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Skiffin16
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Hi all, just wanted to let you know that I'm alive and OK...

It's just been a rough week or two personally...

My sister Colleen that many of you have known has her own battles going on with cancer..., isn't doing so well. She went to a hospice a few days ago, last Dx with more than likely having only a few months left.

But that looks like it might be only days at this point. She's starting to have some mental laps and dillusions at times.

Please keep her and family in thought and prayer please...

She is my half sister, one of four that we only reunited through FaceBook the year after I was Dx. We met in 2010, her and her sisters had been looking for me for about the last twenty years.

They living in Ohio, me in Floirda, we haven't had the opportunity for much personal contact, but we all have a great relationship.

Not only that, but my mother has just been Dx with early stage Parkinson's. So I have also been dealing with that situation locally as well.

Please keep her in your thoughts and prayers as well.

I have been reading most of your postings, and replied to a few, but haven't been too motivated to reply to as many as would normally (abi-normally for me)... But on a positive note, the many that I have supported over the years have stepped up and are doing an awesome job of carrying forward the part of paying it forward.

I love you all, and am very proud of all of you, and thankful for all of you for being here, helping others and myself when needed.

I'm not signing off or anything, and intend to be as active as ever....for some that might not be a good thing, LOL...get over it... I don't plan on going anywhere for awhile.

For the rest of you... bawahahaha...

Best ~ John

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wondered if you'd gone on a long fishing trip.  But then saw on FB about your sister.  I'm sorry to hear that she has gone into hospice, but think how wonderful it is that you were able to connect and have some time getting to know one another.  Also  sorry to hear about your mom....

We'll keep the home fires burning for when you get back....

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to message you today as I was wondering where you had been!  I appreciate all the encouragement you have given me and I will be praying for you and your family.  I'm so sorry for all that you've had going on! 

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John,

Both happy and sad about your sister(s) and your Mom.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.  I am always afraid to write about my non-cancer personal life, but I have traveled (and I am traveling) your road and it is heart wrenching.

Now, about H&N Central, maybe when one of us is gone we could put a stamp across our avatar which says something like, “out to lunch”, “back later”, “on vacation”, “need a break”, just a  thought.

In the words of Sir Skiffin “Have an Abi-Normal Day”.

Matt

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Skiffin16
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I'll keep you posted on events....

Hopefully I can get through to Greta and let her know about this situation with CSN also...

JG

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wolfen
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Trouble, like grapes.............

My thoughts are with you and your family as you face these terrible circumstances. I also have a half-sister that I didn't know existed until I was about thirty and to this day, have never met. My heart breaks for you as you deal with your Mother's situation. Been there, done that. It is hard to watch your parent deteriorate.

We are here for you. Heaven knows, you have certainly been here for us.

Luv,

Wolfen

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Laralyn
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It feels like dealing with cancer and the aftermath is always accompanied with other challenges... like one "test" isn't enough! I'll be thinking of you!

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John,  Your sister and mother need you right now and your forum family will try to tend to what is needed until you return.  Just know that you are not replaceable.  You have planted the roots for an abi-normal family tree that has flourished in here.  Without you, it would not grow as well and the fruit it bears would not be as abi-normally-interesting.  So, of course you are missed when you are not able to post as often as usual.  You are being held closely in thoughts and if anyone wants to know where to find you, the first place to look is in Phrannie's pocket ...  she probably keeps a collection of your abi-normalisms in there.  I have a fishing buddy who uses some of what she catches to fertilize her garden which reminds me of how your fish tales nurture the discussions in here with hope for post tx happy activities.  Sending heartfelt sympathy as you focus your nurturing strength on your sister and mother.

Noellesmom
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I'm sorry for this difficult time for your family, John.  Praying for God's grace.

MarineE5
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John,

Prayers are Outbound. You'll do what needs to be done when it needs doing, that's your way......

My Best You, Your Family, and Everyone Here

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That sure is a lot for a family to deal with all at one time. Yell  I am glad you are fine.  Try to stay strong in spirit as well as body.

~S~

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you and your family will continue in my daily prayers. so sad you or anyone has to deal with problems. knowing you they are very grateful to have you helping. 

time for the rest of us to step up

thanks for the heads up. do what you need to as your priorities lead you. 

love you too

john 

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Thanks for checking in. i always wonder when folks quiet down and paray and hope for the best in their own situations. we'll be here iun abi-normal land when you are morea able to hover us folks. best to you, don.

katenorwood
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John,

I am saddened to hear about your sister.  My heart goes out to you all.  My Father also has been dx'd with parkinsons.  I'll be keeping your Mother in my thoughts also !  Hugs sent !  Katie

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To you and your family ....prayers and goooood mojo to all.

 

Linda

 

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Duggie88
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My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I am happy you did have the opportunity to reunite with your sister.

Take care

      Jeff

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michdjp
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My thoughts and prayers are with you And your family.  You are a wonderful person and your family is lucky to have you in their lives during such a trying time.  You have helped so many.

stay strong

michelle

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luv4lacrosse
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This site will always be here, so take some time for you. Prayers and mental support headed your way. 

Stay strong and god bless.

Mike

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CherieLW
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John,

I will defintely be keeping your sister and mother in my prayers.  What a rough time!  I hope things start looking up soon!  Sorry to hear about all the bad news, but hang in there!

Cherie

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hwt
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Prayers for you and your family. 

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and was wondering , I knew something had to be going on or you would have been on here helping others like you always do every day. I am so sorry to hear about your Mom and your Sister . Thanks for taking the time to post and let us know what is going on . My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family . I am hoping that the Docters can slow down your mom's Parkinson's since it was caught early .

Peggy

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fishmanpa
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JG,

I'm sorry to hear about the challenges you're facing. Positive thoughts and prayers to you and yours...

"T"

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Hey Buddy.....you got a full plate right now....but, you still manage to help us and also keep us up to date. You're a good man!

Sorry to hear about your sister and your mom. They are both, as well as you, are in my thoughts and prayers. 

Here if you need anything....vent, cuss, or just need to talk. You know how to get a hold of me. Laughing

Take care and God BLess,

~C

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John:

 

Haven't been posting lately myself but have been keeping up some.  I'm not going anywhere either.  So sorry about your sister and your mom and will be praying for them and their families as well.  And also you and yours! 3 years ago today we found out about Charlie's recurrence and this past Friday was our 38th anniversary but my sister and nephew came down on Friday and we met some friends of mine at the old courthouse in the square and rocked out to a tribute to the Beatles by the Abbey  Road Band.  It was a free concert in a summer series they do every year and it was really good.  Had a picnic supper and everything!  Have you been able to fish much with all the rain or are you like my Daddy was as long as it was just rain and no thunder and lightening if they were biting he stayed out there!  Take care and God Bless!

 

Jan (Basketcase)

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That Collie just caught my eye wearing a T-Shirt from my Alma Mater.  Wondering if his name is Good ole Rocky Top ??

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Hey John, I'm very sorry to hear about your sister's having to go into hospice, and your mom's development of Parkinson's.  With all of those issues to deal with of course you need to pull back and redirect your time and energy.  I have always found the presence of your comments, and fishey and sometimes tasty postings to be presents for us all.  Do what you need to do, and we will be here for you and with you as you handle these challenges for the loved ones in your life.  You have my heartfelt thoughts, and wishes.

PATRICK

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Thanks all....

It is very humbling to know that so many care about me and family and that you have my back....

John

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I have you and your familly in my thoughts and prayers. Stay strong for the familly- wishing you all the best possible outcome.

ILMM13
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Prayers being said for your mom and your sister.  

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jim and i
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I am praying for all of you. Keep your spirits up.

Debbie

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john, i'm so very sorry to hear about ur mom and sister.  i'm sorry for you having to deal w/so much at one time.  i will be praying for all of you.  take care and know that we are here for u.

hugs and prayers,

dj

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Sorry to hear about your family and will keep you and them in my prayers. My sister has had Parkinson’s for the last 10 years now. She is at the point she can’t do anything and to make it worse her husband died of a heart attack, he was her only income. Her son still lives with her and must now take over and provide for he needs.

 

Sometimes when we think we have it bad, there is always someone who has it worse. You can count on Hondo to keep you all in prayer my friend.

 

God be with you

Hondo

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D Lewis
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My thoughts are with you and your family members during these difficult times. I am so grateful for everything that you have done for the group, and for me. Let us know if there is any way we can help you.

Deb

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You got my prayers John as many as I can send up to the hig guy!

 

love u too,

Rachel

 

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