How to help someone with no appetite and doesnt like the taste of anything????

My dad is Stage 4. He was doing well but recently has stopped eating. He doesnt eat anything I make him. Ive tried from very bland to lots of flavor. He says that nothing tastes good. Fast food, frozen, homeade, ect. Plus his appetite sux! Any ideas? Ive tried small "snacks" numerous times a day. No luck. Ive tried junk food, no luck. His teeth are falling out randomly which is upsetting him and they are sore so that doesnt help. He wont drink Ensure or anything like that because it constipated him once. He is upset because he isnt having bowel movements but I told him its because he isnt eating!!!

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  • Lovekitties
    Lovekitties Member Posts: 3,364 Member
    Dad not eating
    Sounds as if you have tried most everything to entice him to eat and get some nutrition.

    You should talk with his doctor about the situation. Perhaps the doctor can hook him up with a nutritionist and maybe prescribe a mild anti-depressant. His emotional state may be having an impact as well.

    I used Boost with extra protein during my recovery from surgery. I had no problems with constipation at all from it. Did several juice glass servings each day. While that won't get him all that he needs it may help to get him back to being interested in eating.

    Hope the doc can help you get him back on the right track.

    Marie who loves kitties
  • Doc_Hawk
    Doc_Hawk Member Posts: 685
    Eating
    Good advice on the nutritionist. r23, you mentioned his teeth falling out: does he have dental pain at all? I'm not positive (gotta ask the onc tomorrow) but I think that chemo will effect the teeth and gums. I've started having some issues along those lines recently.

    Does he take in liquids at all? Milk is one of the very few foods that a person can actually thrive on. Fruit smoothies are an excellent food source also. There are days when just about everything I try to eat tastes like cardboard, but a smoothie will taste incredible.

    There are also .. shall we say "alternative" (cough cough, here) ... methods many cancer patients use for appetite stimulus. Personally, those aren't my preference, but I believe in to each their own.
  • herdizziness
    herdizziness Member Posts: 3,624 Member
    Marijuana
    Marijuana helps stimulate the desire to eat. If it's legal in your state (it is in mine)then I would suggest you ask your oncologist about it. You also need to get an appointment with his oncologist to get help with his eating, and as Marie suggested maybe an anti-depressent if his doc thinks this will help.
    The only thing that helped me get my appetite back after surgery was Carnation instant breakfast, something recommended by a nurse on follow up, it worked great, ordinarily I wouldn't be able to stand the stuff, have had it since, but during that time it tasted good to me.
    Hoping you can get to the source of the problem.
    Winter Marie
  • annalexandria
    annalexandria Member Posts: 2,571 Member

    Marijuana
    Marijuana helps stimulate the desire to eat. If it's legal in your state (it is in mine)then I would suggest you ask your oncologist about it. You also need to get an appointment with his oncologist to get help with his eating, and as Marie suggested maybe an anti-depressent if his doc thinks this will help.
    The only thing that helped me get my appetite back after surgery was Carnation instant breakfast, something recommended by a nurse on follow up, it worked great, ordinarily I wouldn't be able to stand the stuff, have had it since, but during that time it tasted good to me.
    Hoping you can get to the source of the problem.
    Winter Marie

    Medical mj...
    works great as an appetite stimulant. Doesn't have to be smoked...the dispensaries in my neighborhood offer an array of products, including baked goods (no "baked" jokes, please!), hard candies, butter, olive oil, etc. It's definitely worth a try if you have it available. Another route may be a low dose of steroids...they can have a lot of side effects (way more than pot, imo), but when my sister was sick, she was given these to stimulate appetite and it did help somewhat. Hugs to you and your dad-Ann
  • Sundanceh
    Sundanceh Member Posts: 4,392 Member
    If Thjis Continues....
    They may have to feed him through a nasal cannula...that would be the first step if eating does not work and there is no nutrition being taken in.

    I had to authorize them to do that to my dad.

    Teeth can definitely be a problem for chemo patients...hopeful things will change for you. The other suggestions in the thread may be valuable for you as well.

    -Craig
  • have2believe
    have2believe Member Posts: 134
    just keep trying
    My mom is like that too. What I've found is that she may have enjoyed something a month ago but now her taste buds have changed and she can no longer eat it. My advice is to just keep trying different things... At one time, I've even made 3 separate dinner meals because she didn't like it...

    This is what my mom can eat now:
    - ripe avocado
    - fage yogurt (best brand I've found so far)
    - warm milk
    - carnation instant breakfast
    - quinoa ( you can also make quinoa porridge)
    - rice (rice porridge, look up "jook" for recipe)
    - carnation instant breakfast in ready to drink bottle
  • lepperl
    lepperl Member Posts: 39
    I have found that a glass of
    I have found that a glass of water with fresh squeezed lemon in the morning about 30 minutes before eating helps to stimulate the digestive system and make you hungry. The sour taste of the lemon might help stimulate his taste buds too. Although, I am not sure if this would be a problem if his gums are sore.
  • annalexandria
    annalexandria Member Posts: 2,571 Member

    Medical mj...
    works great as an appetite stimulant. Doesn't have to be smoked...the dispensaries in my neighborhood offer an array of products, including baked goods (no "baked" jokes, please!), hard candies, butter, olive oil, etc. It's definitely worth a try if you have it available. Another route may be a low dose of steroids...they can have a lot of side effects (way more than pot, imo), but when my sister was sick, she was given these to stimulate appetite and it did help somewhat. Hugs to you and your dad-Ann

    One other thought...
    the only thing I ever felt like eating after surgery was homemade milkshakes. My husband would make them with ice cream, whole milk, and fresh fruit. There's a lot of nice fruit available right now, maybe something like that would taste good to him. Frozen fruit works fine too, btw.
  • PhillieG
    PhillieG Member Posts: 4,866 Member
    Smoke Pot
    Then hide the goodies...
    It works wonders. WHY it's not legal, especially for cancer patients, is beyond me. Maybe if enough legislators needed it, things would change but I wouldn't wish it on them (maybe for 24 hours so they could take a few steps in our shoes...)
  • Doc_Hawk
    Doc_Hawk Member Posts: 685
    PhillieG said:

    Smoke Pot
    Then hide the goodies...
    It works wonders. WHY it's not legal, especially for cancer patients, is beyond me. Maybe if enough legislators needed it, things would change but I wouldn't wish it on them (maybe for 24 hours so they could take a few steps in our shoes...)

    My cynical side emerges
    I honestly believe that the reason it's not legal is because the big drug dealers pay off politicians to keep it illegal. Legalization would be devastating to their business.

    Wishing cancer on politicians is the same as wishing cancer on cancer.
  • thxmiker
    thxmiker Member Posts: 1,278 Member
    Nutrition
    Bananas, ginger, and gatoraid. Get him moving. No matter how bad I felt, once I got walking I felt much better.

    Best Always, mike
  • druidshadow
    druidshadow Member Posts: 85
    dose lowered
    my onc found out i could not eat and some other things and he lowered my dose and now i can eat and it cleared up most my others too, i was super sensitive to fu5. that lovely green meds help me too. make it legal
  • Brenda Bricco
    Brenda Bricco Member Posts: 579 Member
    I have always heard that
    I have always heard that chemo patients seemed to be able to handle things that are lemon flavored (the lemon water is a good idea). I love girl scout lemon cookies (actually most anything lemon). I hope you find something to spark his appetite.
    GOD bless you for trying so hard for your Dad.
    Brenda
  • annalexandria
    annalexandria Member Posts: 2,571 Member
    Doc_Hawk said:

    My cynical side emerges
    I honestly believe that the reason it's not legal is because the big drug dealers pay off politicians to keep it illegal. Legalization would be devastating to their business.

    Wishing cancer on politicians is the same as wishing cancer on cancer.

    We're voting on legalization here in WA this fall...
    if it passes, we'll be taking on the feds!
  • Doc_Hawk
    Doc_Hawk Member Posts: 685

    We're voting on legalization here in WA this fall...
    if it passes, we'll be taking on the feds!

    Good luck
    Hope you win both battles. I hate to see prudes dictate what weapons are at our disposal for this fight. Not to mention the wasted billions of dollars trying to fight an industry that could be a huge cash cow in tax dollars.
  • Maxiecat
    Maxiecat Member Posts: 544 Member
    I also found that drinking
    I also found that drinking through a straw helps me. I also suck on hard candies like Jolly Ranchers to help change the taste in my mouth. My dr also gave me a rx for magic mouthwash...insuranfe did not cover it..mbut it is worth every penny of the $65 it cost.