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Carl is at Peace

Carl_Renee
Carl_Renee CSN Member Posts: 84
in Colorectal Cancer #1
I come with a heavy heart today to let you know at 5:06 p.m. last night I watched my husband take his final breaths. With Inger sitting right next to him and me across the room by the window. I know time heals, I know he is no longer in pain from this awful disease, but that alone doesn't take away the great pain I feel.

Renee
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  • Minnesotagirl
    Minnesotagirl CSN Member Posts: 141
    #2
    My sympathy to you and your family
    Renee,

    I am so very sorry for your loss. Yes, time does heal, but allow yourself time to grieve. You have been through hell and back with Carl during treatment of this awful disease. He is at Peace with Christ our Lord and I hope you can be too. Arms around you from Minnesota on this very sad day for all of you. Prayers to you my dear.

    "Minnie"
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  • Lifeisajourney
    Lifeisajourney CSN Member Posts: 216
    #3
    Deepest Sympathy
    I can't imagine what words I could say to make you feel better. Just know your pain is felt and are thoughts are with you and your children. You are right, Carl is at peace. Bless you all. Pat
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  • PhillieG
    PhillieG CSN Member Posts: 4,866 Member
    #4
    I'm sorry for your loss.
    Peace be with you all...
    -phil
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  • toyfox
    toyfox CSN Member Posts: 158 Member
    #5
    Heartbreaking
    Your whole world has fallen apart. I know, I lost
    a 4 year old son from cancer. Right now the pain
    is almost unbearable but will ease with time.
    Will be praying for you and your family.
    Love Linda
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  • Sundanceh
    Sundanceh CSN Member Posts: 4,392 Member
    #6
    Condolences to You and Your Family
    I watched my wife's mom draw her final breath too...it is heartwrenching to witness.

    Just so very sorry, Renee for all that has happened to you. The time and emotions in the final days are extremely draining and exhausting...you gave all that you had to give - and so did Carl.

    Hoping that the coming days will provide a closure and a healing for you.

    -Craig
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  • LivinginNH
    LivinginNH CSN Member Posts: 1,456 Member
    #7
    Renee, I'm so very saddened to hear of Carl's passing. May you find peace and comfort in the days ahead. My deepest condolences to you and your family.

    With sympathy,

    Cynthia
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  • lauragb
    lauragb CSN Member Posts: 370 Member
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    Renee, I am so sorry for the loss of Carl, your life partner and children's father. It is hard but there is some peace in knowing he suffers no more. I am sending prayers, love and light to you in the coming months knowing this time will be difficult. Just know you are surrounded by care and love.

    Laura
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  • MrsJP
    MrsJP CSN Member Posts: 157
    #9
    Oh Renee
    Shedding many tears for you and your family. I am so very sorry for your hurt and pain. I pray for peace and healing for your family.
    Hugs
    jp
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  • Varmint5
    Varmint5 CSN Member Posts: 384 Member
    #10
    I am so sorry.
    Renee, I was where you are in 2000 when my husband, Bill, lost his battle with cancer. I am so sorry, for you, for Carl, for your families. You did everything you possibly could to help Carl win this battle. You will need time to heal and grieve. You've been through so much. www.widownet.org was very helpful to me after Bill passed away. It's grief support for widows and widowers. The members there know exactly what you are going through and will go through in the months ahead. I wish you peace and healing.

    Sandy
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  • Lovekitties
    Lovekitties CSN Member Posts: 3,364 Member
    #11
    Dear Renee
    Thank you for letting us know about Carl's passing.

    While the mind knows that the release from pain and suffering is a good thing, the heart only feels the loss.

    I pray that in time you and the children will be able to remember the times you all shared with Carl with smiles instead of tears.

    Please come back here to your cyber family when you need a boost or just want to talk. We love you.

    Hugs and prayers for you, the children and all the family.

    Marie who loves kitties
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  • pete43lost_at_sea
    pete43lost_at_sea CSN Member Posts: 3,900 Member
    #12
    god bless you
    dear renee,

    i'll be praying for you and your family at church this morning.
    godbless you and your kids.

    carl is at peace now.

    hugs,
    pete
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  • Carl_Renee
    Carl_Renee CSN Member Posts: 84
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    Varmint5 said:

    I am so sorry.
    Renee, I was where you are in 2000 when my husband, Bill, lost his battle with cancer. I am so sorry, for you, for Carl, for your families. You did everything you possibly could to help Carl win this battle. You will need time to heal and grieve. You've been through so much. www.widownet.org was very helpful to me after Bill passed away. It's grief support for widows and widowers. The members there know exactly what you are going through and will go through in the months ahead. I wish you peace and healing.

    Sandy

    of everything I have read
    Sandy of everything that has come my way since this happened last night...FBook was even flooded after I made 2 phone calls one to my sister in law so she could go be with my inlaws and one to another dear friend and they got it out before I could even make another call. Anyhow this website direction is possibly the best advice yet. Thank you very much.

    I do appreciate all the condolences

    renee
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  • Goldie1
    Goldie1 CSN Member Posts: 264 Member
    #14
    pete43lost_at_sea said:

    god bless you
    dear renee,

    i'll be praying for you and your family at church this morning.
    godbless you and your kids.

    carl is at peace now.

    hugs,
    pete

    Our condolences to you and your family.

    Ellen & Pat
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  • Cathleen Mary
    Cathleen Mary CSN Member Posts: 827 Member
    #15
    Goldie1 said:

    Our condolences to you and your family.

    Ellen & Pat

    So Sorry

    Everyone should have a Renee at their side. Thank you for sharing the journey with us. I pray that you and your family will know consolation of loving well. Blessings and peace.

    Cathleen Mary
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  • Semira
    Semira CSN Member Posts: 381 Member
    #16
    So sorry dear Renee
    silent greetings
    Petra
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  • Luv2lunch
    Luv2lunch CSN Member Posts: 270
    #17
    So sorry
    Renee,
    Mom and I are so very sorry for your loss. You and your family will continue to be in our prayers.
    Linda
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  • KathiM
    KathiM CSN Member Posts: 8,028 Member
    #18
    I know....you have a hole in your heart....
    ....try to fill it with the wonderful memories you two shared...

    BIG hugs, Kathi
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  • geotina
    geotina CSN Member Posts: 2,111 Member
    #19
    I am so very, very sorry.

    With deepest sympathy - Tina and George
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  • LAF53
    LAF53 CSN Member Posts: 60
    #20
    sorry
    I am so sorry for your loss. I will pray for your family.
    Lydia
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  • tommycat
    tommycat CSN Member Posts: 790 Member
    #21
    Now matter how much it's
    Now matter how much it's expected, it's always heartwrenching to lose a loved one. You were so loving and helpful to him.
    God bless Renee~
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