Hospice Called In

here4lfe
here4lfe Member Posts: 306 Member
My wife's three battle is coming to and end. She fought so hard to live life her way, and I am content and happy that I was able to help her do it. There is no more chemo. There is no more surgery, no more radiation, no more healthy eating, no more. Just the family, love, and helping her as she helped so many others in her life.

She summed up her life very neatly, "I talk to people. That's all I do"

I've been bombarded with the "You're not giving up are you?" question. And the CTCA's commercial runs 10 times per day here, so everyone asks did you try? No we didn't give up over 3 years of continuous treatment, tried so new protocols, and at the end her CEA was 37000.

I will be posting on the caregiviber site for now on.
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  • So Worried
    So Worried Member Posts: 111
    Bless you....
    Blessings for your family. I am so sorry that treatment is not helping your beautiful wife anymore. Prayers coming your way.
  • steveandnat
    steveandnat Member Posts: 886
    Blessings
    I fully can understand and every time this happens I get so angry at this horrible cancer. I pray your wife stays as comfortable as possible. Jeff
  • abackhou
    abackhou Member Posts: 77
    Best wishes to you both
    I am really sorry that you both have come to this point in your wife's journey. You have not given up at all, you both appear to have made the most of your time together and that to me is surely very special without the awful effects of chemo. I too am in hospice care, comfortable and still getting on with life with my loved ones. My very best wishes to you both, be at peace with yourselves.

    Andrew
  • Nana b
    Nana b Member Posts: 3,030
    abackhou said:

    Best wishes to you both
    I am really sorry that you both have come to this point in your wife's journey. You have not given up at all, you both appear to have made the most of your time together and that to me is surely very special without the awful effects of chemo. I too am in hospice care, comfortable and still getting on with life with my loved ones. My very best wishes to you both, be at peace with yourselves.

    Andrew

    IF only miracles happened
    IF only miracles happened on call. So sorry.
  • Doc_Hawk
    Doc_Hawk Member Posts: 685
    Prayers
    I'm so sorry to hear that she's reached the proverbial point of no return. I will say prayers for both of you. God bless you for being there for her during her battle.
  • peterz54
    peterz54 Member Posts: 341
    sorry
    I am sorry for you both and hope she, an you, and your family find peace...
  • jjaj133
    jjaj133 Member Posts: 867
    I am so saddened by this. I
    I am so saddened by this. I will be praying for you and your family.
    Judy
  • Lovekitties
    Lovekitties Member Posts: 3,364 Member
    Sad news
    So very sorry that her time grows short. You have both been warriors in the fight.

    Please know we pray for all of you who love her.

    May she have peaceful and pain free days with you.

    Hugs,

    Marie who loves kitties
  • steved
    steved Member Posts: 834
    Thank you
    Thank you for the update. It is always hard to here of members becoming more unwell and reaching the point where treatment is no longer the right option but it is great to hear you talk openly of the acceptance you have reached in your current situation. It shows how healthy and supportive you are as a cre giver to know when the right time to shift the focus is- now focus on some quality time together in what ever form you can get it.

    You are both in my thoughts,
    steve
  • johnnybegood
    johnnybegood Member Posts: 1,117
    steved said:

    Thank you
    Thank you for the update. It is always hard to here of members becoming more unwell and reaching the point where treatment is no longer the right option but it is great to hear you talk openly of the acceptance you have reached in your current situation. It shows how healthy and supportive you are as a cre giver to know when the right time to shift the focus is- now focus on some quality time together in what ever form you can get it.

    You are both in my thoughts,
    steve

    i remember
    you and your name very well.all we can do is fight this fight the best we can one day at a time and hope that we can touch someones life along the way.best to you and your family...Godbless...johnnybegood
  • pete43lost_at_sea
    pete43lost_at_sea Member Posts: 3,900
    i pray her passing is peaceful and full of love
    Give her a smile and a hug from all of us here.
    you have been an amazing husband.
    big hugs,
    Pete
  • ron50
    ron50 Member Posts: 1,723 Member
    I wish you peace
    There are some things in life that we have no other option than to accept. This is one we all face,hugs to you both ,Ron.
  • Momof2plusteentwins
    Momof2plusteentwins Member Posts: 509 Member
    So sorry
    I know what you mean about the cancer commercials, they are on every 5 minutes. I also think people outside the household don't understand what she's been through. Best wishes to both of you, she has been lucky to have you. I think my husband as a caregiver to me has been through as much as me.
    Sandy
  • geotina
    geotina Member Posts: 2,111
    Caregiver:
    It is truly difficult to be the caregiver. I have been doing so for more than 3 years now so I truly understand the questions a caregiver is asked. Did you do this, did you do that, did you go here or there. At first they make you question youself if you have done everything. I know I am at peace knowing I have and continue to do so and I want you to feel the same, total peace, with the decisions you have made. Some things are totally out of our hands. God has a plan, I just wish sometimes I knew or undersood the plan.

    At this time in you lives may you and your wife be surrounded with peace and love.

    Sincerely - Tina
  • Cathleen Mary
    Cathleen Mary Member Posts: 827

    So sorry
    I know what you mean about the cancer commercials, they are on every 5 minutes. I also think people outside the household don't understand what she's been through. Best wishes to both of you, she has been lucky to have you. I think my husband as a caregiver to me has been through as much as me.
    Sandy

    Blessings

    Thank you so much for sharing this difficult news. You are an amazing caregiver! Both of you are in my heart and prayer . I wish for all of us the strength, courage, and acceptance that you both have lived.

    Hugs,
    Cathleen Mary
  • Annabelle41415
    Annabelle41415 Member Posts: 6,715 Member
    Sorry
    I'm sorry to hear that. Your wife is lucky to have you by her side. Wishing for the peace for all of you during this time. My prayers are with you all.

    Kim
  • Sundanceh
    Sundanceh Member Posts: 4,392 Member
    I'm Sorry to Hear This...
    We know that you didn't mail it in:)

    Being able to walk along the path of acceptance is a question I've wrestled with many times - I guess we never know which road we will take until we get to that fork in the road.

    The way that you are handling things is very admirable and a lesson for all of us on how to find grace when we find ourselves embarking down a new trail.

    It sure looks like you have the right recipe for how you both want to spend your time together - that's wonderful.

    I hope that you will consider stopping by from time to time - as a colorectal caregiver, this is invaluable experience and could touch another life down the road, at another fork in the road.

    I wish you both the very best.

    -Craig
  • Vickilg
    Vickilg Member Posts: 281
    Sundanceh said:

    I'm Sorry to Hear This...
    We know that you didn't mail it in:)

    Being able to walk along the path of acceptance is a question I've wrestled with many times - I guess we never know which road we will take until we get to that fork in the road.

    The way that you are handling things is very admirable and a lesson for all of us on how to find grace when we find ourselves embarking down a new trail.

    It sure looks like you have the right recipe for how you both want to spend your time together - that's wonderful.

    I hope that you will consider stopping by from time to time - as a colorectal caregiver, this is invaluable experience and could touch another life down the road, at another fork in the road.

    I wish you both the very best.

    -Craig

    Deep Sigh
    Sending you and your wife and family much love and prayers. I am sorry this is happening. We all know everyone did the best they could. God has his plans and even though we cannot understand them. Again, I am so sorry.
  • Goldie1
    Goldie1 Member Posts: 264 Member
    Vickilg said:

    Deep Sigh
    Sending you and your wife and family much love and prayers. I am sorry this is happening. We all know everyone did the best they could. God has his plans and even though we cannot understand them. Again, I am so sorry.

    Sending prayers....
    and strength to you and your wife. Take care.

    Ellen
  • pepebcn
    pepebcn Member Posts: 6,331
    Goldie1 said:

    Sending prayers....
    and strength to you and your wife. Take care.

    Ellen

    Hoping the best on this days for both and the rest of the
    Family.
    Will pray for all of you.
    (((hugs))