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Stage 4alexinlv said:My husband was just
My husband was just diagnosed stage iv. He is 46 I stalked mostly while he was stage 3 but now I need this family more than ever. (like right now at 6am when i should be asleep and cant sleep!) I need to hear the truths too and everyone is so willing to support eachother. take care, Alex
Hi alexinlv,
This is my first post, here goes.
My husband was diagnosed in Aug of this year. He is 46 also. I have had many sleepless nights. This is all so new to me. Sometimes I still can't believe it. He had his second round of chemo last Monday. So far he has done really well. We are meeting with his oncologist on next Monday to see if the treatment is working for him. The truth is hard to hear but know that I have cried and gotten some of my frustration out. I am ready to deal with what ever is next. For now, it is a roller coaster no doubt. My main goal is to be there for my husband in anyway I can. I do understand he is the one who is going through this, and I have to let him take the lead, so I'm not over baring. I love him so much and can't imagine being with out him. I pray for you and your family.0 -
Just wanted to congratulatecynthiapi40 said:Stage 4
Hi alexinlv,
This is my first post, here goes.
My husband was diagnosed in Aug of this year. He is 46 also. I have had many sleepless nights. This is all so new to me. Sometimes I still can't believe it. He had his second round of chemo last Monday. So far he has done really well. We are meeting with his oncologist on next Monday to see if the treatment is working for him. The truth is hard to hear but know that I have cried and gotten some of my frustration out. I am ready to deal with what ever is next. For now, it is a roller coaster no doubt. My main goal is to be there for my husband in anyway I can. I do understand he is the one who is going through this, and I have to let him take the lead, so I'm not over baring. I love him so much and can't imagine being with out him. I pray for you and your family.
Just wanted to congratulate you on your first post. We hope to hear more from you, especially the good news. Lisa0 -
Hi GoldieGoldie1 said:Thank you Pete...
I can't tell you and everyone else how uplifted these comments have made me feel today. It has helped immensely and I'm off to have a good day...and get my husband up and about!
Ellen C.
I just diagnosed in June this year I also have stage 4 with mets on my liver. I have been very lucky and have little side effects from the chemo. Although, the emotional ride has been a different story. Although I know the emotions are completely normal it's still strange when I cry in public. Please keep us updated on how your husband is doing and we will continue to support you.0 -
Hi judman....judman92 said:Hi Goldie
I just diagnosed in June this year I also have stage 4 with mets on my liver. I have been very lucky and have little side effects from the chemo. Although, the emotional ride has been a different story. Although I know the emotions are completely normal it's still strange when I cry in public. Please keep us updated on how your husband is doing and we will continue to support you.
My husband was diagnosed in June also. He went to the doctor because he thought he pulled a groin muscle (he drives a truck and does heavy lifting) so aches and pains are the norm. Anyway, what we thought was a muscle pull was the tumor pressing on the colon. How fast things can change in the matter of a day. So far, he has had little side effects from the chemo. It was the radiation (ended Aug 3rd) that hit him hard. Please, keep me updated on how your treatments are going and how you are doing! Thanks so much!
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Good advice...Kathryn_in_MN said:Welcome
I'm sorry you have a need for us, but so glad you found us and are ready to participate. A few things to remember: No question is a stupid question. You can vent here when you need to let it all out. None of us are medical professionals, and what we share is what we've learned from our own journeys. Overall this is a supportive group. Your husband's experiences may be similar to ours or not.
It is safest to not get too heavy into politics or religion here, but stick to subjects closely tied to colorectal cancer - save yourself a lot of drama!
and no drama! Thanks for your words of advice and support, I really appreciate it!
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Hi EllenGoldie1 said:Hi judman....
My husband was diagnosed in June also. He went to the doctor because he thought he pulled a groin muscle (he drives a truck and does heavy lifting) so aches and pains are the norm. Anyway, what we thought was a muscle pull was the tumor pressing on the colon. How fast things can change in the matter of a day. So far, he has had little side effects from the chemo. It was the radiation (ended Aug 3rd) that hit him hard. Please, keep me updated on how your treatments are going and how you are doing! Thanks so much!
Ellen C.
My husband was diagnosed in April with stage four CRC after thinking he had twisted his colon while doing some difficult house remodeling in the attic! Such a shock isn't it? This is our second time with a cancer diagnosis, Jake had Hodgkin's disease when he was 24 and went through ten months of chemo. This treatment is much easier to tolerate even though he is older, thank goodness. Hope all goes well for you. We are waiting for a scan on Monday to see how things are going.0 -
thank you. yep it's such acynthiapi40 said:Stage 4
Hi alexinlv,
This is my first post, here goes.
My husband was diagnosed in Aug of this year. He is 46 also. I have had many sleepless nights. This is all so new to me. Sometimes I still can't believe it. He had his second round of chemo last Monday. So far he has done really well. We are meeting with his oncologist on next Monday to see if the treatment is working for him. The truth is hard to hear but know that I have cried and gotten some of my frustration out. I am ready to deal with what ever is next. For now, it is a roller coaster no doubt. My main goal is to be there for my husband in anyway I can. I do understand he is the one who is going through this, and I have to let him take the lead, so I'm not over baring. I love him so much and can't imagine being with out him. I pray for you and your family.
thank you. yep it's such a crazy state to be in. I am trying to be strong and just want to be by his side. I feel so sad for him and it tears me up to see him suffer. he just finished his first round out of 4. it is such a roller coaster of emotions. today I feel
flat, dull, like I want to cry but I can't. frozen.0 -
I am also a caregiver.
Hello, I am my husband's caregiver, my husband was 46 when he was diagnosed with Stage 4 colon cancer with mets to the liver and lungs. I just want to tell you - that even though you are scared now, it does get better. You learn about the things you need to know. I am normally a very quiet and passive person, but seeing my husband in pain made me gather my courage up and ask questions. I want to give him the best chance of survival that I can. My husband is now 49 and is currently cancer free. He is still on chemo once every three weeks and will continue to be on it for the rest of his life. This is only a precaution as colon cancer is aggressive and his oncologist does not want it to return. We continue to plan our future together and decide what we will do during our retirement - I always tell him I don't care, as long as I'm with you. If you have any questions, what so ever please send me a message and I will try to answer what I can for you. My husband did have colon resection surgery, following by 12 treatments of aggressive chemo and that was 3 years ago. Good Luck, message me if you have questions.
Sandi0 -
Bow-WowGoldie1 said:YES...
that is exactly how I felt...thanks for letting me know that no question is too stupid and that I just have to ask it no matter what! And from reading these boards, I have found so many people are willing to share and that is a huge help and comfort!
Thanks for the warm welcome and give your choc lab a hug for me...we are a golden retriever family and the companionship of a warm, furry, friend, truly helps during this time too!
Ellen C.
Hi Ellen
Welcome! We're into golden retrievers as well. Our 1st one made it 13 beautiful years and he died of cancer himself, so sad, but he smiled even in his last hours till close to the end. A quick story, back before I was diagnosed, our golden, Sundance, used to lay his head around the intestinal area for long periods of time just sort of sad.
Would turn out that I had cancer and apparently he knew it long before us or the doctors did. When I got my 2nd recurrence in the liver, he began to lay his head in a funny position around my liver. I used to joke with me and say, "Sundance, does your papa have cancer again?"
Turns out I sure did - true stories. He was way ahead of his, my Sundance was. A faithful friend and companion.
We went 2 years before we could think about another one. We ended up getting another puppy about the time I got my 3rd recurrence. I was sick all of last year (he's about 21 months now) and we lost alot of time and he needs some guidance that I hope to provide him if I can stay better.
Did you ever see "Marley and Me?" Well, his name is Harley and he IS Marley all over:) This guy takes advantage of any mistake you make. Loves socks, shoes, underwear, toilet paper rolls, envelopes, remote controls, you name it. And he's so fast and quick, but I'm still smarter, LOL!
They are great dogs and our old Sunny actually understood sentences, I almost expected him to talk to me one day, he was that smart. Harley likes to sit and watch TV with me sometime. He loves animal shows, but has watched some baseball games with me and seems to 'get' something. It's funny watching his eyes.
A couple of weeks ago, we were watching where the dogs do the long jump in the water to see how far they go? He really perked up for that one and began barking and running up to the tv set. Too funny:)
I won't bore you with my cancer story other than to say I've had cancer 3x - beaten it 3 times and am 7.4 years out of diagnosis and still around. I'm sure we'll talk more as time goes by.
Best of luck!
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Hi Craig....Sundanceh said:Bow-Wow
Hi Ellen
Welcome! We're into golden retrievers as well. Our 1st one made it 13 beautiful years and he died of cancer himself, so sad, but he smiled even in his last hours till close to the end. A quick story, back before I was diagnosed, our golden, Sundance, used to lay his head around the intestinal area for long periods of time just sort of sad.
Would turn out that I had cancer and apparently he knew it long before us or the doctors did. When I got my 2nd recurrence in the liver, he began to lay his head in a funny position around my liver. I used to joke with me and say, "Sundance, does your papa have cancer again?"
Turns out I sure did - true stories. He was way ahead of his, my Sundance was. A faithful friend and companion.
We went 2 years before we could think about another one. We ended up getting another puppy about the time I got my 3rd recurrence. I was sick all of last year (he's about 21 months now) and we lost alot of time and he needs some guidance that I hope to provide him if I can stay better.
Did you ever see "Marley and Me?" Well, his name is Harley and he IS Marley all over:) This guy takes advantage of any mistake you make. Loves socks, shoes, underwear, toilet paper rolls, envelopes, remote controls, you name it. And he's so fast and quick, but I'm still smarter, LOL!
They are great dogs and our old Sunny actually understood sentences, I almost expected him to talk to me one day, he was that smart. Harley likes to sit and watch TV with me sometime. He loves animal shows, but has watched some baseball games with me and seems to 'get' something. It's funny watching his eyes.
A couple of weeks ago, we were watching where the dogs do the long jump in the water to see how far they go? He really perked up for that one and began barking and running up to the tv set. Too funny:)
I won't bore you with my cancer story other than to say I've had cancer 3x - beaten it 3 times and am 7.4 years out of diagnosis and still around. I'm sure we'll talk more as time goes by.
Best of luck!
-Craig
Your post made was my "good feeling" for the day! I have heard of dogs being able to detect cancer. Your Sundance must have known something was not quite right. It's amazing what dogs smell or even sense. I believe your good dog was trying to tell you something.
The author of Marley and Me was a columnist for our local Philadelphia newspaper. He use to write about Marley all the time. I even remember his column when Marley passed. So, I read the book and saw the movie. Marley wasn't bad...just misguided...lol. Harley sounds like a typical golden puppy...not happy unless they have a prize in their mouth.
My last two goldens were 8 and 13 when they passed away...both from cancer. Both of them were total loves and the only problem of the day was where they would nap. Now we have a 6 year old golden that we adopted when she was 13 months. Abby lived in 3 homes within her 1st year, big scar on her snout, and a little anti-social when she came to live with us. How she has blossomed over the years. Unlike my last goldens, she wants to go, go, go! Tennis ball will travel! I also watched the Purina water jump a few weeks ago and I thought, if I threw a tennis ball, Abby would jump that far too! She adores my husband and I think she knows he is sick. She always wants a cuddle or pet and is more than happy to wash his face whenever necessary.
Craig, believe me, hearing your cancer story would not bore me. My husband was just diagnosed in June and we would like to hear how people fought their way through. I hope we talk more...thanks so much!
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Hi Sandi...Sandi1 said:I am also a caregiver.
Hello, I am my husband's caregiver, my husband was 46 when he was diagnosed with Stage 4 colon cancer with mets to the liver and lungs. I just want to tell you - that even though you are scared now, it does get better. You learn about the things you need to know. I am normally a very quiet and passive person, but seeing my husband in pain made me gather my courage up and ask questions. I want to give him the best chance of survival that I can. My husband is now 49 and is currently cancer free. He is still on chemo once every three weeks and will continue to be on it for the rest of his life. This is only a precaution as colon cancer is aggressive and his oncologist does not want it to return. We continue to plan our future together and decide what we will do during our retirement - I always tell him I don't care, as long as I'm with you. If you have any questions, what so ever please send me a message and I will try to answer what I can for you. My husband did have colon resection surgery, following by 12 treatments of aggressive chemo and that was 3 years ago. Good Luck, message me if you have questions.
Sandi
I would like to message you but I am not sure how to do that...could you let me know what I have to do!
Thanks,
Ellen0 -
Hi Ellen...lesvanb said:A Belated welcome!
Glad that you found us and sorry you had to join our club. But we're friendly folk and it is great to have a support team who "gets it". You can click on my photo to read my story - also stage 4.
all the best, Leslie
Another belated welcome!! I have been away from the boards for a few days. It seems everybody already said what I wanted to say so I will just say "hey" for now. I am stage IV and dealing with a recurrance right now but all is going good. Take care.
Jennie0 -
Hey GoldieGoldie1 said:Hi judman....
My husband was diagnosed in June also. He went to the doctor because he thought he pulled a groin muscle (he drives a truck and does heavy lifting) so aches and pains are the norm. Anyway, what we thought was a muscle pull was the tumor pressing on the colon. How fast things can change in the matter of a day. So far, he has had little side effects from the chemo. It was the radiation (ended Aug 3rd) that hit him hard. Please, keep me updated on how your treatments are going and how you are doing! Thanks so much!
Ellen C.
My treatments are going well I have been through half of them. I am not currently doing any radiation and I have had minimal side effects. I just had a petscan and my liver tumors have shrunk 30 to 40% and my cancer marker went from over 600 to 56 this past week. Talk about having a great week after hearing that news. I hope your husbands treatment continue to have few side effects for him. My biggest thing is cold drinks and due to the effects of the chemo I have to drink everything at room temperature until about a week after my 5FU pump comes off. Thanks for the response and i will pray for your husband.0 -
Thanks for the reply...laurettas said:Hi Ellen
My husband was diagnosed in April with stage four CRC after thinking he had twisted his colon while doing some difficult house remodeling in the attic! Such a shock isn't it? This is our second time with a cancer diagnosis, Jake had Hodgkin's disease when he was 24 and went through ten months of chemo. This treatment is much easier to tolerate even though he is older, thank goodness. Hope all goes well for you. We are waiting for a scan on Monday to see how things are going.
and yes, it was a total shock! My husband took the pain in stride because he always has some kind of ache almost everyday. Please let me know how Jake's scan went last Monday...hope all went well.0 -
Hi judman....judman92 said:Hey Goldie
My treatments are going well I have been through half of them. I am not currently doing any radiation and I have had minimal side effects. I just had a petscan and my liver tumors have shrunk 30 to 40% and my cancer marker went from over 600 to 56 this past week. Talk about having a great week after hearing that news. I hope your husbands treatment continue to have few side effects for him. My biggest thing is cold drinks and due to the effects of the chemo I have to drink everything at room temperature until about a week after my 5FU pump comes off. Thanks for the response and i will pray for your husband.
so glad to hear good news...it makes my day. Yesterday, my husband started getting tingling in his hands and he also leaves his drinks to warm to room temp. Wears a glove to get anything out of the fridge or freezer. Lately, he has been feeling a lot of pain in his groin so the doc is sending him for a MRI of the pelvis and abdomen next week. Thanks so much for the prayers and take care!0 -
Hellen welcome , feel free to contact to us in any questionidlehunters said:Hi Ellen...
Another belated welcome!! I have been away from the boards for a few days. It seems everybody already said what I wanted to say so I will just say "hey" for now. I am stage IV and dealing with a recurrance right now but all is going good. Take care.
Jennie
you may need this I'd a very helpful family, your new cyberfamily!
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Hi Leslie...lesvanb said:A Belated welcome!
Glad that you found us and sorry you had to join our club. But we're friendly folk and it is great to have a support team who "gets it". You can click on my photo to read my story - also stage 4.
all the best, Leslie
absolutely... I find that it helps to read and talk to people that "get it"...and thankful too! I read your story and it amazed me. My husband and I are still on chapter 1 of his story but we will continue to fight on!
Thank you and take care,
Ellen C.0
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