoughts on your topic of “Word Association” with regards to the cancer fight.

    “Are we brave because we are fighting cancer?”

    The easy answer is Yes, but I’ve always held the belief that Courage, Strength and Bravery comes from us doing the things that we have to do – even though we don’t want to do it.

    That’s always been the way of things in life and cancer represents a different obstacle to the many challenges that besets each one of us everyday in what often times seems like a random happening of events that tend to comprise our individual journeys.

    I realize you are running your latest gauntlet for the love of your children – that is your motivation. I think partly too, because you still see a shot at cure – and that shot equals Hope – and that makes this worth going for. I've heard you echo that sentiment.

    If this were me, I’d be lacking the incentive that you have to make this decision. I got a small taste of the love of a child with my grand niece recently. It was all too short and I tried to use your story to put myself in your place and imagine and weigh the things that you must have been thinking.

    But, it’s completely different…

    She’s my niece and only 3. And your children are just that – your children. So, if I were making that decision today, as much as I see potential, she’s still too young too really know who I am and as such, I could not find the motivation there for myself to attempt what you are going to do.

    It’s just one of the hardest stories and decisions I’ve been privileged to follow here on this board. I guess, I’d have to be able to convince myself that Me would be worth the fight, because when it was all said and done, there would be no physical resources who would align with me when it was over. I’m not sure how my wife would handle this if we found ourselves there - she might run for cover, I just don't know.

    I think for me, I'd wake up in the aftermath of it all and just wonder...

    So, Bravery, Courage, Strength is what you do have to go through with all of this…there could be many of us, myself included, who might not be able to make the decision to follow through as you have. I’ve done a few things in my fight, but the magnitude of this encompasses anything that I’ve had to deal with.

    I just don’t know what I would do – but I know what you are doing for your family and yourself - and it is absolute courageous that you are fighting cancer in this way. I have no doubt that you will be teaching us a thing or two.

    As for the general population, I still think it is brave to stand up to – and fight cancer. The alternative would be to cower down and not fight it. I have seen real-life people do this and while I support everyone’s individual right to fight or not, it still is upsetting to not try.


    “Are some of us more brave than others?”

    The answers here lie shrouded in ambiguity. Again, Yes, some of us are braver, because some of us fight, and other choose not to. As I alluded to, I’ve seen a couple of folks in real-life clinics and hospitals that I frequented put a stamp on it and mail it in, right from the start. They simply did not have what it took to go the long mile. They went through the motions, but lacked the necessary conviction to stay with it, which is so essential.

    And we could also say that you are braver than we are, because you are stepping up for this tremendous undertaking while we sit and watch and do not have to endure it. Would we be braver if the situation confronted us?

    Hard to say, because none of us know what really lies beneath our own inner core, until that core is exposed to the elements and we are faced with that proposition and must take a decisive action – one way or the other.

    How would we handle it?

    As always, according to each other’s unique gifts that we possess.

    I’ve found that Bravery itself comes in many flavors – anything that is difficult and arduous to overcome in life takes many characters to deal with the task at hand….Courage, Bravery, Strength, Perseverance, Fortitude, Tenacity, Conviction…and of course, Integrity…just to name a few of the players.


    “Does fighting and beating cancer make someone more brave than another who lost their battle?”


    The answer here is a definitive NO.

    “Losing” the battle does not equate to the lack of bravery in any individual’s fight. All of us are brave for doing what we think must be done to give ourselves the chance to be. Bravery knows neither Life nor Death – he only knows what beats inside his chest and what courses through his veins.

    I’ve come to think of Bravery as the adrenaline, which serves as the catalyst, to put us into motion to do that, which me must do – at the time that we need to do it.

    The fine line that separates the Two Worlds of Cancer is the ultimate dichotomy – the underlying message that is the foundation of cancer itself is simply….that some of us are going to make it – and some of us are not.

    I think that message resonates with life as much as it pertains to cancer. After all, cancer represents only a chapter of our lives – what came before – and what we hope will come after.

    If we look back at any horrific, catastrophic event in human history – some of us will walk away, while others will not. Whether it is natural disasters, global war, vehicle accidents, or sickness…

    Still you have to be brave to face any of life’s challenges, or you’ll be swallowed whole. In its most simplistic terms, perhaps that may just be the definition of what Bravery represents.

    I really appreciate your story, Steve. It haunts me, if I’m being completely honest. Our stories are in stark contrast to one another in the manner that cancer has worked us. Getting clear for as many years as you did – and then to recur…

    I’ll never forget that post…I’m still feeling the shockwaves, because I think that through others, we can catch a glimpse of ourselves – and see a possible future that we just don’t want to imagine.

    Your story still tells me that no matter how many years you get clear, NED should be a 4-letter word and should only be used in hushed tones…it lends the illusion of false hope, as your story prior to this, would have indicated a major success at going over 5-years clear….the gold standard marker that all of us are striving for.

    But, the message you delivered was clear…never relax – don’t take your guard down – and don’t assume anything.

    It’s a sobering message, but the good ones always are. You’ve showed me that the concerns and apprehensions with regards to cancer, will last me My Lifetime. I wanted to take this opportunity to say “Thank You’ for that message.

    I read you loud and clear:)

    Nice talking to you, Steve. I’m glad to see the wheels spinning inside your head. Good, thought provoking stuff today. I needed that.

    -Craig

    Bravery and courage or desperation and necessity
    Thanks for your comments Craig. I do think it is interesting to reflect on what drives us in this journey and what differentiates the various decisions we make. I remain uncomfortable with the emphasis on bravery as a driver as feel most of our decisions are simply made out of necessity. We each face potentially crippling treatments with various degrees of stoicism but most people far those decisions and get through them. I am not sure it takes more bravery to have a treatment than to refuse it (especially if refusal is against medical advise). Some of the most difficult decisions I have seen people make here have been about deciding not to have treatment. I don't think it is there fore the right word to use in describing much of what we do- it feels inaccurate to say my decision to have surgery is more brave than if I had decided against it and so faced a more challenging trajectory of gradual decline towards death.
    Hence, I see most of what we do as simply humans striving to survive as best we can. Yes, some howl and scream more than others who quietly face their fate; some drop into depression or struggle with overwhelming anxiety; some use total denial to get them through the day- I would not feel than any of this represents more or less bravery, simply humans facing that struggle in different ways.
    I feel most comfortable to leave talk of bravery to people who risk their lives to save others and simply see what we do as self preservation in the face of a life threatening illness. The word runs the risk of dilution to meaninglessness if we attach it to people just trying to stay alive.

    Steve
  • steved
    steved Member Posts: 834 Member

    just a big hug and prayers
    one suggestion is to see the best naturopath in town. they may have some suggestions re diet post op, and supplementation. i healed very well with supports collagen pro etc etc, its possibly to late for full biological analysis, but if i were having your op, i would be in peak shape, at least all insufficiencies addressed. but no doc will go that far.

    the metametrix porphorins test is a good test.

    but just relax and breathe and smile.

    i'll give you that hug one day in real life!

    hugs,
    pete

    Peter
    Thanks for the message. Will be remaining disappointingly mainstream and conventional in my approach to this operation. Simply don't want to muck with anything uncertain while my body is being thrown into chaos. My approach has always been boringly moderate and is likely to remain so for now. Do feel in quite good shape though as no weight loss, still get to the gym a couple of times a week and feel fairly healthy.

    The hug I accept and as I often stop in aus on my trips back to no may one day get the real thing.

    Steve
  • MrsJP
    MrsJP Member Posts: 157
    Thinking of you.....
    ..and your family. Sending thoughts of peace and hope. Will keep you in my prayers.
    God bless
    jp
  • taraHK
    taraHK Member Posts: 1,952 Member
    steved said:

    Courage etc
    I am sure it isn't just me but I always find talk of courage, bravery etc difficult lables to accept. We are all here fighting this illness and we all tend to do and accept the challenges that we face as part of that. I sruggle to equate that to any sense of bravery- I really feel I am simply accepting what I have to do, as anyone in my position would. Would I be less brave if I declined this operation?

    I hugely apprecaite all the support and positive thoughts that people have contributed and it genuinely does help me face this. I am interested in others ideas around how people attach such words to people fighting cancer. Are we brave because we are fighting cancer? Are some of us more brave than others? Does fighting and beating caner make some one more brave than another who lost their battle? I have often seen these words used at funerals and in eulogies to people who have lost their fight and it may be that, that is the source of my discomfort with the terms.

    Sorry, got distracted by an irrelevant rant that simply makes me seem ungrateful for all the support people are offering :) but do others feel that way at times?

    Anywau, thank you so much, cunthia and all the others above for your kind words of support. It does make me feel like I am facing this challenge with huge support behind me which helps enormously.

    steve

    Courage etc
    Agree with you, Steve, about the courage/bravery issue. I often find myself bristling a little bit when people tell me how brave, strong, amazing, courageous, etc. I am. I feel like saying -- what's the alternative?? I feel like I just put one foot in front of the other. There are some days I say to myself - all I need is the courage to step across the threshhold of the hospital doors -- after that, I hand it over to my medical team (well, not really -- I'm a very hands-on patient and I'm sure I drive the nurses crazy -- but you know what I mean!). I don't feel like a 'role model' for anyone else. But, people find inspiration from all sorts of sources. I find inspiration from a young friend who is fighting addiction -- I think she has amazing strength and courage. If she finds inspiration from my 'battle', that's more than fine with me.

    Tara
  • Sundanceh
    Sundanceh Member Posts: 4,392 Member
    steved said:

    Bravery and courage or desperation and necessity
    Thanks for your comments Craig. I do think it is interesting to reflect on what drives us in this journey and what differentiates the various decisions we make. I remain uncomfortable with the emphasis on bravery as a driver as feel most of our decisions are simply made out of necessity. We each face potentially crippling treatments with various degrees of stoicism but most people far those decisions and get through them. I am not sure it takes more bravery to have a treatment than to refuse it (especially if refusal is against medical advise). Some of the most difficult decisions I have seen people make here have been about deciding not to have treatment. I don't think it is there fore the right word to use in describing much of what we do- it feels inaccurate to say my decision to have surgery is more brave than if I had decided against it and so faced a more challenging trajectory of gradual decline towards death.
    Hence, I see most of what we do as simply humans striving to survive as best we can. Yes, some howl and scream more than others who quietly face their fate; some drop into depression or struggle with overwhelming anxiety; some use total denial to get them through the day- I would not feel than any of this represents more or less bravery, simply humans facing that struggle in different ways.
    I feel most comfortable to leave talk of bravery to people who risk their lives to save others and simply see what we do as self preservation in the face of a life threatening illness. The word runs the risk of dilution to meaninglessness if we attach it to people just trying to stay alive.

    Steve

    Here's What I See, Steve:)
    I lost this reply yesterday, because the CSN pipeline choked and it went away...so here is a shortened version...

    I'm going to just talk about the last paragraph:

    "I feel most comfortable to leave talk of bravery to people who risk their lives to save others and simply see what we do as self preservation in the face of a life threatening illness"

    Sometimes one can get lost in the forest and not see the entire landscape...so from my perch, this is what I see from you...

    You are "risking" your life to save others...and here's how...

    First, you are having a specialist come over for Denmark to oversee the surgery and train the surgeon and his staff on a very complext procedure - that was not available before you presented your facility your case; otherwise the Denmark surgeon would not be making the trip.

    Second, the old guard from Denmark, will now teach the new guard in the U.K. And then this will be passed down to future generations of surgeons, who will benefit from having the ability to perform this procedure for future U.K. patients, who might find themselves facing the same or similar situation that you are.

    So, by your very own definition, Steve...you are risking your life - to save others.

    I'll just say Thank You to you and Tara for showing all of us the way it's done.

    :)

    -Craig
  • spainmum
    spainmum Member Posts: 29
    I will be thinking of you
    Steve,

    I will be thinking of you on the 18th, I send you and your family the strength to face this and hope a total succes on the surgery and a good recovery.

    I want to say thank you to you and others in this site that share the experience and knowledge on this disease, I don't post much because is dificult to me to express my feelings in english, but I read most of the posts and I love this site, until I found it I was lost looking for information.

    And I want to say that yes I think you and others on this site have courage to force, but what made the difference is that site where all of you give the answers others need.

    Hugs, Celeste.
  • dmj101
    dmj101 Member Posts: 527 Member
    Positive energies and light
    Positive energies and light coming you way.

    I admire your strength thru this journey so much..
    It must have been hard to come to terms with this proceedure but it this a possible of LONG term cure.. hey you need to take the chance don't you..

    Wishing you much love and support and strength...
    Take care and keep us posted ..
    Donna
  • Calluna
    Calluna Member Posts: 7
    steved said:

    Thanks for the messages
    To all above- thank yo uso much for the positive thoughts, prayers and mesages. They all mean a huge amount and will look forward to returning and posting (hopefully good) progress post op.

    steve

    As for giving up alcohol and sugar- surely I'm allowed a glass of red wine and bit of dark chocolate if I make it through giving up a leg- think of all those antioxidants! All respect, but I'm afraid it will take a bit more than a measly cancer to get me to give those away.

    Best of luck!
    Lots and lots of mojo and good wishes from London. I've followed your posts for a while and I really hope your convictions are rewarded. I can't fathom the enormity of this decision and I'm blown away by your grace and determination. I'd send virtual hugs, but you're British, and I... have a British passport, so that's probably terribly inappropriate ;)
  • Luckygirl2
    Luckygirl2 Member Posts: 308
    will keep you
    in my thoughts and prayers on the 17th or would that be on the 16th or 18th here in Arkansas! You are the bravest person I know, I'm not sure I would have the courage that you do. God bless to you and your family.
  • steved
    steved Member Posts: 834 Member
    Calluna said:

    Best of luck!
    Lots and lots of mojo and good wishes from London. I've followed your posts for a while and I really hope your convictions are rewarded. I can't fathom the enormity of this decision and I'm blown away by your grace and determination. I'd send virtual hugs, but you're British, and I... have a British passport, so that's probably terribly inappropriate ;)

    Calluna
    Thanks for the message and as a new zealander in the uk I accept your hugs happily.

    Steve