Desperately in need of a friend!

pete43lost_at_sea said:

how many friends do you need ?
Hi Kim,

so sorry to hear about your dad.
your dads really lucky to have your love, just keep strong and give him a hug or two or three.
Also just relax, read and learn what you can hear and elsewhere.
You have least one new friend, reduce the number by one.

welcome aboard and post away,

Pete

Kim.............I am going to PM you my number.....
you reply back to me with yours....I won't call your Dad, he'll have to call me...I have talked with a lot of people in my situation and let them know that I will speak with them at any time about anything, I have not heard back from anyone, so whether he wants to talk about it is his call, most people don't because it only brings on bad emotions...He will have to face these things in the future head on, its better to know what to expect than to wonder and worry...My situation seems to be the same as his, and now Im on the other side of it...I am stage 4 and it did metastisis to the lung, but Im done with that too..I fully expect to live to be 120, I will tell you or him if he calls me it will be honesty, I won't tell him anything unless he asks me to, and if he asks I will not lie or make it sound better than it is, whatever it is, But I can guarantee you and him one thing....He will feel better knowing all about whats to be expected, then he can make an attack...My cell# is coming to you through pm...also my email address........buzz

Children are truly a GIFT
I can picture you sitting there at the computer typing and reading away, trying to help your dad. Your dad is truly BLESSED to have a child like you Kim. Keep up the good fight and NEVER give up.

There's some that might want to sugar coat things to make someone feel better, but I think from what I'm reading here (I'm pretty new to the community as well), you're going to get the unvarnished TRUTH... which is a GOOD thing Kim.

You can gain a wealth of knowledge from this community, and the plethora of resources available on the net. My wife spent HOURS reading everything she could find about colon cancer while I was in the hospital, and she was constantly surprising me whenever the doctor was talking with us by popping in questions about this treatment or this condition. I think a LOT of what she researched was her way of dealing with the situation...she felt that she had to be doing SOMETHING to help. But the side effect was that she educated herself and felt fairly confident about knowing what to expect and what to look for.

Knowledge is POWER. It's also an EXCELLENT way to fight fear, as most of the fear we face is the unknown. Once you've gained that knowledge, and you know what options are available to your dad, and HE knows what can be done, and what to expect, then you might find that this isn't quite the behemoth monster you and he thought it was

Pose any and all questions you and your dad have Kim... you've found one HELL of a good resource here... the voices of experience.

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Hi Kim,
Hi Kim,

I think it is terrific that you are helping your Dad. I know that is a great comfort to him at this difficult time.

This is my favorite group for support. I sign on several times a week and can always learn something and feel the love.

Before I found this site, I found others too which will gladly speak to your Dad. I have listed these in case you want to contact them. It was helpful for me too.

--- The Colon Cancer Alliance (CCA) is the oldest and largest national patient advocacy organization dedicated to ending the suffering caused by colorectal cancer. We will increase screening rates and survivorship by providing support and education and furthering research and advocacy efforts.
Contact Us

The Colon Cancer Alliance is managed by an experienced staff and a core of volunteer board members located around the country. Many CCA staff members have a personal understanding of colorectal cancer—as either a survivor or caregiver. Their experiences with the disease further their commitment to increasing prevention, raising awareness and providing support. CCA Toll Free Helpline --- (877) 422-2030

------- Cancer Hope Network - 1-800-552-4366

-----Cancer Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides free and confidential one-on-one support to cancer patients and their families. As our core offering, we match cancer patients or family members with trained volunteers who have themselves undergone and recovered from a similar cancer experience.

----If you are a patient or family member of a patient, we encourage you to register in our community. If you would like to be matched with a Support Volunteer, call 800-552-4366 or submit your match request online.

For patients, professionals and volunteers we offer a secured social network where people who are affected by cancer can exchange experiences and share thoughts. In short, we strive to make a difference in their fight against cancer using every means possible. We rely heavily on people like yourself to help spread the word and make our community relevant.

--- We help anyone affected by cancer — whether you have cancer or are a caregiver, family member or friend of someone diagnosed.
We help you understand your options, what to expect and what questions to ask.

--------And we offer one-on-one support all along the way.
Contact LIVESTRONG at 855.220.7777 or online to get free, confidential support for anyone affected by cancer.

I just thought I would give you this information too. It doesn't hurt to have several support areas.

Please keep us posted on your Dad and let us know how we can help.

Hugs,
Lizzy