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  • Karen63
    Karen63 Member Posts: 25
    steved said:

    This is better than a psych consult!
    Sorry to find you here but in truth it sounds like you are in a position where a board like this can be of great value to you. I too have stage 4 cancer and in fact am also a psychiatrist in the UK. I am well down this journey having been diagnosed 8 years back and can understand the mental journey you are beginning to get your head around. In truth professionals can be helpful to some going through this but really what you need around you is people who you can talk to, off load to and can understand your situation which this board is great for. You also need time as it is all very early and new.

    Be patient. You may find that a bit down the track having a professional to talk to or even psychitric input may help but for now give yourself time to simply digest the huge change that has happened and adjust to the fact you have this diagnosis. By the sounds of your posts over the last fews days I can hear you are beginning to do that.

    Be patient.
    steve

    psych consult
    Steve: thank you. I was feeling adrift without seeing a psych until early June, but you are making me understand that it might be an advantage to settle down a bit first. I think I am beginning to understand my cancer diagnosis. I know the surgeon told me that I would need to stop thinking about the past and start moving toward the future (a great and caring surgeon) and I think I am beginning to manage that a bit. I am also beginning to laugh at some of the things that happen in life - even in context of cancer. I am beginning to get anxious about my liver surgery on Tuesday - but I guess that would be normal enough. Thank you for your support and hope you are also doing well -karen
  • bspangler47
    bspangler47 Member Posts: 145
    Karen63 said:

    psych consult
    Steve: thank you. I was feeling adrift without seeing a psych until early June, but you are making me understand that it might be an advantage to settle down a bit first. I think I am beginning to understand my cancer diagnosis. I know the surgeon told me that I would need to stop thinking about the past and start moving toward the future (a great and caring surgeon) and I think I am beginning to manage that a bit. I am also beginning to laugh at some of the things that happen in life - even in context of cancer. I am beginning to get anxious about my liver surgery on Tuesday - but I guess that would be normal enough. Thank you for your support and hope you are also doing well -karen

    Karen
    Hi Karen.

    My name is Barbara, and i no longer colorectal stage 3. Have a total of 5 kids, first 3 are 26, 23, 18, 12 and 20.

    Had my first surgery in March of 09. When I woke uo I was so pissed at the world, I didnt want to survive with they I was. I even seen drs in the hospital to speak to me but that didnt help. I would alo attended church, had people bring over food for us. friends came over to help etc. I also started to writing in a jorunal that help a great deat. There were time I would scream and yell. you are in my prayers

    please keep us posted u r in my prayers

    Barbara Spangler
  • Karen63
    Karen63 Member Posts: 25

    Karen
    Hi Karen.

    My name is Barbara, and i no longer colorectal stage 3. Have a total of 5 kids, first 3 are 26, 23, 18, 12 and 20.

    Had my first surgery in March of 09. When I woke uo I was so pissed at the world, I didnt want to survive with they I was. I even seen drs in the hospital to speak to me but that didnt help. I would alo attended church, had people bring over food for us. friends came over to help etc. I also started to writing in a jorunal that help a great deat. There were time I would scream and yell. you are in my prayers

    please keep us posted u r in my prayers

    Barbara Spangler

    diagnosis
    Thanks, Barbara. A journal is a good idea. I bought one and then couldn't make myself write. I will try again. I understand your anger, too. thanks so much - Karen
  • maglets
    maglets Member Posts: 2,576
    Karen63 said:

    diagnosis
    Thanks, Barbara. A journal is a good idea. I bought one and then couldn't make myself write. I will try again. I understand your anger, too. thanks so much - Karen

    journal
    karen a journal can be daunting at first. How could you possibly write down all the emotions you are feeling. At one point in my cancer journey I started to write down one thing I was grateful for on the day.....no matter how crappy the day was I would record a single smile a flower anything .....it kinda gets you out of yourself just for one second.

    also later it is great to record tests or meds or cea.....things you think you are going to remember but don't

    you are doing well kiddo...hang in

    mags