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RobinDini
RobinDini Member Posts: 2
in Young Cancer Survivors #1
I am 33 years old with a 9 month old and a 2 1/2 year old and just went through a battle with cancer. I have tried to find support groups in my area but all of them have patients that are in their late 50's and 60's. I'm looking to talk with other moms who are trying to move on with life after cancer.

Thanks :)
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  • ccfighter
    ccfighter CSN Member Posts: 476 Member
    #2
    Hi robin,
    I am also 33 with
    Hi robin,

    I am also 33 with the kids, 4,7,8. It is hard to find people our age fighting cancer. I am still in the battle, fighting cervical cancer. I hope things are going well for you.
  • blackngray
    blackngray Member Posts: 11
    #3
    Super Moms Resume
    I'm 32 and a single mom with one seven year old who will be 8 this March. I was diagnosed with stage 3 brain cancer in 2010 and in remission with no recurrences.
    I've asked my oncologist for a support group and he looked at the paper on the wall that listed support groups. I told him that there weren't any for me, there's only groups for breast cancer, prostate cancer, and newbies into chemo. He referred me to the Social Worker on staff and she gave me tons of worksheets to read. Bah hum bug. Normally, I'm not this vocal, but cancer makes me wanna vent.
  • MrsJP
    MrsJP Member Posts: 157
    #4
    blackngray said:

    Super Moms Resume
    I'm 32 and a single mom with one seven year old who will be 8 this March. I was diagnosed with stage 3 brain cancer in 2010 and in remission with no recurrences.
    I've asked my oncologist for a support group and he looked at the paper on the wall that listed support groups. I told him that there weren't any for me, there's only groups for breast cancer, prostate cancer, and newbies into chemo. He referred me to the Social Worker on staff and she gave me tons of worksheets to read. Bah hum bug. Normally, I'm not this vocal, but cancer makes me wanna vent.

    support groups
    Start a new one in your community, on the boards any place you can! You are not the only ones out there...but you need each other....We need each other.
    jp
  • Karri
    Karri Member Posts: 9
    #5
    Diagnosed at 30 with a child in kindergarten
    Hello ladies! I was diagnosed with stage 4 NPC cancer in Feb. of 09 my son was in kindergarten and his father and I had separated the year before. I have since found someone and he and I have a son together who will be a year old in May. The doctors were less than thrilled with me when I told them I had gotten pregnant. But honestly take me off the birth control and well....lol! I am having a lot of problems with patience and keeping up with them. I had NO idea how exhausted I would be all the time. I don't feel as if I can talk to anyone either I always get that same blank expression with the head nod. Oh they try to be supportive, kind and positive but it's just not enough. However, my older son's father is a moron and said I sounded like a horrible person because I complain about things. I should be happy I survived end of story. I am not sure how to respond to that except to get angry. I am blessed to have 2 beautiful healthy children but I am a human being does that make me less appreciative?
  • RobinDini
    RobinDini Member Posts: 2
    #6
    Karri said:

    Diagnosed at 30 with a child in kindergarten
    Hello ladies! I was diagnosed with stage 4 NPC cancer in Feb. of 09 my son was in kindergarten and his father and I had separated the year before. I have since found someone and he and I have a son together who will be a year old in May. The doctors were less than thrilled with me when I told them I had gotten pregnant. But honestly take me off the birth control and well....lol! I am having a lot of problems with patience and keeping up with them. I had NO idea how exhausted I would be all the time. I don't feel as if I can talk to anyone either I always get that same blank expression with the head nod. Oh they try to be supportive, kind and positive but it's just not enough. However, my older son's father is a moron and said I sounded like a horrible person because I complain about things. I should be happy I survived end of story. I am not sure how to respond to that except to get angry. I am blessed to have 2 beautiful healthy children but I am a human being does that make me less appreciative?

    We are strong
    So great to see responses on this! I actually googled Mothers with Cancer and my own post came up :)

    I look back and realize how stronger I am. To have given birth to two children and fought cancer all in the last year. It's amazing what our bodies can handle. It's the spirit and the emotional stuff that makes the whole journey a bit hard.

    "Inch by inch, life is a synch. Yard by yard it's very hard" -unknown

    Going through my cancers and my surgeries was such a whirlwind but now in the remission phase, almost six months out, I am reminded of it everyday. Not a moment goes by when I don't think about cancer and how all of this could have been taken away from me. How my kids could have been left without a mother. How my husband could have been a widower.

    I am incredibly grateful. I am so glad to you all for replying because it really is hard to find others in the same boat. If you can't find the support group, sometimes you have to create it yourself.
  • pinkydinkydoo
    pinkydinkydoo Member Posts: 2
    #7
    MrsJP said:

    support groups
    Start a new one in your community, on the boards any place you can! You are not the only ones out there...but you need each other....We need each other.
    jp

    can we?
    Can we start a discussion board or group on here for "younger moms" like us dealing with and coping with cancer and children and all the strength it takes? I am 34 with a 6 year old with colon cancer.
  • Helen321
    Helen321 CSN Member Posts: 1,460 Member
    #8
    I'm 42 so I'm older than you
    I'm 42 so I'm older than you guys and my youngest is already 13 but I'm at work just wandering the boards looking at what the general groups are chatting about. I think you guys are strong and wonderful! We really do do it all and you guys deserve extra credit for dealing with young kids! Go moms!
  • Glad to be done
    Glad to be done CSN Member Posts: 569
    #9
    Helen321 said:

    I'm 42 so I'm older than you
    I'm 42 so I'm older than you guys and my youngest is already 13 but I'm at work just wandering the boards looking at what the general groups are chatting about. I think you guys are strong and wonderful! We really do do it all and you guys deserve extra credit for dealing with young kids! Go moms!

    Hi I am 45 with a 12 and
    Hi I am 45 with a 12 and soon to be 14 year old... Can I join in? I was diagnosed in January with ovarian cancer. I had to have my ovaries removed because of cysts so opted for a full hysterectomy. What good is ever dything else without the ovary right? After surgery my doc told me I was very lucky. I did in vact have cancer in both ovaries but it was intact and she was confident no treatment would be needed.

    Well on January 20th when I went for my surgry follow up I got told not only did I have ovarian cancer but I was stage 3C. HUH???? So much for treatment needed. I am gratefl for all of the biopsies of my organs that came back clean. Pelvic wash clean. Appendix, omentum, everything clean. Microscopically they found cancer on 2/out of 27 lymph nodes. It was the two nodes my right ovary was sitting on. Went back in 2 weeks later to have a I P port (tummy port) put in for intraperotaneal chemo and did chem from February to June. Here I am NED (no evidence detected) and don't know what to do now.

    Every ache and pain I get I think the cancer is back. I have grown to hate the word recurrence. I don't want to have a recurrence and I tell myself every day that is not going to happen.

    Even though my kids are in middle school I would love to chat with all of you...
  • Jenniebean87
    Jenniebean87 Member Posts: 9
    #10
    Hi. I'm 25 with 3 kids, 7, 5
    Hi. I'm 25 with 3 kids, 7, 5 and 2. I had cancer at 23 when I got my hysterectomy and now I have a mass on my ovary. <3 I wish there was a bigger group.. maybe we could start a Facebook group page or something.
  • Glad to be done
    Glad to be done CSN Member Posts: 569
    #11
    Jenniebean87 said:

    Hi. I'm 25 with 3 kids, 7, 5
    Hi. I'm 25 with 3 kids, 7, 5 and 2. I had cancer at 23 when I got my hysterectomy and now I have a mass on my ovary. <3 I wish there was a bigger group.. maybe we could start a Facebook group page or something.</p>

    Hi Jenniebean -
    Do they
    Hi Jenniebean -

    Do they know what the ovary mass is? If you want - stop by the ovarian cancer board. That is where I am and there are alot of great ladies in there....

    Eileen
  • Glad to be done
    Glad to be done CSN Member Posts: 569
    #12
    Jenniebean87 said:

    Hi. I'm 25 with 3 kids, 7, 5
    Hi. I'm 25 with 3 kids, 7, 5 and 2. I had cancer at 23 when I got my hysterectomy and now I have a mass on my ovary. <3 I wish there was a bigger group.. maybe we could start a Facebook group page or something.</p>

    Hi Jenniebean -
    Do they
    Hi Jenniebean -

    Do they know what the ovary mass is? If you want - stop by the ovarian cancer board. That is where I am and there are alot of great ladies in there....

    Eileen
  • Glad to be done
    Glad to be done CSN Member Posts: 569
    #13
    Jenniebean87 said:

    Hi. I'm 25 with 3 kids, 7, 5
    Hi. I'm 25 with 3 kids, 7, 5 and 2. I had cancer at 23 when I got my hysterectomy and now I have a mass on my ovary. <3 I wish there was a bigger group.. maybe we could start a Facebook group page or something.</p>

    Hi Jenniebean -
    Do they
    Hi Jenniebean -

    Do they know what the ovary mass is? If you want - stop by the ovarian cancer board. That is where I am and there are alot of great ladies in there....

    Eileen
  • Glad to be done
    Glad to be done CSN Member Posts: 569
    #14
    Glad to be done said:

    Hi Jenniebean -
    Do they
    Hi Jenniebean -

    Do they know what the ovary mass is? If you want - stop by the ovarian cancer board. That is where I am and there are alot of great ladies in there....

    Eileen

    Wow why did it go three
    Wow why did it go three times... Sorry
  • lirasgirl33
    lirasgirl33 Member Posts: 3
    #15
    Hi I'm 34 years old,

    Hi I'm 34 years old, diagnosed with stage 3 cervical cancer. I am now stage 4. I have 4 kids, two which are my own and two from my boyfriend. They are 11, 14 & 15 years old. It would definitely be nice to chat to other moms in the same position as me. I'm currently still in treatment and living life one day at a time. I am grateful to still be on this earth enjoying my family. If any of you are interested in chatting I am also on whatnext.com as lirasgirl33. :) My best wishes to all of you moms out there going through this journey. Hugs.

  • verosan805
    verosan805 Member Posts: 1
    #16
    dealing with kids and cancer
    Hello my name is Veronica i'm 32 years old with 6 kids 11,10,7,6,5 and 1.....i'm currently still battling cancer and looking to start working soon all while doing radiation treatments.my husband works nights so I will be working full time doing radiation during lunch and then coming straight home to watch 6 kids...anyone have advice on how to get through this?








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  • shinning_like_me
    shinning_like_me Member Posts: 23
    #17
    HI there,
    you always have the

    HI there,

    you always have the forums to talk to they are the best as you can regularly talk about how you feel and also make fiends 

  • njecab
    njecab Member Posts: 6
    #18
    verosan805 said:

    dealing with kids and cancer
    Hello my name is Veronica i'm 32 years old with 6 kids 11,10,7,6,5 and 1.....i'm currently still battling cancer and looking to start working soon all while doing radiation treatments.my husband works nights so I will be working full time doing radiation during lunch and then coming straight home to watch 6 kids...anyone have advice on how to get through this?








    Thanks

    new life

    hi frndz,

    I'm happy to see all of u here. its really heart touching stories.. Im 39yrs , i want to share my story with you all.. In 2011 the big tragedy occured in my life, i was been diagnosed with GBM. I had to undergo through the ups n down of the terrible life.. I did surgery twice, then chemo and radiaton.. Even aft ths nothing worked out. one of our family member suggested about a new treatment SPMF. We went for a try.. after treatment the miracle happenend the tumour growth has reduced, and didn hve any other associated illness..Thanks to SPMF therapy 

     Recently i came across a write up about SPMF and its efficacy :http://www.siliconcitynews.com/?p=10697

     

  • Triciasue
    Triciasue Member Posts: 2
    #19
    ccfighter said:

    Hi robin,
    I am also 33 with
    Hi robin,

    I am also 33 with the kids, 4,7,8. It is hard to find people our age fighting cancer. I am still in the battle, fighting cervical cancer. I hope things are going well for you.

    Hello

    Just wanted to day hi and how are you doing ? 

  • Triciasue
    Triciasue Member Posts: 2
    #20
    lirasgirl33 said:

    Hi I'm 34 years old,

    Hi I'm 34 years old, diagnosed with stage 3 cervical cancer. I am now stage 4. I have 4 kids, two which are my own and two from my boyfriend. They are 11, 14 & 15 years old. It would definitely be nice to chat to other moms in the same position as me. I'm currently still in treatment and living life one day at a time. I am grateful to still be on this earth enjoying my family. If any of you are interested in chatting I am also on whatnext.com as lirasgirl33. :) My best wishes to all of you moms out there going through this journey. Hugs.

    Would love to chat

    im a single mom of a 7 year old dealing with a rare cancer would love some support 

  • GerberDaisy
    GerberDaisy Member Posts: 3
    #21
    Hi, I'm 31 and have 2 young

    Hi, I'm 31 and have 2 young children, 3 and 1.  I was diagnosed with oral cancer last year, my baby was 6 months old.  Recently had a clear CT scan.  Just had a PET with a few hot spots, but was told not to worry because it was on the opposite side, but how can I not worry?  Anyone else have false positives On PET scan?  I pray all day and night that my treatment worked.  I want to be around to raise my children.  They are my world.  

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