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My Beloved Don is Gone

rmitchell
rmitchell CSN Member Posts: 94
in Esophageal Cancer #1
Hello Friends, It is with a heavy heart that I tell you all that I buried my wonderful husband Don Yesterday. It has been a long, difficult journey the last few weeks. Watching him die a little every day was killing me. Now I know he is with the Lord and has no more pain. I hate this terrible Cancer. Please keep me in your thoughts and prayers as I know the days ahead will be hard. I will try to keep up with all of you. Thanks so much for all your kind words and prayers.
Reba
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  • sangora
    sangora CSN Member Posts: 213
    #2
    As You Say
    Don is in a much better place now. No more suffering and pain. I know your grief is heavy, but know that your are in the hearts and prayers of all of us. Will think of you at this difficult time. Sam Stage IV
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  • TRK411
    TRK411 CSN Member Posts: 18 Member
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    My Condolences
    You have my deepest sympathies during this time. Don is in a better place and free of pain. For whatever reason, I have found great solace in the poem below. Not sure who wrote it, but I like to read it when I think of my dad (who passed in July from EC)

    Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free;
    I'm following the path God laid for me.
    I took His hand when I heard Him call,
    I turned my back and I left it all.
    I could not stay another day
    To laugh, to love, to work, or play.
    Tasks left undone must stay that way.
    I found that place at the close of day.
    If my parting has left a void,
    Then fill it with remembered joy
    A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss
    Ah, yes, these things I, too, will miss.
    Be not burdened with times of sorrow;
    I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.
    My life's been full; I savored much
    Good friends, good times, a loved one's touch.
    Perhaps my time seemed all too brief;
    Don't lengthen it now with undue grief.
    Lift up your heart and share with me
    God wanted me now; He set me free.

    Take care,
    Tom
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  • TerryV
    TerryV CSN Member Posts: 887
    #4
    We are with you, Reba
    Reba,

    Our hearts are heavy with pain for your loss. Please find comfort and warmth in your memories of Don.

    We are here for you, Reba.

    with much love & hugs,

    Terry
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  • bingbing2009
    bingbing2009 CSN Member Posts: 177
    #5
    Heartfelt Sadness
    We are so sorry to hear of Don's passing. It is especially difficult to lose a loved one at the holidays. May God give you strength and comfort in the days ahead. You will be in our thoughts and prayers.

    Melinda and Vaughn
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  • JaneO
    JaneO CSN Member Posts: 40
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    So sorry for your loss...our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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  • JReed
    JReed CSN Member Posts: 428
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    Reba,

    We are very saddened for you and your family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

    Judy
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  • rmitchell
    rmitchell CSN Member Posts: 94
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    TRK411 said:

    My Condolences
    You have my deepest sympathies during this time. Don is in a better place and free of pain. For whatever reason, I have found great solace in the poem below. Not sure who wrote it, but I like to read it when I think of my dad (who passed in July from EC)

    Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free;
    I'm following the path God laid for me.
    I took His hand when I heard Him call,
    I turned my back and I left it all.
    I could not stay another day
    To laugh, to love, to work, or play.
    Tasks left undone must stay that way.
    I found that place at the close of day.
    If my parting has left a void,
    Then fill it with remembered joy
    A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss
    Ah, yes, these things I, too, will miss.
    Be not burdened with times of sorrow;
    I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.
    My life's been full; I savored much
    Good friends, good times, a loved one's touch.
    Perhaps my time seemed all too brief;
    Don't lengthen it now with undue grief.
    Lift up your heart and share with me
    God wanted me now; He set me free.

    Take care,
    Tom

    Thanks Tom That poem is
    Thanks Tom That poem is really a help. I know he is better off.
    Reba
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  • Freida
    Freida CSN Member Posts: 182
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    Reba
    I am so sorry for your loss, but hope that knowing Don's pain is at an end will bring a small measure of comfort to you. In time I hope the happy memories of Don will replace the painful ones of this horrible disease.
    Much love and hugs to you.
    Freida
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  • birdiequeen
    birdiequeen CSN Member Posts: 319
    #10
    Heavy heart
    So sorry to hear of your loss. I think I too am going to hold onto that poem Tom shared. It says so much in such a deep, powerful way.
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  • oriontj
    oriontj CSN Member Posts: 375
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    I will keep you in my prayers
    This is such a difficult time but the Lord knows your pain and will wrap his arms around you. Don is with him now and has no pain or fears.
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  • AngieD
    AngieD CSN Member Posts: 493
    #12
    oriontj said:

    I will keep you in my prayers
    This is such a difficult time but the Lord knows your pain and will wrap his arms around you. Don is with him now and has no pain or fears.

    Reba, you and your family have been in my thoughts and prayers all week and you will continue to be.
    Angie
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  • ritawaite13
    ritawaite13 CSN Member Posts: 236
    #13
    So sorry
    Oh Reba, I'm so sorry. Someone (I think Rose)just posted on this board the other day asking if anyone had heard from you.
    I too am fresh into this new life. My husband lived just 15 weeks after diagnosis and passed on Oct 24, 2011. I truly feel your pain. I know you're glad Don is no longer suffering but I also know what a hole his passing has left in your life. Somehow, we manage to get through it. Just take it day by day and breathe. I hope you have a good support system of friends and family nearby to lean on.
    Hugs and prayers for you,
    Rita
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  • jss2011
    jss2011 CSN Member Posts: 132
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    ritawaite13 said:

    So sorry
    Oh Reba, I'm so sorry. Someone (I think Rose)just posted on this board the other day asking if anyone had heard from you.
    I too am fresh into this new life. My husband lived just 15 weeks after diagnosis and passed on Oct 24, 2011. I truly feel your pain. I know you're glad Don is no longer suffering but I also know what a hole his passing has left in your life. Somehow, we manage to get through it. Just take it day by day and breathe. I hope you have a good support system of friends and family nearby to lean on.
    Hugs and prayers for you,
    Rita

    Prayers
    I am so sorry, My prayers are with you Reba.

    Julie
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  • Mazj
    Mazj CSN Member Posts: 42
    #15
    jss2011 said:

    Prayers
    I am so sorry, My prayers are with you Reba.

    Julie

    So sad to read
    Reba, I am so very sorry to hear of Don's passing. My thoughts are with you.
    Marilyn
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  • Donna70
    Donna70 CSN Member Posts: 852 Member
    #16
    Mazj said:

    So sad to read
    Reba, I am so very sorry to hear of Don's passing. My thoughts are with you.
    Marilyn

    so sorry Reba
    Dear Reba,
    Will definitely keep you in my prayers and thoughts, so sad to see this post. You and Don have been thru a massive struggle and it will take time to heal and have the good memories of Don come back. He is at peace and it is so hard to see someone go thru these last stages. Many hugs from afar. love and peace,
    Donna70
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  • Wpturner05
    Wpturner05 CSN Member Posts: 114
    #17
    We were in it together
    Reba,

    It seems we were in this together as I buried Kevin on the 22nd as well. I have an 8 year old and a 12 year old and it is beyond difficult to get out of the haze and care for them. I pray a restful and peaceful Christmas for you.

    Whitney
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  • chemosmoker
    chemosmoker CSN Member Posts: 501
    #18
    We love you both...
    Reba,
    you KNOW how much we love you sand now Don is at rests, and what a better time to go to be with the Lord than on Christmas...He will be having Christmas dinner with Jesus, God and all of our others beloved ones we have lost to this horrible EC.

    I love you Reba. Miss your posts already, and Don's, too.
    GO be what family and CELEBRATE Don's love, light, and life today. Don gave SO much of himself to so many, and THAT will NOT go unrewarded forever, Amen.

    I love you


    Eric
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  • MissusB
    MissusB CSN Member Posts: 111
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    chemosmoker said:

    We love you both...
    Reba,
    you KNOW how much we love you sand now Don is at rests, and what a better time to go to be with the Lord than on Christmas...He will be having Christmas dinner with Jesus, God and all of our others beloved ones we have lost to this horrible EC.

    I love you Reba. Miss your posts already, and Don's, too.
    GO be what family and CELEBRATE Don's love, light, and life today. Don gave SO much of himself to so many, and THAT will NOT go unrewarded forever, Amen.

    I love you


    Eric

    Hi Reba
    I lost my Bill suddenly one week ago today. Eric has it so right - we must celebrate their love, light and life. Watching them suffer was the hard part and we have to take comfort in knowing that we were there to love and support them for their journey "home". Love to you, my dear. Kim
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  • annalan
    annalan CSN Member Posts: 138
    #20
    So very sorry for your loss. My condolence to you and your family.
    Ann (2)
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  • rose20
    rose20 CSN Member Posts: 258
    #21
    Oh Reba, I am so sorry
    May you feel God's loving arms around you.
    You're in my prayers.
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